The Divorce Decision Podcast

Is the fighting in your marriage normal — or is it a sign of something deeper?   Today, I'm answering one of the questions I get asked most by walking you through three simple signs to check in your own relationship. You'll learn: ·       Why the topic of a fight matters less than whether it stays on topic — and what it means when small arguments turn into old, unrelated hurts ·       Th...

What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn’t the topic you keep fighting about… but the pattern you fall into every time you try to talk about it? In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast , I’m breaking down the pursuit-withdrawal cycle — also called the demand-withdraw cycle — and why it can quietly create resentment, loneliness, panic, shutdown, and emotional distance in a marriage....

Is your marriage going through a hard season, or are you standing at a real crossroads? In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, Kari Hoskins helps you tell the difference between a temporary rough patch and a deeper marriage crisis. When you’re unhappy, disconnected, resentful, or emotionally exhausted, it can be hard to know what is actually happening. Is this stress? Is it burnout? Is i...

Unhappy marriages don’t usually fall apart overnight. They often deteriorate through small, repeated patterns that become part of everyday life. In this episode, Kari shares three things to stop doing if you’re unhappy in your marriage: belittling or demeaning your partner, keeping score, and avoiding conversations when issues are still small. These habits may feel understandable when you’re hurt...

In the final episode of the Can This Marriage Heal? series, Kari tackles the question that keeps people up at night: If real change were possible, would you actually want to stay? This isn't a question about whether your marriage can be fixed. It's a question about whether you want it to be — and those are very different things. In this episode you'll learn:  The difference between...

Can Your Marriage Be Saved? One Thing You Can't Ignore Are you wondering if your marriage can be fixed — or if it's already too late? In this episode of the Divorce Decision Podcast, host Kari Hoskins digs into one of the most important questions you need to answer before you can even think about saving your marriage: Is there still respect between you and your spouse? You might not feel...

If you're wondering whether or not your marriage can be repaired, this episode is for you.  In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast , Kari Hoskins begins a 3-part series on one of the biggest questions couples face when their marriage is in crisis: Can this marriage actually heal? Part 1 focuses on ownership. When one spouse wants to repair the marriage and the other is unsure, it can...

What do you do when divorce has been brought up or just decided on but you’re still living together? This is one of the most emotionally confusing stages of the divorce decision. You may still be sharing a bedroom, parenting together, eating dinner in the same kitchen, or managing bills and errands — but underneath all of that, the marriage feels uncertain. In this episode of The Divorce Decision...

Should you stay married, separate, or get divorced? Most people think the divorce decision has only two options: stay or leave. But the truth is, the decision is usually much more nuanced than that. In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast , Kari Hoskins walks through five options people often have when they are questioning their marriage. Instead of rushing toward a black-and-white answer,...

Have you been secretly unhappy in your marriage but unsure how to tell your spouse? In this episode of T he Divorce Decision Podcast , Kari Hoskins talks to the spouse who has been carrying private pain, resentment, loneliness, or discontent for months—or even years—without knowing when or how to finally say it out loud. Before you say divorce, there may be an honest conversation that needs to hap...

Do relatively small things that your spouse does or says create big feelings inside of you?  Is it normal for you to feel upset, angry, annoyed  or some other negative emotion towards your spouse regularly? If you answered "yes" to either of these questions, you might have fallen victim to this subconscious thought pattern making your daily life feel worse.   In this episode of The Divor...

In this episode of The Divorce Decision Podcast, I talk about a common struggle people face when they’re trying to decide whether to stay in a marriage or leave: the pressure to justify their decision to other people. I explain why that pressure can be so damaging to your clarity, especially when family or friends want answers, have opinions, or expect your choice to make sense to them.  I also sh...

In this episode, I tackle one of the most painful and often invisible relationship struggles: feeling lonely in your marriage.  And I’m not just talking about being physically alone. I’m talking about feeling emotionally disconnected, unseen, unheard, and like you’re living life next to your partner instead of with them. I break down how loneliness in a marriage happens over time, often through sm...

Is your relationship affecting you more than you realize? In this episode of Lucky in Love , I break down 3 sneaky signs your relationship is taking a toll on you—mentally, emotionally, and even physically. If you feel tense when your spouse walks into the room, notice that your patience for everyone else is getting shorter, or find yourself daydreaming more about being alone than reconnecting, th...

In this episode, I'm breaking down a deceptively simple tool that can change the emotional temperature of your marriage fast: the 3% Rule .  If your partner is “97% responsible” for what’s wrong, where is your 3% —the part you can own, influence, and change? This isn’t about taking the blame or excusing bad behavior. It’s about taking responsibility in a relationship in a way that reduces res...

In this episode, Lucky in Love, I’m breaking down how sex quietly turns into a chore in long-term relationships—and how to start fixing it fast.  If you’re in a dead bedroom, a sexless marriage (or nearly sexless relationship), or struggling with mismatched sex drives (a desire discrepancy), this episode will help you understand why your sexual desire may be fading—and what to do to fix a dead bed...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, we’re talking about the sneaky relationship habit that quietly pulls couples apart: passive-aggressive behavior.  Not the “big blow-up” fights—more like the slow drip of little moments that leave your partner feeling tense, guarded, and emotionally unsafe over time. And the worst part? A lot of us don’t even realize we’re doing it… or how much it changes the way o...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, I’m talking about the one thing almost every divorce has in common—and it’s not what most people assume. Most marriages don’t end because of one dramatic moment. They end because of tiny turning points—small decisions that quietly change the direction of the relationship… and then get repeated until distance feels normal. I share a personal story from my first mar...

Is your partner a chronic worrier or do they struggle with anxiety?  In this episode of 'Lucky in Love', we discusses the often overlooked impact of anxiety on relationships. I emphasize that anxiety affects not only the individual but also their partner, leading to exhaustion and frustration. Through real-life examples, I explains the withdrawal-pursuit cycle that can develop in anxious...

Have you ever led with sarcasm instead of just saying what you wanted or needed?  Started a fight you didn’t really want by asking a question you already knew the answer to— just to prove a point? Or began the conversation with a “joke” that wasn’t really a joke - or if your significant other does— this episode of Lucky In Love is for you.  I’m breaking down why we pick fights we don’t actually wa...

Do you have a mind-blowing sex life? Do you want one? In this episode, we are talking about common problems couples struggle with when it comes to sex.  We’ll talk about pressure, resentment, desire gaps, and the quiet patterns that shut sex down… and then we’ll get into some practical, real-life suggestions that help sex and intimacy feel connected, playful, and yes—spicier. This episode starts m...

In this episode of Lucky in Love , I'm breaking down the sneaky, often-missed signs your partner is unhappy in your relationship —even if you feel fine.  I  explain how mismatched expectations, unresolved resentment, and outside stress can quietly widen the gap between you, showing up as pulling away from rituals, more solo time, short answers, less affection, and a fading sex life.  You’ll l...

When your significant other says, “I’m unhappy,” it can feel like a gut punch. In this episode, I break down exactly how to respond—without panicking, dismissing, or scrambling. Learn the three-step framework: take it seriously, get curious and listen, then create a real plan of action together. What You’ll Learn Why “panic or brush-off” responses make things worse The mindset shift: unhappy ≠ out...

I’m sure you’ve heard it: “You two just need more date nights.” It’s well-intentioned advice, but when a marriage or relationship is struggling, it can actually make things worse. In this episode of Lucky in Love , I’m breaking down why more dinners out and weekend getaways won’t fix what’s really going on underneath—and what to do instead. Because the truth is, the problem usually isn’t how much...

Have you ever been stuck in gridlock with your partner or spouse? Unable to find a solution you can both agree on?  Instead of getting stuck in right-vs-wrong battles, I teach you how a simple mindset shift allows you to hold two truths at the same time — creating space for connection, collaboration, and creative solutions. We will talk about how either/or thinking fuels defensiveness, resentment,...