The Divorce Decision Podcast

In this episode of Lucky in Love, I'm counting down the 7 little phrases that can blow up your arguments—and what to say instead.  These may seem small in the moment, but they either escalate conflict or chip away at your connection in ways that stick long after the fight is over. I’m sharing why each phrase is so damaging, the deeper emotions that often drive them, and—most importantly—simpl...

Accidentally push your partner’s buttons? You’re not alone. In this episode of Lucky in Love , I share what to do (and not do) when your partner or spouse is triggered, why button-pushing damages trust and intimacy, and how to calm things down, reframe the conversation, and rebuild connection. 👉 Grab the free Trigger Reflection Guide at kahoskins.com Should We Get A Divorce Quiz:  https://kari-ho...

Do you lose your sh*t when your partner says or does something that triggers you? Yep, the struggle is real. In this episode we talk about my 3 step process of keeping your cool when your partner hits a nerve. You'll learn why certain words, tones, or behaviors can send you into an emotional spiral, how past experiences shape your reactivity, and why some personalities are more sensitive than...

If you're tired of walking on egg shells. If you are feeling disconnected or you simply want a stronger connection this episode is for you. These phrases can create powerful shifts in how connected your partner feels to you. These are everyday words that say, “I see you, I care about you, and I’m with you.” When used with intention, they can bring you closer and strengthen the heart of your r...

Feeling misunderstood in your relationship? You might be falling into the mind- reading trap—expecting your partner to know what you need without saying a word.  In this episode, we uncover three signs you've fallen into this trap, and the signs might surprise you.  You’ll learn how to clearly express what you need, stop guessing games, and rebuild emotional connection through honest communic...

You’re not crazy—sometimes it really does feel like your partner isn’t hearing you. But what if the problem isn’t what you’re saying... it’s how you’re saying it? In this episode, Kari breaks down the art of reframing—how to say the same thing in a way that actually gets through. From calling out common communication landmines to showing you exactly how to rework those heated phrases, you’ll walk...

Every couple argues—but what really matters is what happens after. In this episode, we explore the power of repair rituals : those small, intentional gestures that help you reconnect after a fight. Whether it’s a hug, a note, or a shared laugh, these rituals create emotional safety and prevent lingering disconnection. You’ll learn: Why lack of repair—not conflict—is what truly damages relationship...

Is your relationship starting to feel a little…meh? You’re not alone—and it’s not a sign you married the wrong person. It is a sign that you might be stuck in a relationship rut. In this episode, we're talking about what really causes that blah feeling in long-term love (hint: it's not just time), why it can be more dangerous than you think, and—most importantly—how to shake things up wi...

In this episode, we’re talking about what actually happens in your body when you get emotionally triggered—and why it becomes so hard to stay calm and present in the heat of a disagreement.  Kari breaks down what it means to become dysregulated, how your nervous system flips into survival mode, and most importantly—how to get back to calm fast. You'll learn 5 simple, science-backed strategies...

In this episode we talk about how to the tell the difference between a relationship that can be saved and one that probably can't. I share with you 3 questions to ask yourself if you're feeling stuck and unsure if your marriage is fixable.  I also share 6 signs that repairing the relationship will be more challening.  This episode will provide you with clarity and insight into what it re...

In this episode, Kari Hoskins tackles one of the most maddening relationship dynamics: what to do when your partner completely shuts down and refuses to communicate—a pattern known as stonewalling. Kari breaks down why people stonewall (spoiler: it’s often not about you), what it looks like, and why it’s one of the top predictors of divorce. She dives into the damaging Pursue-Withdraw cycle, offer...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, we’re diving deep into the sneaky world of self-fulfilling prophecies in relationships. Ever feel disconnected from your partner and then catch yourself acting distant too? That’s not just a mood—it’s your brain quietly sabotaging your connection. Kari breaks down how thoughts like “They don’t care,” “I feel alone,” or “We’re growing apart” can spiral into real di...

Rituals aren’t just routines—they are powerful ways to deepen connection and strengthen your relationship. In this episode of Lucky in Love, Kari shares how simple, intentional rituals can prevent “roommate syndrome,” enhance intimacy, and even help couples recover from conflict faster.  She reflects on her own experiences, from childhood observations of her parents’ rituals to the intentional tra...

In this episode of Lucky in Love , we're diving into a crucial but often overlooked topic: the early warning signs that your relationship might be heading toward trouble. I’ll walk you through eight telltale signs of emotional disconnection—ranging from increasing criticism and lack of meaningful conversation to avoidance and fantasizing about leaving. Many couples don’t recognize these red f...

In this podcast episode, Kari Hoskins discusses practical strategies for dealing with a partner or spouse’s anger in a relationship. She provides five essential dos and don’ts, offering advice on how to maintain calm, avoid escalating situations, and communicate effectively during moments of anger. Kari shares insights on identifying underlying emotions like frustration or stress that can trigger...

n this episode, Kari Hoskins tackles a common dilemma many face in relationships: the thought that breaking up might be the key to happiness. She argues that this mindset often leads to confusion and overlooks the more essential question to ask—one that promotes clarity and emotional growth. Kari introduces six powerful happiness habits to help listeners improve their well-being, emphasizing perso...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, we break down the six essential skills that can make or break a relationship: emotional regulation, mental flexibility, vulnerability, impulse control, perspective-taking, and effective communication. Learn why these skills are crucial for building trust, resolving conflicts, and strengthening your bond with your partner.  How many of these skills do you have? Tak...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, we dive into the topic of boundaries in relationships. What are boundaries, and why are they so important? We discuss the telltale signs that your relationship might need boundaries, practical tips for setting them, and how they can strengthen your connection with your partner. Whether you're in a new relationship or years into one, this episode is packed wit...

Struggling with an annoying family member? In this episode of Lucky in Love, we dive into the common habits that make certain relatives so hard to deal with, uncover the reasons behind their behavior, and share three practical strategies to help you navigate the holidays with less irritation. Should We Get A Divorce Quiz:  https://kari-hoskins-coaching-llc.kit.com/9e533cdd68 Instagram: https://www...

In this episode of Lucky in Love, we dive deep into how stress impacts your relationship. You will learn about the different types of stress that can sneak into your life, why we tend to act out when overwhelmed, and how to complete the stress cycle to stay emotionally balanced. Plus, discover the secrets to having a stress-reducing conversation that strengthens your connection. Whether you'r...

In this episode, we explore four common listening mistakes that can damage your long-term relationship. Effective communication is key to any successful partnership, but these listening shifts can create distance, misunderstandings, and conflict. https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about...

  In this episode, we explore the surprising risks of relationships that seem too peaceful. We learn how avoiding conflict can harm your relationship and why healthy disagreements are essential for growth and understanding.  If you’ve ever thought never arguing is a sign of success, this episode will change your perspective—and your relationship—for the better! Should We Get A Divorce Quiz:  https...

In this episode, we discuss 3 powerful questions that can be a game changer for your relationship.   You will learn:  why these questions are game changers  and how to use them according to how happy (or unhappy) you are in your relationship.  https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about ht...

In this episode, we discuss how your language influences and shapes your reality.    You will learn: how language affects the way you experience your life and relationship how to examine the language you're  frequently using how subtle changes can help you have better daily experience  how to use language to keep your relationship on track.  https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ http...

In this episode, we discuss six effective strategies to enhance communication and foster vulnerability in your relationship.  You'll discover practical tips for creating a safe space for open dialogue and building trust with your partner. https://www.instagram.com/karihoskinscoaching/ https://www.facebook.com/kari.lifecoaching/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4A7XJcQEYfTh3E43IIw7Bg/about ht...