The Death of a Dream

there are five kinds of dreamer types. knowing who you are and how you dream helps you to identify what holds you back.

protecting yourself from a loss is a life unlived. i fearlessly believed in my original dream so much that it hurt when it didn't happen. so i set myself up to protect myself from ever failing again. but that got me nowhere.

you need to win most days. it is important that you are not just writing the end goal. if that is leaps and bounds away you won't get there and you will get lost along the way.

i know i am breaking year after year of terrible habits. the two things we should never do as women be great all on our own and ask for help. the two things contradict one another but you get what i am saying.

ever felt like that? oh i have been living in that place recently.

and guess what i was insanely specific again. like my list is crazy. but that is exactly it. if you want something you have to know the measure so you can check the box. does this measure up nope can i get them there nope MOVE ON. it is that simple but you have to choose to be specific and not settle for anything that is not that. yes you may be waiting awhile but perfection is worth the wait.

it does not always lie in the positive. sometimes the very reason you are capable is because of all of the negative. you can either let that push you or stop you and why fall prey to something out of your control.

it cannot be according to anyone else. when we do that "normal" according to life, we draw the short end of the stick more often than not.

there is no security anyways. so what happens if you fail trying the likelihood that you fail either way is pretty high. so at least fail forward in something you love.

are you listening or listening for opportunities to prove your worth. see that is the difference between adding value or adding ego.

lacking specificity leaves it up to interpretation. there is danger there especially when you involve other people. when you think about competing with yourself that is even more dangerous.

i know that sucks right. it is always easier to blame any loss on the competition being better but there is always a way to win. most of the time it starts and stops with you.

yep unpopular opinion here. i personally start my day with time for myself. it sets me up for an entire day of putting my needs first.

yep. you have a choice. take that in. with all things you are either changing or chosing. take that in. i know. i know. it is a tough pill to swallow.

maybe we are feeling this way because it is a space not made for us.

now let's go ahead and get specific about what you are going to do. we have to just stop writing it down people. what are we going to do so we start believing these things about ourselves.

what does it look like. if you were going to a new place. what would you have to believe in order to get there.

start today. make it habit to share your greatness. even small insignificant wins share them. make it a habit every single day. your ability to confidently share your great accomplishments will drastically impact where you go.

i totally get it. it is hard to believe in something you haven't done. but you cannot depend on someone else to get you there. so let's shift your mindset so you can show up for you.

i need you to start calling your shot. what does it look like to you. what do you want to do. you have to stop letting everyone else decide. you make your life happen.

being sound with your why stops you from letting derailers disengage you. culturally sound people know what they are about and how to keep moving past "the haters."

it has to start there. there is no other way around it. you will not get anywhere worth going if you don't first love and embrace everything that makes you well you.

let's get specific so you know and others know what you are about. quit floating.

what do you want the world to know? how do you want it to act in response to you? if you are not intentional with these things, it will just happen.

making the impossible possible is done one small seemingly insignificant step at a time. the significance is built by consistency. how are you showing up for the new belief you want to hold.