The Christian Dating Coach

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Michelle shares the truth married women know but do not always say out loud. What is marriage to a Boaz really like? It is beautiful. It is tender. It is chosen. It is sexy glances in the kitchen, grocery-store whispers, and being seen as beautiful when real life changes your body. But it is not easy. And that is exactly why the man’s character matters. If you des...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Michelle talks about two patterns that keep Christian women stuck in dating: criticism and chaos.  If you keep blaming men, dating apps, your church, your city, or God’s timing while showing up inconsistent, overwhelmed, and hard to pursue, you may be blocking the very love you’re praying for.  Through the story of Ruth and Boaz, Michelle shows why wise counsel, h...

Send us Fan Mail How do you know if a man is worth continuing to talk to? How do you know if he is faithful, serious, godly, and someone you should not let get away? In this episode, Michelle offers a wiser, more graceful way to think about discernment.  Michelle Joiner is a Christian dating strategist for discerning Christian women.  She helps successful single women become unmistakable to the ki...

Send us Fan Mail What if the kind of man you want actually exists? In this episode, Michelle speaks to the woman who has quietly lowered her expectations because faithfulness, clarity, tenderness, and godly pursuit started to feel unrealistic. But there are men who do not like other women’s pictures.  There are men who do not look at other women.  There are men who pray, read the Bible, and are wa...

Send us Fan Mail More time does not fix a process that keeps producing disappointment. In this episode, Michelle draws from her background as an engineer to explain why repeated disappointment in dating is not neutral. It wears on your hope, your confidence, your softness, and your ability to believe that marriage is still possible. If you have been deleting and redownloading the apps, trying to s...

Send us Fan Mail What if settling is not just choosing the wrong man? What if settling is also allowing yourself to keep living a life beneath the desire God placed in you? In this episode, Michelle reframes what it means to “never settle” and speaks directly to the Christian woman who is successful, capable, grateful, and still honest enough to admit: I want marriage. If you have been waiting, ho...

Send us Fan Mail  You’ve been told to be content.  To wait quietly. To make sure you never look desperate. But what if the desire you keep trying to silence is not the problem? This is a bold, tender word for the Christian woman who wants marriage and is tired of apologizing for it. You’re also invited to Come and Pray this Saturday, May 16th, 2026. No teaching. No coaching. Just prayer for women...

Send us Fan Mail This is for the Christian woman who is no longer available for an “almost” life and is ready to leave the wrong path behind. In this episode, I’m talking about what changes when a woman is truly done settling—not just for the wrong man, but for any path that is not leading to the life she desires. Go to thechristiandatingcoach.com and move toward marrying well.

Send us Fan Mail Many extraordinary women quietly come to the same painful conclusion: The kind of man I want must not exist. But what if that isn’t true? What if the man you want has already crossed your path…  and simply didn’t recognize you? In this episode, Michelle Joiner shares a surprising insight about modern dating, recognition, and why the strategy most women use to find love may actuall...

Send us Fan Mail Real love isn’t roses.  It isn’t candlelight dinners.  It isn’t Instagram. It’s quieter than that. It’s someone doing the dishes.  Jazz in the kitchen.  Being chosen on an ordinary Tuesday night. In this episode, Michelle shares a small moment at home — and the truth most women don’t realize until years have already passed: Delay isn’t neutral. If you’re ready to stop waiting and...

Send us Fan Mail Most single Christian women feel quietly trapped between two unsatisfying extremes. On one side, church silence and simplification —   Pray. Wait. Don’t think too much. On the other, secular overexposure —  crude, transactional, dopamine-driven explanations of sex, attraction, and desire. This episode marks a shift. There is a third way — one that is intelligent, reverent, and rea...

Send us Fan Mail Is surrender keeping you stuck? You might be surprised.  If marriage is a holy desire God placed inside you, then it’s time to treat it like the calling (and priority) it is. Your husband is real. Your story is written. The only thing missing is your participation. And for a short time, when you purchase Kingdom Bride Unlocked: The Course , you’ll receive a free 1:1 “Call In Your...

Send us Fan Mail What if the only thing standing between you and your godly husband… is you ? In this episode, Michelle delivers the truth that changes everything for single Christian women: the women who get married don’t wait to be chosen—they choose themselves. Hear how one client went from single to ring shopping in just seven months, and the mindset shift that made it happen. 💙 Apply for pri...

Send us Fan Mail You don’t need a complicated plan to build a relationship that actually leads to marriage—you need purpose. In today’s finale of Relationship 101, I share the simple framework my clients use to go from “this is good” to “we’re engaged” in months, not years. If you’re ready to stop drifting and start moving, this episode is your map. At the end, I’ll show you exactly where to meet...

Send us Fan Mail Even the best, most godly men will come with problems. Not red flags… just real life, two humans learning how to love. But here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s not the problems that end most love stories — it’s the way we respond to them. In this episode, we talk about how a Kingdom Bride handles problems.  No drama. No chasing. No shutting down. Just holy desire, respect, and...

Send us Fan Mail High-caliber, godly men are all around you.  If they’re not proposing, it’s because you don’t know this secret: they want to feel pleasure — holy pleasure. Do you feel like pleasure is off-limits as a Christian woman? Well, it’s not. In this episode, Michelle Joiner shows faith-filled, ambitious women how to cultivate holy sizzle — the chemistry, warmth, and joy that make a man fe...

Send us Fan Mail After 100 episodes, hundreds of coaching calls, and more weddings than she ever imagined, Michelle has seen the pattern — the women who get married think, believe, and show up differently. In this milestone episode, she reveals the 4 heart postures that define her most successful clients — the ones who attract high-caliber, godly men and build lasting, covenant marriages. This isn...

Send us Fan Mail Love is in the air—holy, romantic, life-changing love. 💙 In this short behind-the-scenes update, Michelle shares what’s been happening inside the Kingdom Bride Unlocked coaching program and in her own home. Clients who once started single are now in relationships. They’re glowing from makeovers and photo shoots that have them saying, “I feel like Beyoncé. I feel like J.Lo.” 👑 Ot...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever wished a man could just know what you need — this episode is for you. In “Mind Reading Isn’t Love — Learn to Speak His Language,” Christian dating coach Michelle Joiner reveals the secret to creating real connection: not through hints or pressure, but through communication that inspires. She shares her own long-distance story with her husband Caleb, the moment she s...

Send us Fan Mail What if the biggest thing keeping you single isn’t your circumstances… but your thoughts ? In this episode, Michelle breaks down the biblical and practical truth that your thoughts don’t just describe your life — they create it. You’ll learn how what you think determines how you feel, how you show up, and the kind of relationships you attract. This isn’t just mindset work. It’s Ro...

Send us Fan Mail You know what’s crazy ? The things Christian singles get told. “Just be content.” “Jesus should be enough for you.” “It’ll happen when you least expect it.” We’ve all heard them — the clichés that sound holy but secretly make you feel unseen, confused, or stuck. In this episode, Michelle gets real about the advice that holds singles back — and what faith actually looks like when y...

Send us Fan Mail I had to stop recording this episode three times because I couldn’t stop crying. This might be the most important message I’ve ever shared on the podcast — and yes, it’s marked explicit, because there was no other way to say it. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, I open up about what it was really like to be single into my 30s — the waiting, the loneliness, the “be content” com...

Send us Fan Mail Imagine walking into the holidays with more than just another lonely year behind you… imagine a man by your side, a best friend, a partner who adores you — and a kiss in time for New Year’s. This episode will show you why it hasn’t happened yet, what’s really been holding you back, and the one different approach that changes everything. If you’ve ever wondered if it’s too late for...

Send us Fan Mail You asked to hear from Caleb again—and this time he’s joined by two of his friends for an unfiltered, faith-filled conversation about dating and marriage. In this special extended episode, the guys share what really goes on in a man’s mind: Making the first move (and why he hasn’t yet) Communication in marriage and gracious reminders How long it takes a guy to know if he wants to...

Send us Fan Mail Last episode, you heard from Caleb, his side of our love story—how we met, what drew him in, and what made him commit. But what if I told you there’s a reason behind the chemistry he kept describing? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how attraction, desire, and connection can be created intentionally—without compromising your faith or your values. If you’ve ever won...