The Confident Swinger Podcast

Send us Fan Mail We all want to be liked, that's a normal human desire. But there is a difference between wanting to be liked and having a deep fear of not being liked. Jo digs into the difference, and she talks about what it looks like when people are living with that fear. And she helps you understand why living in this fear actually STOPS you from connecting with people and making friends....

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about people that feel like they suck at flirting. They have a mental block, and when the situation turns from fun and friendly to interested, and they feel like they have to flirt, they get weird and awkward. The problem isn't really the flirting itself; the problem is the way they FEEL about flirting. So, Jo gives some tips to think about flirting...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about taking one for the team. Taking one for the team, in the LS world, usually means one partner is willing to play with someone, usually part of a couple, that they aren't super attracted to, so that their partner can play with someone, usually the other half of said couple, they ARE super attracted to.  There are 2 schools of thought.  Some people see it as an ac...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about people pleasing. It's that deep emotional need to please people, most often at your own expense. You put the wants, needs, and desires of other people above your own. So much so that often, you don't even KNOW what is important to you. People pleasing sounds nice, it sounds loving and giving, but it's really not. It's really a sh...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about the thirsty vibe in the lifestyle. For those that don't know, the thirsty vibe usually refers to someone who is just interested in sex and nothing more. They are usually pretty aggressive about getting what they want. In this episode, she focuses on how NOT to put out the thirsty vibe, if that's not your intention. Support the show Old mus...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about letting go of your fear. And she encourages you to let go of your fear, by letting go of her own fear, her fear of recording an episode without a script. Fear is a part of life. You cannot fully experience life if you are not willing to experience fear. When fear comes up, you can either armor against it, you can run from it, or you can explore it, you can face it,...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about the magic of Hedo. At Hedo, there is a freedom and acceptance that is amazing! It makes you realize that it's ok to be you, it's ok to explore interests or desires you may have, without judgment.  There is a magic in the air at Hedo that needs to be experienced to appreciate.  Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 8...

Send us Fan Mail Jo records from Hedo! In this special episode, she interviews Scott and Beth, an amazing couple getting their first taste of Hedo. Not only were they Hedo newbies, but they were NOT in the LS. Jo talks to them about their experiences, what they wanted and how Hedo changed them. This is an amazing interview with an amazing couple. Music: X Ray Vision by Slynk Connect with Jo on Fac...

Send us Fan Mail Jo records from Hedo! And she does her first interview! She interviews Jay and Renee from the Midwest. They were Hedo newbies, and Jo talks to them about their fears and hesitations before the trip, and their first taste of Hedo. For those that don't know, Hedonism II, aka Hedo, is a clothing optional, LS-friendly resort in Negril, Jamaica. It is a magical place, full of love...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about the importance of practicing gratitude in your life. She slips gratitude into most of the tips she offers, but now she's devoting the whole damn episode to it. She goes deep into what gratitude is, and how it can improve your life, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Gratitude can bring you joy and happiness; it can bring a sense of fulfillment to your life....

Send us Fan Mail Rejection is a part of life, and a part of the lifestyle. There will undoubtably be times when you aren't interested in someone, and you need to tell them that. It's hard for a lot of people to tell other people they aren't interested in them. Jo talks about why it's hard, but also why it's so important. She also gives you some tips to make it a little eas...

Send us Fan Mail In today's episode, Jo talks about the fear of being rejected. She talks about the fact that acceptance is needed for connection, and connection is a basic human need. And that means the fear of not being accepted leads to the fear of being rejected. This is true in everyday life, and it's true in the Lifestyle. Swingers want to connect with other swingers, but often tha...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo explores what happens when your body shuts down when it turns to sexy naked time. She explores some reasons why this could be happening. And she offers some tips to help. Music: X Ray Vision by Slynk Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ershov New New music (season 3): Level by Pryces for intr...

Send us Fan Mail Jo continues talking about communication in the Lifestyle. In this episode, she talks about how to communicate after trust has been broken, or boundaries have been crossed. According to the book Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown, trust has 7 elements, boundaries, reliability, accountability, vault, integrity, non-judgment, and generosity. Jo explores each of these elements as it r...

Send us Fan Mail Jo continues talking about communication in the Lifestyle. This week, she talks about communicating with your partner when you aren't on the same page. Sometimes, people have different wants, needs, and desires. When that happens, it's important to come together and find a compromise that is acceptable and agreeable for both people. She talks about the 4 levels of commun...

Send us Fan Mail Jo continues the communication series by talking about communicating your wants, needs, and desires with your partner. Exploring your wants, needs, and desires with your partner is an important part of your relationship, especially in the Lifestyle. Jo talks about why it's so important, the different communication styles, and she offers tips for navigating this conversation i...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about communication. This is the first episode in a series on communication. She talks about the whole communication process, and why it's important. She also talks about why communication is so difficult, and what effective communication looks like. Then she gives some tips on effective communication. Connect with Jo on FB Jo Leavitt | Facebook Or email her at jo@th...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about the importance of understanding body language. It is important in understanding the messages that you are sending to other people, and it is equally important in understanding what other people may be telling you. If you want to connect with other people, and if you want that connection to lead to sexy naked time, you need to be able to read and understand body lang...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about putting yourself out there. That means letting other people know your wants and desires, and letting them know you are interested. It's an important part of making connections with people, especially in the Lifestyle. She breaks it down into 4 different levels of putting yourself out there, and gives you tips to help you be more successful at e...

Send us Fan Mail On today's episode, Jo talks about feeling confident in the Lifestyle at your current weight. She talks about her personal struggle with weight loss and confidence, as well as some reasons why so many people focus on their weight, and why weight is so tied to confidence and self-esteem. She also gives tips to feel confident at your current weight. Contact Jo at jo@theconfiden...

Send us Fan Mail On this episode, Jo talks about how having a positive attitude can get you laid. She talks about the difference between a positive and a negative attitude, and the behaviors of each. She also gives you some tips to cultivate a positive attitude, and how it can benefit your life. Reach out to Jo on Facebook-Jo Leavitt, or email her at jo@theconfidentswinger.com. Music: X Ray Vision...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about respect in the Lifestyle, specifically how important it is to show respect to the partner of someone you want to play with. She talks about ways to show respect, reasons why it's so important, and the consequences of not showing respect. She also leaves you with some questions about respect to think about and talk about with your partner. Conne...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about comparing yourself to others, particularly in the Lifestyle, and why it can be detrimental to your self-confidence. She talks about the reasons why we do it, and the reasons why it's sometimes a good thing, and the reasons why it's usually bad. And she gives you tips to stop negatively comparing yourself to others, so you can feel better about yourself, an...

Send us Fan Mail Jo talks about bed notchers in the Lifestyle. Bed notchers are people who like to have sex with a lot of different people, and some people have negative perceptions about that. Jo unpacks those negative beliefs, and offers different perspectives and ways to think about it. She also talks about accepting differences in others, and in yourself. Music: X Ray Vision by Slynk Support t...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Jo talks about flirtation. She talks about why it's important, and she focuses on the perception of flirts. She also gives some tip to improve your flirting skills, and also to recognize when someone is flirting with you. Music: X Ray Vision by Slynk Support the show Old music (<80): X Ray Vision by Slynk New music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir Ersh...