The Confidence Chronicles

My love, I had this piece of shower wisdom the other day - all my best thoughts come to me when I’m in the shower - and I just had to share with you.  I was thinking about confidence and how what we REALLY need in order to become confidence, is actually courage.  We need the courage to show up, to mess up, to get it wrong, to get back up again and again. That is how we then CREATE our confidence t...

My love, this one has been a long time coming! I am SO excited to share this episode with you where I introduce you to Mon and Alisha, The Reels Queens who have skyrocketed their joint business as well as their own businesses using - you guessed it - Instagram Reels.  When I say these two are Reels pros, I mean it - they have even created content for Instagram themselves! They have launched the Wo...

I want you to think about what AREA in your life you might be struggling with right now?  And how long have you been struggling in that area for? Do you think that NOW might be a good time for you to invest in yourself and get someone to support you through the thing you’re struggling with?  A good mentor can help you to change your life in so many ways, but how do you know who to work with? With...

It’s November my friend! The year is nearly over, can you believe that? I don’t know about you but this year has been WILD. So much change, so much growth, so many big things happening…it’s like we’ve all been sprinting after being on pause for two years, right?  The end of the year is always a good time to stop for a second and think about where you’re at. Think about what your goals were for thi...

So you want to be a speaker? To get incredible, paid speaking gigs and the opportunity to deeply impact people with your words, your message…  Well, in this week's episode I’m gonna keep it real with you. If you really, truly want to be a speaker, there are a few things, a few KEY STEPS you have to take to make that happen, to make it your reality.  And Queens, I’m about to speak at Business...

My love, let me tell you something.  During and after the pandemic, the statistics show that more women than EVER have started their own businesses. More women, especially women of color, are quitting their jobs and going after their dreams. Amazing, right?  The thing is, a LOT of people who want to start their own business have this idea of how it’s going to be so easy and they’ll be on the beach...

When was the last time you allowed yourself to ‘Think Big’?  Those big, audacious crazy dreams and goals you have, you know the ones that even YOU think you’re crazy to have … the ones that make you “nerve-cited”? When was the last time you gave yourself permission to say them out loud or write them down?  Queen, when you want to create things you’ve never created before - you gotta embrace #FWOT...

Are you putting yourself on hold?  Have you been procrastinating on your dreams, your big goals, that thing you keep on telling yourself you’ll get around to ‘one day’?  Do you begin to make a plan and then say ‘I don’t have the time’? I always hear people say ‘Well you’ve got as many hours in your day as Beyonce’ and yes, we all do have the same hours in our day as Beyonce BUT what resources does...

Is there anything you’ve been wanting to do that you keep putting off?  Maybe you’ve thought about doing it but the self doubt takes over and you put your dreams on the back burner once again?  Maybe you’ve been waiting for the “perfect” time to go for your dreams? In today’s episode I want to share a pivotal moment with you that completely changed my life (and the life of millions of women around...

Turn this episode UP if you’re struggling to pick yourself up and keep on going 💯… If you feel like the world is against you, if you just had someone say no to you …  that right there, it’s your power. In this one, I’m dishing you out a bit of tough love💘. You won’t achieve any of those dreams if you just QUIT every time you fail. Let me tell you, I’m still wearing the bruises from all my falls...

One of the toughest things in the world – especially for women who have had to learn to be strong – is being vulnerable.  When you’ve spent your life building up walls just to protect yourself, we fight with every nerve not to take those defenses down!  But being vulnerable can also be a gift. It’s real. It’s in the moment. It’s unapologetically you. It creates connection – not only within ourselv...

THIS episode right here is the reason you shouldn’t compare yourself to others.  So much of what I do at The Queen of Confidence centers around sharing the stories of confidence, the epic wins and helping other women feel empowered to do the same.  Who doesn’t want to shout it from the rooftops when things are going right for us?!  But I also believe it’s important to talk about it when things are...

When it comes to relationships, we all think we know what we want. Somebody kind, thoughtful, funny, good-looking, or (insert your adjective of choice here!).  But it’s rarely that simple. We spend a lot of time thinking about our ideal partner – but usually not enough time thinking about ourselves.  So when I talk to women who are struggling with dating, I always start in the same place: What abo...

Sometimes, in order to reconnect, we have to disconnect.  For someone like me, who loves being on and available and ready to go 24/7, I struggled with the idea of taking some time to recharge all the way up to getting on the plane. Five days at a spa?! Without my husband or kids?! (Or phone?!) It seemed crazy.  But it was necessary.  I read books. I journaled. I ate good food, slept well, and even...

Ladies, if you’ve ever been curious about being in aligmement when starting your own coaching business, today’s episode is for YOU! Today I talk to Jazze Jervis , who mentors women to six and seven figure success through strategy, mindset, energetics.  The core of her work is mentoring the whole woman, with an emphasis on self exploration and connection back to our truth, our values, our desires,...

As a little girl growing up in a rough neighborhood, who was in and out of foster care, who depended on food stamps, I never expected that one day I’d be able to buy a house.  I was letting my past hold me back. “I’m too poor,” even though I wasn’t anymore. “I’m too Puerto Rican. I’m too whatever.” These beliefs were still keeping me down, years and years and years later.  But I wanted to give tha...

Ever heard the saying that change is the only constant in life? It’s true. Our lives are never the same day to day. Some days those changes are amazing – new job! New partner! New house! New baby!  But other days, those same changes can feel scary: New responsibilities. New bills. New commitments. New vulnerabilities.  So what can we do to stay strong and centered in the face of change?  How can w...

The process of becoming is all about choices.  When women say, “Damn, Erika, how did you get that career/house/husband?!” Here's what I say, “I had to choose this for myself”.  And they were hard choices. I have had my share of trauma in my life. Abuse, loss, grief. It would have been so much easier to numb out every night on social media, or stay in a job I hated. To stay miserable in genera...

You know when you’re feeling on fire? Maybe your nails are fresh, or you’re wearing your favorite colour, or you just woke up really feeling yourself and just owning who you are?  People seem to gravitate to you. They smile at you, compliment you,  it feels like all's right with the world as things fall into place with ease…. You just feel good! It’s not about how you look – it’s about the vi...

We can all pretty much agree: cults are bad.  But if there’s one aspect we can steal from them (and improve on – no Kool-Aid here!), it’s the idea of creating a community – a close-knit group of likeminded people who are united under a common cause or goal.  So what does that look like in our own lives, or for our own small businesses?  For me, there are three keys to creating my own following tha...

Do you ever feel like your past is creating your future?  Maybe the early loss of a loved one keeps you from getting close to people today. Maybe sexual trauma in your childhood prevents you from being intimate with your significant other. Maybe domestic abuse in a previous relationship makes you hesitant to fall in love again.  Often, that’s your inner child – full of unresolved trauma, grief, an...

Ladies, we all want to leave a legacy. But for most of us, that’s a huge challenge – the world already feels full, and the Internet is already packed with noise. It can feel like we’re all competing over the same tiny piece of pie, especially as coaches. That’s why I made this episode – because this is what niching is all about. It’s claiming your space and owning your throne – in other words, las...

We all do it: “He cheated on me!” “She stole my man!” “My mom lied to me!” “He manipulated me!” When we’re hurt, especially by people we love and trust, it’s easy to dwell on our pain and fall into a victim mindset. But when we do that, we get stuck – and we only hurt ourselves more. So how do we reframe this mentality into something that can rebuild and reaffirm us?  In this episode, I share a li...

Holy moly Queen, Today I am sharing my insights and personal and very private feelings after watching Jennifer Lopez's Halftime Netflix Documentary I have loved Jennifer since I was a kid. She has and still is a massive expander for me. Today's episode is a very personal vulnerable share from me. Honestly, this is a level-up for me, I can feel it. I hope it resonates with you. If it does...

Do you find yourself feeling drained? Are you sensitive to other peoples energies? If you have struggled with this, todays episode is for you. We're unpacking what it means to take ownership of our energy and how to be with energy vampires even if we are sensitive. It starts with owning our voice, our boundaries and choosing how and where we decide to show up. If you want to get your power ba...