The Dildorks

This week we’re discussing what it means to be “good at sex” – physically, mentally, and otherwise. Blowjob Skills | Good At Sex? | Bad Chemistry | Communication | Knowing What You Want | Rhythm | Uncool | Comfort | Enthusiasm | Bad At Sex? | “Did You Come?” | Too Much Pressure | How to Improve | Porn & Cosmo | Are We Good? | Generosity | Room For Improvement | Notifications | Endurance | Impo...

You asked, we answered: in this episode, we discuss queer etiquette quandaries, from pronouns to flagging to threesomes. Femme Flirting | Pronouns | Misgendering | Pre-Transition Photos | A Date? | Coming Out As Kinky | FWB Feelz | Workplace Flagging | Friend’s Ex | Fetishwear | Sex Party | Threesome Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get a...

This week Kate invited her partner Matt onto the show for an interview about sadism, hypnokink, productivity domming, and other aspects of their relationship! Dating a Podcaster | Topping For Catharsis | Sadism | Reassurance | Programmer Brain | Taking Notes | Sex Spreadsheet | Phone Sex | Hypnokink | Protocol | Productivity Domming | Sex Toys | Travel Sex | Sex Apps Credits: Music by PROTODOME Ar...

Warm up those vocal cords – this week we’re discussing sex noises! Hear us pontificate on our favorite and least favorite sounds, the best erotic audio mediums, and how we learned to let loose. Dudes | Feedback | Porn Audio | Solo Sounds | Active Listening | Learning | Gender | Performativity | Guidance | Factors | New Noises | Voyeurism & Exhibitionism | Favorite Sounds | Body Noises | Distra...

Happy (early) 4/20, stoners! This week is our annual Highpotheticals episode: we’re gettin’ blazed and asking each other weird questions about sex, dating, and masturbating. Enjoy! Smoking Fetish | 3 Questions | Sex Toy Brands | TV’s On | Toys Personified | Cartoon Orgy | Famous Band | No Vibrators | Fictional Universe | Time Machine | Face Mask | Dong/Schlong/Wang | Shower vs. Floor | Sploshing |...

This week we’re digging into the comfort and excitement we glean from rituals and protocols! Hear us explain why we love these kinky traditions. Creatures of Habit | Listener Email | Protocol vs. Ritual | Pre-Date Rituals | Deciding Together | Too Many | Conference Protocol | To-Do List | Long-Distance | Airport | Day-to-Day | Service | Food | ‘50s Housewife | Daily Blowjob | Cleaning | Headspace...

We talk so much about sex that sometimes we forget to discuss non-sexual touch! In this episode, we’re getting into the fine points of cuddling, hugging, wrestling, foot rubs, and other types of not-explicitly-sexy touch. Hug Rejection | Wrestling | Dates | Touch Starvation | Gender Dynamics | Touch Barrier | Aftercare | Cuddle Parties | Goal-Oriented | Foot Worship | Feet & Gender | Family |...

This week we’re busting more shitty sex-negative myths! Hear our hot takes on libido imbalances, biphobia, STI stigma, and more… Stereotypes | Sex Toys | Simple Dicks | Foreplay | What is Sex? | Sex Drive | Bisexuality | Changeable Orientation | Flagging | D/s Stereotypes | Mollena Williams | American Sex Podcast | Older Adults | Joan Price | STIs | Ella Dawson | Boners & Wetness Credits: Musi...

It’s time for us to bust some sex-negative myths! Hear us take down the concepts of virginity, slutty loose vaginas, and immoral masturbation, among others. Open Vag | Loose | Hymen | Virginity | Pain | Sexual Skill | Sex Too Early | Self-Respect | Premarital Sex | Wedding Night | Masturbation | Relationships Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show...

We’re already basically in love, but this week we decided to ask each other the 36 questions recommended by psychologist Arthur Aron for falling in love with a stranger. Romantic friendships for the win! Dinner Date | Fame | Phone Anxiety | Perfect Day | Singing | Mind or Body | Secret Hunch | Commonalities | Gratitude | Childhood | Life Story | Quality or Ability | Crystal Ball | Ambitions | Acco...

There's penetration, and then there's PENETRATION. This week we're discussing some of the more advanced ways you can stick stuff in your holes, like using huge toys or perhaps more than one! Top of the Rock | Limits | Tipping Point | Double Trouble | Fisting Kink | Masochism | Fisting Workshop | Size Training | VixSkin Randy | “Progress” | Sliquid Silk | Sutil Rich | Tips & Tricks | Glass &amp...

This week we’re discussing breath play, one of the most controversial categories of kink acts! Choking and smothering and facefucking, oh my… Examples | Jay Wiseman’s Risk Assessment | RACK | Andre Shakti | Savage Love Column | Mouth-Covering | Solo Play | Boundary-Crossing | “Vanilla” Kink | Conditioning | Fear Play | Endurance | Intimacy | Facefucking | Alley | Topping | Sadistic Facesitting | T...

Ah, crushes: bane of our existence, light of our lives. This week we're discussing how we handle crushes, both unrequited and perhaps-requited. And also Kate talks to herself for a few minutes in the middle because of a tech mishap. Coworkers | First Crushes | Compatibility | Idealization | Fun | Unattainable | Traits | Unrequited | Motivation | Self-Improvement | Getting Over It | Dime | CBT | Co...

Feeling smitten and also kind of like your brain's gonna explode? Sounds like New Relationship Energy! This week, we're discussing the pleasures and perils of NRE. Hypomania | Duration | Frequency | Obsessive Thoughts | Exhaustion | Annoying | Journaling | Listening | Non-Relationships | Altered State | Two At Once | Dopamine | Slow Start | Love | Casual Love | Jealousy | NRE-Killers | Dealbreaker...

Ready to get thoughtful and a bit heavy? This week we’re discussing our mental illnesses – depression, hypomania, anxiety, and more – and the ways they intersect with sex, kink, and dating. Sex Drive | Bipolar Type 2 | Mania | Consent | Safe, Sane, & Consensual | Hypersexuality | Responsive Desire | Dysphoria | Thought Spirals | Performativity | Trust | Crying | Self-Harm | Hello Cruel World |...

What does it mean to be compatible with someone – for love, sex, friendship, or all of the above? This week we're discussing the concept of compatibility in all its many dimensions! Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

This week we're talkin' strap-on sex! Harnesses, dildos, technique, fantasies, pleasure, and more... Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

Your sexual fantasies are an incredibly intimate window into your soul, and that's the topic of this week's episode! Find out what we fantasize about, why, and how. Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.    

This episode is short and silly because we were both too sick to think! We discuss our best and worst sex of the past year, assess how we did on our 2018 sex goals, and set new ones for 2019. Illdorks | Best Sex | Gender Euphoria | Sadists | Best Kink | Dry-Humping | Cocks | Just One More | Worst Sex | Challenging Assumptions | Sexual Identity | Pleasure | CBT | Relaxing Sex | Topping & Dommin...

What kind of year did you have, sex-wise? That’s the topic of this goofy, uncut (lolol) episode where we wrap up our 2018 and touch on what we’d like to try next. No Second Takes | Gender | Phone Sex | Spreadsheet | Number of Partners | Dating??? | Locations | Hotel Sex | Rope Suspension | Sexperiments | Watersports | Kink Satisfaction | Bootblacking | Hypnosis | Kicking | Femdom | Being Stepped O...

Once “Where do babies come from?” has been asked and answered, obviously the next question to tackle is: “Where do kinks come from?” This week, we’re theorizing on the origins of kinks! Japanese Whiskey | Narnia | Kinks As Hobbies | Breaking Bones | Authority Figures | Trauma | Baking | Childhood | Samuel Hughes’ Kink Identity Development Theory | Perception vs. Identity | Born This Way? | Velvet...

As it’s holiday time, this week we’re discussing whether or not you should ever buy someone a sex toy, our fave and least fave toys we’ve received as gifts, and our top tips for getting through the holidays. Christmas Music | Should You? | How to Know | Impact Toys | Favorites | Worst/Weirdest | Gifts for Anyone | JeJoue MiMi | Sex Nerds | Kinksters | RodeoH | Thanks, I Hate It | GenderCat | NYTC...

We have lots of feelings 'n' fantasies about objectification, whether the sexual kind or the kind where you literally take on the role of an object. This week we discuss this contentious kink! Fucktoy | Sexual vs. Literal | Favorite Toy | Holding Still | Exhibitionism | Service | Human Furniture | Cum | Sex Doll | Humanity | Voyeur | Implements | Loving vs. Degrading | Enough to Make You Blush | K...

While together in Toronto, we sat down for a discussion of platonic kink! Find out what it is, why we like it, and how to partake of it responsibly. Reasons Why | Non-Sexual Enjoyment | Low Pressure | Context | Emotional Topping | Jealousy | Non-Monogamy | Impact | Arousal | Negotiation | Aftercare | Crying at a Party | Post-Breakup Comfort | Aftercare Dad | Rope Suspension | How to Ask | Service...

Get out your leather boots, straitjackets, and stethoscopes: it’s time to talk about fetish objects! This week, we discuss some of our fave sexualized possessions, and the role they play in our fantasies and sexcapades. Leather Belt | Fetish vs. Kink | Talismans | Corset Fetish | “I Wish I Was…” | Boots | The Slave | Bootblacking | White T-Shirts | Suits | Sleeves Rolled Up | Pantyhose | Bible | L...