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We are usually much harder on ourselves than others. Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy. We're going to experience failure from time to time. It's inevitable. During stressful times, we can find ourselves falling into traps, such as negative self-talk, those damaging things we say to ourselves that get in the way of us doing epic shit.  You see, we've been taught how to be very harsh with o...

What it means to be rootbound is having roots formed into a dense, tangled mass that allows for little or no space for further growth. It’s staying in the container although it stumps your growth. And for some of us, staying in that container leads to our demise. So I want to ask you, are there parts of you that you have allowed to die away? Are there parts of you that you have allowed to just wit...

As high-achieving black women, many of us deal with what is now called Racial Imposter Syndrome. Racial Imposter Syndrome is the feeling that we don't belong because those around us in our homogenous communities make it known that we are not being black enough for one reason or another. From coaching my clients I've come to realize that this is a very common theme. They get to a point where they s...

Today we are talking about all things group coaching and I am so excited to share this with you. It’s all about being rooted. For me being rooted means accepting the various aspects of yourself, from past to present. Feeling aligned with your own values that have developed over time. It means that you are fixed, unmovable, and entrenched in your worthiness. Queens, imagine what it would be like if...

I have a fun episode for you today!  I want to talk about being a grown a** woman. If you’re a mother, you may have cultivated “the look” that you give to your kids that lets them know that the thing they are asking is not up for negotiation or whatever they are doing stops now. That signature look says that you’ve established intentional boundaries and remained consistent with enforcing them. Gue...

Are you waiting for people to cosign your belief, goals, and dreams? I have news for you Queen, you don’t need a co-signer to fulfill your dreams! I repeat it's your dream, you don't need others' approval! When you outsource or wait for others to cosign whether or not you can do the thing you are essentially saying that you don't believe you have a good enough track record to show up for yourself...

Society tells us that when things don’t work out we are supposed to beat ourselves up.  And that is exactly what we do. When we are experiencing frustration with our choices or decisions, we may punish ourselves. This comes in many forms, like restricting ourselves from enjoying good things or engaging in negative self-talk.   I want to offer that there is another way to handle disappointment. I w...

Happy New Year! It’s the season of resolutions, goals, and choosing a word for the year. As we start thinking about our goals and strategies for what we want to accomplish this year, I want to remind you that we are not human doings, nor are we human havings, we are human beings.  This means that in order to accomplish a goal we must become a person who can make that happen. Often times we are so...

Hey ya'll! You are in for another treat with a client spotlight. Today we are chatting with my client and general life coach, Saprina Allen. Come be a fly on the wall and listen in as we discuss her experience with being a coach and also coaching with me. I love how she describes some people's hesitation with coaching because we don't want anyone to know that we are a hot mess but in reality, we a...

Our guest today is Mars Lord. Mars is a coach, a birth activist, a doula educator, and the leading voice about black maternal mortality and health in the UK and beyond. She has also spoken to Parliament and can be found on the record in the history books for her work with black maternal health. As you can imagine, being a leader in these spaces carries a high level of stress and overwhelm. Mars de...

Thought work is a tool for revealing your brain to yourself. It helps you bring awareness to the sentences that are floating in your head, the feelings you have because of those thoughts, and the action you take as a result of those feelings. And like any tool, it can be used for us or against us.  I see this as a trend that is happening in my coaching practice where clients want to use the Model...

In general, we tend to make an effort to be kind to others by reminding ourselves to pause and intentionally reflect on our words and actions, asking ourselves whether they’re of benefit to others. So when someone cuts us off in traffic, we remind ourselves that we don’t know what other people are going through. Maybe they had a stressful day at work or they are caring for a sick family member. Th...

Hey ya’ll! You are in for a treat today! I have been thinking about this term that I believe is so accurate, “Silence is violence”. It is so beautiful and empowering to watch so many of us uniting by forming organizations and groups so that we can be heard. We're on the diversity and inclusion committees, we're seeing it on Facebook, we're showing it on Instagram, we're having the hard conversatio...

I love to observe my clients and share with them the patterns that I notice. Their habits, their groove because once we know our patterns, we can prepare for it.  In episode 51 we discussed our quit pattern. This is the point where we often find ourselves giving up and quitting. We discuss the importance of identifying this pattern because once we know where or when we tend to give up, we can addr...

Self-discovery is a process where a person is guided, through self-questioning and examination of one's own thoughts, words, and actions, in order to reach their own conclusions regarding who they truly are. This is at the core of the work that our guest, Ashley Rhodes, focuses on in her practice as a life coach.  Through her own growth, Ashley discovered that part of her work here in this lifetim...

Do you find yourself quitting things a lot?  Whatever it is we want to achieve in life, no matter how much we want it, there will always be times when we hit a challenging period, our motivation hits a wall and we feel like giving up. This is because by default, our mindsets and thought patterns play out over and over again throughout our life. If we don’t identify and change them we're likely to...

Have you ever noticed that when you are in a difficult situation the motivation that you need to get out of it seems to come easy compared to when you are in a good situation but you desire more?  The thing is that going from bad to good is a different journey than going from good to better and it requires different motivation. While going from bad to good you are motivated by pain and discomfort...

For the most part, we recognize that if our past was not so good, our brain tends to use it against us by constantly providing evidence of past mistakes to justify the current goal won't be realized. But if our past was “goodt” wouldn't we still have this problem? The answer is yes. No matter how perfect your past is. No matter how well things line up, your brain will still use your past against y...

Black women are forced to conquer dual challenges in the workplace as members of two minority groups. We have to deal with the disadvantages of not just being a woman, but also being black. I’d like us to discuss how black professional women can break barriers and achieve success.  I am joined today by my client Simone. We are chatting about her experience with coaching after dealing with several...

Today I want to continue our conversation about desire. I want to talk about another reason why we dampen our success expectancy. We've been taught that our future success is based on how successful we have been in the past. The thing is, if most of us looked to our past to determine our future success, we would not have any hope of creating the desires of our hearts because our brain is going to...

Disappointment is the unhappiness you feel from the failure of something hoped for or expected to happen. This is the internal fear that you experience when it comes to wanting and desiring more. For a lot of us, we don't want to desire because we're unwilling to experience disappointment. So in this episode, I want to help us understand the disappointment in such a way that we are okay with exper...

In episode 44 we talked about how vital it is for us to have desire yet having desire is often viewed as greed. I want to offer that we can be grateful and still desire more. It is the desire that moves us and gives our life direction. Without this continuous stream of desiring, there would be no reason to do anything. So if we want the thing, we have to create the desire to want it. And if we wan...

If we want to attract a thing into our lives, it's first necessary to have a deep, burning desire for it. Desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. It is the mental state that is needed to cultivate anything for us at all. Such as those big goals that we have.  We may believe that it's only natural for people to want all manner of things, but often...

Why do we give so much credence to what others think of us? The truth is that we are responsible only for ourselves, and our own feelings. We are not responsible for the feelings of others, and we do not cause those feelings to surface. Just like for yourself, the feelings that they experience are those that they have created for themselves. Yet we regularly have the thought that OPT (other people...

Your mind is constantly filtering and bringing to your attention information that affirms your preexisting beliefs as well as presenting you with repeated thoughts and impulses that mirrors what you've done in the past. These thoughts are hidden beliefs that dictate the direction you go in and at which speed. Most of them are not actually serving you. I like to think of these thoughts as little du...