The Dildorks

This week, a conversation about denial kink devolves into a wide-ranging discussion of gendered sex narratives, the kinky legacies of trauma, and the Big Nut.   Orgasms vs. Other Stuff | Enough to Make You Blush | (Lack of) Power | Motivation & Specialness | Big Shiny Stakes | Self-Worth & “Deservingness” | Family Influences | Working Toward a Reward | Healing | Topping | “Throw ‘Em a Bone” | “Men...

What if celebrity crushes can be healthy, actually? This week, we discuss some of the benefits of parasocial relationships, for people on both sides of the slash.   Masculinity in the Sex Shop | Benefits for Crush-er | Emotional Energy | Low Investment | Is It New? | The Tragedy of Heterosexuality | Dead Famous | Stalkers | Benefits for Crush-ee | Motivation & Inspiration | Needing Reassurance | F...

This week Kate and her spouse mb discuss the politics and philosophy of No Nut November, and how it compares to chastity play.   NNN vs. Chastity Kink | Greater Purpose | Love & Affection | “Don’t Think About It” | Teasing | Sleep Hygiene | Insomnia | Working Out | Flagging | Unusual Turn-Ons | Concentration | Willpower & Inescapability | Political Spectrum | NNN’s Far-Right Roots | Locktober | Nu...

We’ve experienced parasocial relationships from both sides of the coin, so this week we’re discussing our experiences with this sometimes-nice, sometimes-yikes type of attraction.   That Fuckin’ Election, Man | People vs. Characters | “Mainstream” Pop Culture | Presumed Intimacy | Social Staircase | Is It A Problem? | Avoiding Vulnerability | Manic Pixie Fucktoy | Tech Adaptations | Crushworthy Tr...

Happy Halloween! This week we’re discussing our favorite fantasies outside the realm of realism.   Fantasies Changing Over Time | Impossibilities | Tropes & Genres | Hypnosis | Being Watched | Magic vs. Medicine | Mind-Reading | Fairies | Dragons | Love Potions | Settings & Mechanics Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our priv...

We’re taking the week off, so here’s the full, previously-unreleased conversation we had when Kate interviewed Billy for Making Magic in September of last year! We touched on the Magic Wand’s role in queer sex, trans sex, porn, kink, and our lives as a whole.   First Memories | Current Relationship to the Wand | Aesthetics | Porn | Conducting Vibrations | Dysphoria | Trans Sex | Queer Sex | “Best”...

This week, we dig deeper into the fear of rejection, sharing some ways we cope with this fear in our own lives and discussing how cultural and hormonal factors can influence it.   Asking for Reassurance | Self-Soothing | What’s “Too Much”? | Incels | What Does Sex “Mean”? | Hormones | Confidence & Self-Awareness | Vote for Making Magic! Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a...

Halloween is coming up, so we decided to talk about fear… of rejection!   Fear Fluctuations | Self-Soothing | Vulnerability Points | Pandemic Changes | Building Resiliency | What Are We Afraid Of? | Scarcity Mindset | “Hey, Fuck You!” | Rejecting vs. Rejected | “Beggars Can’t Be Choosers” | Guilt vs. Shame | Non-Monogamy | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Vote for Making Magic! Credits: Music by PR...

Sadists get a bad rap sometimes, so this week we’re discussing some of the things we love about them.   Stigma | Consent | Emotional Complexity | Intimacy & Vulnerability | Fantasy vs. Desire | Empathy & Understanding | Trust & Holding Space | Communication Tools | Joy Over Normalcy | Comedy vs. Psychodrama Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show an...

This week Billy chats with his partner, Dee Darkholme , about their shared love of cannibalism kink.   Cannibalism Is Romantic | Obsession & Limerence | Butchering & Preparing | Silence of the Lambs | Primal Mauling | Vore & Tinies | Media | Cannibalism: A Perfectly Natural History Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our privat...

Friend of the show Mx. Nillin Lore has a new book out called How Do I Sexy?: A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers , so this week we spoke with them about trans sexuality, furries, body modifications, and more!   How Do I Sexy? | ‘Own Voices’ Trans Art | I Saw the TV Glow | Beacons of Permission | Trans Joy | HRT | Don’t Have to Hate It to Change It | Good vs. Bad Doctors | Body Mods | Disturb th...

This week, we discuss how we’d prepare for a first date, a threesome, a first sex/kink conference, and a new crush, in honor of National Preparedness Month.   Why Prepare? | Managing Anxiety | Neurodivergence | First Dates | Conversation Topics | Sex on the First Date | Condoms & Vibrators | Threesomes | First Con | Oncoming NRE Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron...

Can people-pleasers be into service kink? This week, we’re discussing our evolving relationships to providing and receiving service (sexual, domestic, and otherwise) within kink dynamics.   Trauma & the Past | Explicit Instructions & Praise | Defining Service | Intentionality | Anxiety & Neurodivergence | Misdirected Service | Turn-On vs. Love Language | Purpose & Meaning | Intimacy & Being Seen |...

Can you believe we’ve done 400 episodes?! This week, we look back at some of our old “hot takes” and see whether we still agree with them.   Vulnerability | Categories | Friendship | Things We Hate | New Crush Energy | LGBT | Kate’s Favorite Episodes | Dating Vanilla People | Scheduling Sex | Growth Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get ac...

Vore is one of the most interesting and fantastical kinks out there, and this week we’re doing a deep-dive on it while continuing to discuss animated porn. Devil’s Cookie | Vore | Horror | Genital Transformation | Cis Men Writing Women | Swallowing | Cock Vore | Death By Pussy | Gender Politics | Cute Aggression | Spit | Stigma & “Weirdness” Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Bec...

Is animated porn as hot as “the real thing”? Sometimes it’s even hotter! This week we’re discussing what animated porn can do that live-action porn can’t, and the elements we most love to see in these clips.   Curating Porn | Why? | Wet Dreams | Authenticity vs. Acting | Neurodivergence | Cartoonishness | “Oopsie” Series | Campiness | Sexting with an A.I. | Stuffed | Stuffed 2 | Tentacles | Mime a...

Ghosting may not be the most mature way to end things with someone, but it does happen – so this week we’re discussing the ethics of ghosting, and offering our best advice for people on both sides of this practice.   Defining “Ghosting” | Expectations of Availability | How to Not Ghost | Meta-Communication | When Is It OK? | Emotional Self-Care | Asking What’s Up | Coming Back & Apologizing Credit...

Intelligence play, such as bimbofication, is an edgy-yet-intriguing kink for many people – so this week we’re discussing our own feelings about it, and about intelligence in general.   Identity & Value | Perception | Ableist Language | Humiliation | Vulnerability | Smart Tops | Multiple Intelligences | Smartness vs. Hotness | Confidence | Infantilization | How to Do It | Fragrance | Music | Loose...

This week we’re diving deeper into our discussion of kissing, covering common issues people have with making out, like finding tongues gross or not knowing what to say between kisses.   Tongue | Closed-Mouth Kissing | Dirty Talk | LDRs | Setting Boundaries | Date Kate Survey Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Disco...

Kissing is hot, and can tell you a lot about a person. This week we’re answering listener questions about making out.   Evolving Opinions | Kissing vs. Sex | Kissing vs. Making Out | Duration | Sexual Chemistry/Compatibility | The Most Important Skill | Setting a Precedent | Communication & Consent | Memorable (Not-)Kisses | Intoxicants Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a...

We're continuing our discussion on emotional sadomasochism this week, covering hypnosis, negotiation, mid-scene troubleshooting, and how to subvert harmful experiences into hot scenes.   Intimacy & Vulnerability | Intentional Emotional Extremes | Trauma & Triggers | Negotiation & Scene-Planning | Reassurance | Transphobia & Misogyny | 24/7 Emotional S&M | Attractiveness | Hypnosis Credits: Music b...

Sadomasochism isn’t just physical – many kinksters play with pain and discomfort in the emotional and psychological realms, too. This week we’re discussing the art of emotional S&M!   What is Emotional S&M? | Enough to Make You Blush | Emotional vs. Psychological | Hot Ones | Hurts So Good | Grown-Up Playtime | Healing | Winning | Topping | Communication Tools | Channeling Bad Impulses | Abuse | G...

Why are first times so hot? This week we’re interrogating our feelings on first times, both real and roleplayed.   What is a “First Time”? | First Times Fetish | Surprised & Overwhelmed | Special & Notable | First Date Roleplays | Finding Authenticity | Virginity Loss Roleplay | Confidence & Experience | Tops vs. Bottoms | /r/RandomActsOfMuffDive | Ethics of Sex with Virgins | Innocence vs. Corrup...

We’re answering listener questions this week about rimming, condoms, masturbation, fetishes, and more!   Rimming | Sick People | Textured Condoms | Lifestyles Tuxedo Condoms | One Pleasure Plus | Masturbation Shame | Our Fears | Advice We Don’t Follow Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episod...

This week Billy talks with his partner Dee Darkholme about some of the unusual kinks and dynamics that have emerged in their relationship.   Feet | Future Relationships | Intimacy & Demisexuality | Need vs. Occasional Want | Curiosity & Non-Judgment | Feet, Again | Piss | Squirting | Testosterone | Bringing Up New Kinks Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to suppor...