The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Amazing treat, guys! Michelle Dempsey-Multack, MS, CDS and I have a super interesting discussion about divorce, remarriage, coparenting, and our own childhood issues that led to where we are today! Michelle is an awesome resource for divorced parents. Follow her on instagram @themichelledempsey , buy her book here , listen to her podcast here , and get coaching from her here .

ALLOW FOR A LITTLE LEARNING CURVE AS I USE THIS NEW MICROPHONE, GUYS! :) If you feel your partner wouldn't have loved you as a shy kid, a weird adolescent, or a socially awkward young adult, or whatever your personal version is of these, then you are unlikely to feel truly loved by them now. Here's how this plays out in relationships that I see! By the way, I've started making podcast...

Chock full of concrete and practical tips that ONLY take a couple minutes (at least most of them) and can supercharge the connection in your relationship! Really pragmatic advice and great ideas for people who struggle to know what to do on a daily basis to keep the love alive. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get a...

A special treat! This awesome, fun and funny episode is super relevant for anyone who struggles with preoccupied attachment or with anxiety and overthinking! Dr. Marie Land, clinical psychologist, was a great guest. Be sure to check out her resources below and read her book when it comes out... it's called The Overthinker's Guide to Dating! Learn more about her: Overthinking with Dr. Marie...

This cognitive reframe can be transformational. It is very similar to my episode on the switch in your 50's from old young person to young old person. If you or your partner struggles with any chronic mental or physical health issue, this episode is for you! For the Midlife Women's Group: drpsychmom.com/mwg Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow...

Dr. Rachel Singer is awesome. She's a psychologist in my area and is a wonderful, kind, and intelligent therapist for anxious kids (and adults, and parents). This is an awesome conversation that really I did not keep on track even slightly because we had so much fun discussing our own experiences with anxiety in childhood and all about the SPACE program for kids. Parent resources:  https://www.spa...

Today's wonderful treat is an appearance from renowned dating guru Evan Marc Katz, became the world’s first dating coach in 2003, specializing in helping smart, successful women create lasting love. He is the author of four books, his Love U Podcast has over 3 million downloads and he has been featured in hundreds of media outlets, including Today, the New York Times, and the Wall St. Journal. Now...

Today's episode discusses what avoidant attachment looks like early on... which is useful if you've convinced yourself that your partner bait and switched you! Having an objective understanding of each other can transform relationships... and if you're dating right now, this gives you some red flags to look out for if you don't want to be a pursuer forever! Subscribe if you love th...

Today I'm joined by two wonderful providers we have at Best Life Behavioral Health: ⁠Paula Pate⁠ and ⁠Cat Roebuck⁠ . We do a deep dive into a couples therapy modality they both use that I don't know much about, differentiation-based sex and marital therapy, aka the crucible approach! This is a great way to watch Cat and Paula in real time if you are considering working with either of them individu...

Many people struggle with practical ways to enact some of my marriage tips, which is why I try to add in some very concrete strategy episodes. Here was going to be three direct and actionable tips to improve your date nights, and one that I couldn't help but add because it's such a common way that I see date nights go awry. Hope you enjoy, and here's the date night questions: https://www.drpsychmo...

Stop counting stuff up, whether it's chores or date nights or sexual encounters. This is literally killing any potential for closeness in your relationship. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Giving A Gift To Your Avoidant Partner Go So Poorly?" For my secret Facebo...

This is illogical. If you want to split everything exactly down the middle because "that's what would happen after divorce".... you've never been divorced lol. And also, this philosophy may be why your kids have trouble sharing! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Why Does Gi...

Straight talk on this common issue that I see in pursuer-distancer couples, especially preoccupied women with avoidant men. Often your issues with the family mask your deeper relationship issues. If you do successfully spend your time and energy to win them over... ironically you recognize that they weren't the issue at all. The fact that your partner didn't defend you was always the real issue. S...

Today I discuss the reasons that people are dishonest in therapy, how to reframe this, and a challenge if you're in therapy for your next session! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Marriage Isn't Supposed To Be THAT Hard!" For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've...

Many men underestimate how much of a turnoff defensiveness is to women. Even if a woman wanted to have sex with you that evening, an interaction where you are defensive will turn that incipient desire into a cold icy front. Defensiveness is a form of dishonesty, and dishonesty triggers a feeling of lack of safety in women, children, and other men as well. Nobody wants to be on your team in any way...

Some people are in a dynamic that's like Chat GPT... and they don't even know until it stops! Today I discuss who gets into this type of dynamic (on BOTH sides), and when it frequently ends. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Mortality Salience and Terror Ma...

You may know Heather Ray from the workshops and videos she's done for the practice: Lick It Right, Partner's Guide To Female Pleasure, and Blow His Mind (buy them here: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/videos https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/videos ). Or you might have done some intimacy coaching sessions with her. Or maybe this is your introduction to her and to the idea of a sexo...

Today I discuss when men who are late bloomers or "gentleman eunuchs" try to have wild and experimental sex in their marriages to compensate for not having had young, casual sex. As always, there is a healthy dollop of straight talk and reality in this episode, informed by my work with couples who struggle with this issue! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/...

I often see wealthier couples get a second home as a "fun new thing" to do as a family. At first they think of this extra space as a way to solve their unspoken problem of not wanting to spend time together, as they can take turns having some alone time at the second home. But then this "solution" often turns into a separation/divorce. Today's episode discusses who is likely to do this and what to...

Many people ask whether it's important for their therapist to have personal experience in the life area that they are working on (e.g., marriage, parenting, loss, etc). Here's my take on it, and why I always include a bit about it in the bios of my Best Life therapists and coaches ! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you&...

We say this about 1, 5 or 10 years... but what about 30? This is the central question of midlife and framing it this way can help you clarify your thoughts, values, goals, and life philosophy! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Do I Recommend Preventative Couples Co...

Today I have a treat... an interview with family law attorney, mediator, and divorced dad Evan Koslow. He handles complex divorce cases and answers all my questions about divorce, including "What actually is mediation?", "How often do you hear about narcissism in your practice?, "How confidential are attorneys really?" and "How did your own divorce change your perspec...

Many people discount the privilege of growing up with functional , "normal" parents. In today's episode, I read a comment from a follower which made me think about the need to do this episode on how difficult it is for adult children from nonfunctional homes, with abuse, neglect, addiction, or mental illness. Often, they compare themselves to kids from happy homes, which is a false c...

By request, a special episode on how I've seen ADHD manifest in women! Organizational issues, impulsivity, hyperfocused courtship and dramatic drop out of the honeymoon stage, and more! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent: "Chat GPT Has MASSIVE LIMITATIONS As A Therapist." For...

Today's episode discusses how midlife often makes you feel a sense of urgency... you know you don't have infinite time left on the planet, and you want to make the most of it. Here's how to use this realization to effect positive change, versus an unhealthy, impulsive "midlife crisis." Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll ge...