The Christian Therapist Podcast

If you are married, dating or engaged, the art of repair is essential to a healthy relationship. And even though it is essential, let us be the first to say, it is DIFFICULT!  Whenever we feel disconnected, distant or upset in our relationship, we are going to move to ways we know how to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, those ways do not always protect the relationship. The antidote? It's repair....

Every marriage has moments of disconnection. For some, they last moments. For some, they last years.  We brought in special guest, Kelly Bourque, to help us realize when we are disconnected in marriage and some questions to ask ourselves about our relationship. Then join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as we discuss how staying in our head with logic, reasoning and problem solving can create emotional di...

Everyone is talking "Health" in January, and we wanted to join in! However, our conversation will not sound like the ads, commercials and messages you are hearing on TV, radio, magazines, etc.  Instead of focusing on only body health, we also look at the whole health of a person (body, mind and Spirit). Some of our discussions include the difference between weight loss and being healthy, how to he...

Did you notice we didn't say the word 'resolution?' There is purpose in that! We have found that most resolutions do not stick. Not only that, we have found that once the clock strikes midnight on December 31st, we do not magically change into a new person who now has the time, ability, will-power to do everything we wished we had done the year prior. So what is the secret to making change stick?...

We have yet to meet a person that has not wondered if they were moving in the right direction for their life (ourselves included). And for us as Christians, we want to make sure we are guided by the Holy Spirit. Yet, here is where the confusion can happen…..how do we know it is the voice of the Holy Spirit? Join us as we ask this very question to teaching pastor Lloyd Shadrach of Fellowship Bible...

When thinking about the Holy Spirit, we all ask ourselves great questions like: Who is the Holy Spirit? What does the Holy Spirit do? How do we even know He is with us? How do we have a relationship with the Holy Spirit? What does it look like to live by the Spirit? And do you know what we say? Those are excellent questions that we have too! So we called in teaching pastor, Lloyd Shadrach, from Fe...

If you look at any longitudinal study on the affects of pornography and marriage, you will find that it does not help a marriage relationship. At all. In fact it hurts it.  But why? Join the inRelationship crew as we interview Dr. Noah Zapf on why and how pornography harms healthy connection.

Research is pretty clear about the negative effects of pornography on having healthy, connected relationships.  As parents in a digital age, how do we approach the topic of pornography with our children?  We brought in expert Dr. Noah Zapf to share with us how our parenting styles, attachment and shame all affect online sexual behaviors.  If you are a parent, you definitely want to listen in. 

Bumble, Tinder, Match.com, eHarmony, coffee meets bagel and so, so many more ways to find a date these days. And with every new dating site, there seems to be new rules that emerge on how to date….however the more we look into these rules, they are usually not made with long, lasting relationships in mind. Join the conversation with Aron Strong, Lindsey Castleman and special guest, Kelly Bourque,...

Marriage brings two families together. And when we bring two families together there will be some difficulty…. It is inevitable.  Even look at the royal wedding this year: in-law difficulty was there! No one is immune! Join Aron Strong, Lindsey Castleman and special guest, Kelly Bourque LMFT, as they discuss six ways to have a better relationship with your in-laws.   inrelationship.us  kellybourqu...

If you have ever been in a relationship with anyone at any point of your life, then you will have been met with the need to forgive. Yet, what is forgiveness really? And how do we forgive? Join the inRelationship crew as we invite Pastor Corey Trimble of the Experience Community Church to share his journey with forgiveness, then listen in as Mariam, Aron and Lindsey talk about what forgiveness sho...

There are so many factors that can influence a person's view of God: Biblical interpretations, the way they were parented, the way God was presented to them, whether or not they want to take personal responsibility for their actions, etc, etc.  However, the Gospel is not meant to be complicated, but boy, we can complicate it! This is why we asked Pastor Corey Trimble of the Experience Community Ch...

It's true. You really can create change in your life.  We can completely dismiss the phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" because research and study shows that you can! There are stages of change and our expert Scott Reall, walks us through those stages of change and helps us know what they look like. Also Scott helps us know what kinds of motivators we might see. We pray this episode he...

Have you ever heard of the term "Crowded Loneliness?"  We now have access through social media to know about so many people and allow them to know about us. There are lots of benefits to that, however one drawback is that we are finding more and more people are not in true community. Nor do they know how to be.   Listen in as Scott Reall, founder and executive director of Restore Small Groups, sha...

Our last bonus episode!!! This special bonus episode highlights what it is like to be an Enneagram type 8, the Protective Challenger.  Beth McCord helps inRelationship host, Lindsey Castleman, express what it is like inside the world of a Protective Challenger…….and if you know type 8s, that is a vulnerable thing to do. And vulnerability can feel really scary. Usually type 8s can come across as in...

Please enjoy the last part of the Enneagram series! So far you have learned 2/3 of the Enneagram and now we have Enneagram expert, Beth McCord back to finish out the descriptions of type 7, 8 and 9. The names for those types are the Entertaining Optimist, Protective Challenger and Peaceful Mediator, respectively. We hope you have enjoyed the series as much as we have and stay tuned for the special...

Bonus Episode!! Yes! The live coaching session with Beth McCord (Enneagram coach, speaker, teacher extraordinaire) is back!  This time we are focusing in on type five (the Investigative Thinker) and Aron (our inRelationship host) is a type five! Beth really opens up our eyes to how to better be in relationship with Aron and those lovely type fives! If you have an Investigative Thinker in your life...

We hope you enjoyed the first podcast on defining the Enneagram! In this episode Enneagram expert, Beth McCord, shares with us what it is like to be a type 4, type 5 and type 6. The names for those types are the Romantic Individualist, Investigative Thinker and the Loyal Guardian, respectively. Both Beth and Lindsey (inRelationship host) have husband's who are the Loyal Guardians so there was a lo...

Bonus Episode!! Sooooo we had a brilliant idea to invite Beth McCord to sit with the three of us for the ending of the podcast episode. What we thought would be a quick 15-minute chat turned into a 30+ minute live Enneagram coaching session. It was amazing (because Beth is amazing!)!  If you like to listen in on people's personal conversations, this bonus episode is for you! Beth starts to coach M...

We are all in relationship with someone—friend, spouse, parents, children, co-worker, neighbor, even your grocery cashier---and each relationship feels different because each person is different (whether we like it or not 😊). It is easy to see someone who is different than you and start to dismiss them, however there is so much power and health in noticing differences in each other and embracing...

Once in an abusive relationship, it is hard to find a way out. Especially if a healthy relationship was never modeled for you growing up. Leaving an abusive relationship is scary and needs to be treated with care.  Join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as they discuss relationships and also tune in as Mariam interviews  Amy   Alexander , an expert in domestic and sexual violence.  Amy  shares her resource...

Our desire to be connected to someone in relationship is powerful. There are times where people use that powerful connection to control others through a dangerous abuse cycle that can leave their loved one confused and hurt.  Join Mariam, Aron and Lindsey as they discuss the difficulty of abuse in relationships and also tune in as Mariam interviews Amy Alexander, an expert in domestic and sexual v...

Tune in to hear Jen Radler share a personal story about how God made it clear to her that she was supposed to comfort people who were nearing the end of their life, and how He paved a way for her to do this in Kenya. Also listen in to hear Lindsey, Mariam and Aron compare ways people show up for others in grief that have been helpful......and really not helpful.   Special Guest: Jennifer Radler, m...

Join marriage and family therapists, Aron Strong, Mariam Coaster and Lindsey Castleman as they introduce the brand-new inRelationship podcast! This episode offers tips and insight into why we need to allow both positive and negative emotions into our life--and really uncovers if there is a difference. inRelationship equips people to grow in healthy personal and professional relationships from a Go...

Walking in to a brand-new culture includes so many emotions including fear and excitement!  Listen in to hear about several different experiences of living in a new culture and learning how to navigate relationships with people who see the world differently.  Special Guest: Jennifer Radler, missionary in Kenya, Africa Connect with us at inrelationship.us To find out more and/or support Jen's minis...