The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships

Navigating the care of our aging parents is one of the most profound, yet least talked about, transitions we face as adults. This is really common—we rarely sit down to discuss end-of-life wishes or logistics until a sudden medical crisis throws us into an emotional whirlwind. When you are managing this transition from a distance—whether due to life circumstances or the unique demands of military...

Have you ever looked at your partner and wondered, "How did we end up so completely different?" In this episode, we are pulling back the rug on the typical introvert-extrovert clash. We'll explore why this isn't actually a personality flaw or a sign of incompatibility, but a beautiful, natural difference in how your nervous systems get regulated. You'll learn how to stop tracking who "wins" the ar...

Have you ever sat right next to your partner on the couch, completely silent, and realized you felt entirely alone? It is a heartbreaking sensation, but I want you to take a deep breath: you are not alone in this experience, and it doesn't mean your relationship is broken. This is really common, especially in military families where the pressure to keep everything looking fine is so high. In this...

Being different is so exciting—until it isn't. At first, it feels like a beautiful balance. One of you plans everything, and the other just goes with the flow. It evens you out. But over time, those exact same qualities can start to feel irritating, exhausting, or like you're constantly missing each other. If you've ever wondered why things feel so hard when you're both truly good people who love...

Have you ever woken up from a vivid dream and wondered, "What was that all about?"   We often dismiss our dreams as "just dreams," but what if they were actually a window into the parts of ourselves we aren't yet seeing? In this episode, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky sits down with psychotherapist Ara Trembley to explore how paying attention to your dreams can reveal deep emotional patterns, solve life p...

If you've ever felt like you're having the same argument over and over again—just in different "costumes"—you are definitely not alone. Whether it's the laundry, a misinterpreted text, or the way the dishwasher is loaded, these small triggers often spiral into big explosions. In this episode, I'm walking you through why these "small things" feel so heavy and how to look beneath the surface to find...

Have you ever felt like you and your partner are speaking two completely different languages? You're trying so hard to explain your side, but the more you talk, the further apart you feel. It's incredibly lonely to feel unheard by the person who matters most to you. In this episode, I'm joined by Raffi Bilek, couples counselor and author of The Communication Book, to talk about why we get "stuck"...

Have you ever felt like you're hitting a brick wall during a conversation with your partner? Why Your Partner Shuts Down in Arguments is often less about a lack of caring and more about a nervous system that has reached its limit. In this episode, we explore the "underneath" of the withdrawer's experience—moving past the frustration of silence to understand the biological stress responses of fligh...

Navigating finances in a military marriage often feels like walking through a minefield, where a simple conversation about a credit card bill can trigger a deep sense of emotional disconnection. In this episode of the Communicate & Connect podcast, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky sits down with financial expert Monica Kaufman to peel back the layers of "money shame" and explore the attachment roots of our...

We've all been there…that moment in a conversation where your heart starts pounding, your voice gets a little louder, and suddenly you're saying things you know you'll regret the second they leave your lips. It's a heavy, lonely feeling when a simple disagreement turns into a "communication crossfire". If this sounds familiar, I want you to know you're not alone. These moments are often less about...

Have you ever felt like you had to put on your "brave face" even when everything inside was crumbling? Many of us in the military community wear our resilience like a badge of honor, but sometimes that badge can start to feel quite heavy. You might notice that while everyone else is praising your strength, you're actually feeling more disconnected and alone than ever. In this episode, I'm joined b...

Arguments don't have to damage your relationship. In fact, how we navigate those moments of friction can actually become a bridge to deeper intimacy. In this episode of the Communicate and Connect Podcast, I'm sharing some "mini-tips" on the difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict and why building emotional safety matters so much more than winning an argument. What You'll Learn in This E...

Has physical intimacy in your relationship started to feel like a source of anxiety rather than connection? You are not alone. In this episode of the Communicate and Connect Podcast, I'm joined by physical therapist Eve Hall to discuss a topic that many couples struggle with in silence: Erectile Dysfunction (ED). We often see a pattern where a physical struggle leads to emotional withdrawal. One p...

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner keep having the same argument — even when you both promise it won't happen again? In this episode, I dive into one of the most common patterns I see in couples therapy: the repetitive relationship fight. Whether it's about the dishes, money, parenting, or communication, couples often find themselves caught in a loop that feels impossible to break. Bu...

We all tell ourselves stories — about our partners, our relationships, and even about who we are. But what happens when those stories start to hurt our connection instead of helping it? In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Carnick to talk about something that shapes every relationship — the stories we tell ourselves. As humans, we are meaning-making creatures. Our brains are constantly trying...

Being married to an entrepreneur, especially within the unique context of military life, comes with a distinct set of challenges and rewards. How do you balance supporting your partner's dream while pursuing your own? What happens when household roles need to shift, and how do you navigate the difficult conversations about finances, time, and personal identity? In this episode "Married to an Entre...

Sibling rivalry is one of the most common challenges parents face, but did you know it can also be an opportunity for growth? In this episode, parenting coach DJ Stutz shares practical strategies on how to deal with sibling rivalry while fostering lifelong skills in your children. From creating weekly family meetings to teaching negotiation through playful roleplay, DJ explains how small, intentio...

What if the secret to a successful marriage wasn't about being perfect… but about learning to love each other through the mess, the distance, and the fear? If you're a military spouse or in any kind of long-distance or high-stress relationship, you know it's not always easy. The deployments, the uncertainties, the constant adapting. And yet, somehow, we still long for connection, for belonging, fo...

If anxiety is keeping you up at night, you're not alone. And you don't have to settle for sleepless, anxious nights. In this episode, we're talking about exactly how to sleep better with anxiety, especially when stress, trauma, or PTSD are in the picture. Dr. Elizabeth is joined by Savannah Hipes, LCSW, DBSM, a sleep and anxiety specialist who works with high-achieving, sleep-deprived professional...

In this episode of the Communicate and Connect Podcast , Liz talks with relationship coach Lauren Dry about the freeze response and how it shows up in communication, connection, and conflict. The freeze response is one of the most misunderstood nervous system reactions, especially in relationships. It can look like emotional shutdown, disconnection, or indifference but it's actually a survival mec...

Welcome to this episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we tackle the ever-relevant topic of how to deal with different parenting styles. In today's conversation, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky is joined by Adam Angel, a specialist in supporting new dads and an advocate for thoughtful, collaborative parenting approaches. This episode is particularly significant for military families, who...

In this episode of The Communicate & Connect Podcast, host Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky welcomes intimacy expert Chloe Mascord to the show, where they dive deep into the intricacies of nurturing intimacy within relationships, with a special focus on the unique dynamics faced by military couples. Chloe, renowned for her expertise in the field, discusses the common challenges and misconceptions surroundin...

Welcome to Episode 060 of The Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we have an enlightening conversation with the incredible Kristal Desantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Austin, Texas. In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked dynamics of men in relationships and the societal expectations that shape their roles and behavior...

Welcome to Episode 59 of the Communicate & Connect Podcast! I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we have a deeply insightful conversation lined up with our special guest, Leigh Conant, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in the military community. In this episode, we dive into the emotional and logistical complexities of military spouse relocation. Leigh shares her pe...

Welcome to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky. In today's episode, titled "Coping with PCS Stress with Michelle Farmer," we dive deep into the unique challenges faced by military families during Permanent Change of Station (PCS) moves. Joining us is Michelle Farmer, a true expert in navigating military life, having experienced it from multiple perspectives—as...