The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

If you originally met as friends, it can be difficult to transition into romance... but you usually have a strong foundation of mutual respect. Can you be attracted to someone you met as a friend? Can you fully transition into romantic partners, and if so, how? How does the honeymoon stage come into play in this dynamic? All this and more on today's episode! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!...

Financial control and abuse can be insidious. If your partner is the only one allowed to buy things or make decisions about how money can be spent, or if you have no idea how money is managed or what accounts you have money in, this episode is for you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/...

Often, men think that the woman "holds the power" if she has a lower sex drive... just like how women think the man "holds the power" if he has a lower desire to be emotionally close. The reality is that nobody is happy or feels powerful in an unhappy marriage, not the anxious partner or the avoidant one! Here's how to rethink this, as well as why it can be transformative t...

Remember, more women have sex when they don't want to than men are romantic when they don't want to be... because men more are avoidant. So here's what to think about if you think romance should be "organic"... based on what I've already taught you about responsive desire in women! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠h...

It doesn't really matter how hot your wife thinks you are, although you can certainly be hoodwinked by an entire industry looking to tell you that becoming hotter will lead to more sex. Here's why and how attraction doesn't matter... and the case where it does. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh...

Whenever I post about the incendiary idea that humans age and drives decline, some women say they are more comfortable now than when younger, which can compensate. In this episode, I discuss high vs low libido women over time, and drive over time as well. As usual, join my Facebook group if you want to see where some of these podcast topics originate! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Many preoccupied attachment people think they need to develop extra hobbies or travel more or make themselves "more interesting" in order to attract people or maintain the interest of their spouse. This is not accurate. Do things you want to do if you want to attract people who value you for you! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https:...

This is a huge waste of the only time you have on this planet. Listen up for what you're really fighting about and how to think about it differently. This went longer as expected as I touched on individual-level, couples-level, and even societal-level reasons for these types of arguments!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.s...

It's the era of no touch! Women who feel this way are now extolled in the media. Why this hurts marriages... but also individuals, and how to situate this in the context of social trends. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you&#...

I have long noticed that guys who remarry women with kids get a lot of love from their wives, and this topic just came up in my Facebook group as well. And it's my own situation, fwiw! What is the reason, and how can you understand it in a way that helps you get the same love from your wife if you aren't remarried? Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

The prime years of your life can look different based on your personality, gender, and values. Here is how nostalgia for your "prime" looks for many men and women I see in my practice, and how this impacts their relationship in different stages. Also, what if you didn't feel you had a prime? Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pod...

Men in earlier generations admitted this freely. Here's why they don't anymore! Included: The Coolidge Effect, testosterone, porn, and more! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most rec...

Sometimes preoccupied attachment guys use my podcasts to tell their wives how it is normal for them to be super invested in their sex lives because sex is a proxy for intimacy and connection. But keep in mind that connecting with your wife ALSO shouldn't become a central and defining obsession! NO EXCEL SPREADSHEETS ARE HEALTHY, whether you're documenting date nights, conversations, or sex...

If you're finding this very difficult, then here's a breakdown of why and what to do! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Sulking When You Don't Ge...

Some guys go beyond "working on their marriage" and think they can somehow "hack" their wife to make her constantly desire them. This is silly and makes your wife think of you like a child. Here's how this dynamic plays out and why it is one of the worst things you can do! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spoti...

Well, I guess you'd have to ask yourself... what is he getting in bed? This episode includes a whole bunch of extra info and includes various situations where your husband might want to think deeper about why he is unhappy! (And some situations where almost anyone would be unhappy.) Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/...

Someone asked, "As the higher drive spouse in my marriage I do most of the initiating and hear “no” pretty frequently. Some no’s feel a lot more like a rejection than others. This is usually when they are accompanied by “we just had sex 4 days ago, you’re insatiable,” “you just have a one-track mind,” “you should just take care of things yourself,” “maybe if you had done [insert chore or crit...

What can you do RIGHT NOW to make this an awesome Valentine's Day, and why "Hallmark holiday" is a foolish term that translates to "I'm closed minded, difficult, and avoidant." Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll...

If you use confident momentum, your wife will have sex... You're cultivating that culture! When in Rome... Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Why Your Partner Sends...

Listen to this episode to save you from later heartache!! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Why Your Partner Sends You So Many Memes And Videos"! For my secret Fa...

I'll tell you what they think it means... but why if I were your therapist, I would tell you to watch out! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "Why Your Partner Sends Y...

Doing chores may not literally act as foreplay, but it certainly does turn women on in one sense. Listen and learn! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes! Most recent subscriber episode: "If Your Wife Has Neve...

You may be able to tell what I think of this from the title but listen up to hear why waiting months to have sex with a new partner is not very smart if you value sexual compatibility long term! Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  and you'll get all my awesom...

In a post about why some women get "treated like princesses" ( https://www.drpsychmom.com/treated-like-a-princess/ ) I discuss how some women feel that it is random and unlucky that they don't get treated well by men, or that women who do get treated well by men are somehow exploiting these men. In fact, people get treated well if they are good partners in healthy relationships. Ther...

This is very common, although people tend to be surprised by it. One person works on their anxiety, anger, depression, or anything else, and instead of the marriage getting better... it implodes! Here's why this happens, the movie I recommend about it, and what to do about it. Subscribe if you love the DPM show!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmo...