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Have you ever felt that when bad things happen, that must mean that you are not a good person, like, karma has come to get you? And so you go on a search to find what is wrong in hopes of fixing it so that everything will be good again. It’s like there is this hope in our wrongness. And it's not like, you feel wrong or something's wrong with you, it's more like you have a need to identify what tha...

Most of us know that dopamine is called the seeking hormone, the feel-good hormone but did you know that dopamine can also be called the predictive hormone?  You see, dopamine is released, when the world meets our expectations or exceeds them. This is why in scenarios even if there’s a negative outcome, meaning an outcome that we didn't really want, we still get a splash of dopamine. This is when...

How often do we push something to the side when we can’t decide on what to do or what we want, simply because we don’t want to own our decisions? I invite you to consider where indecision could be showing up in your life and how the things you are pushing aside affect your capacity to move forward. Because Queen, there is a cost associated with indecision, and especially for black women, this cost...

Today we are discussing one of the most common topics that my clients present to me during our coaching session. It comes in different variations but what it boils down to is that as high-achieving women we want to do more to reach a level of peace but that level is not attainable because as soon as we think we’ve reached the level, there is yet another mountain that we need to climb. It’s like so...

Are you playing squirrel with your decisions?  This happens when we make a decision and instead of honoring the decision, we keep remaking the same decision over and over again. We do this because deep down we think that the answer to accomplishing that decision is outside of us.  Queens everything you need is inside of you. You just have to make a decision and then honor it. This is what I want u...

In episode 85, we talk about failure and understanding and embracing that failure is the way to winning. We do this by looking at failure as data that we can use as a strategy to create epic shit without the drama.  This episode is a side note on failure. You see, the data we collect from our failure will reveal a lot to us but there are some things that failure won't teach us.  Press play to lear...

You know that saying, “If You Fail to Plan, You Are Planning to Fail”. Well, what if you decided that “I plan to fail therefore I plan to win”?  What if we understood and embraced that failure was the way to winning and if we don't plan to fail, we don't plan to win?     Listen, failure is data. It is information that we can use to analyze, reset and try again. The issue is often times we use that...

Last week in episode 83 we talk about how we are creating our future selves based on what we practice in the present. Right? What you do you GLUE.  This means that we created where we are, and we get to create where we want to go because we are the external force that keeps things in motion in our lives.  And so this week I want to focus on the force, us. Since we are the eternal force that create...

Newton's first law of motion says, a body at rest will remain at rest and a body in motion will remain in motion unless it is acted upon by an external force.  The reason why I bring this law of motion to your attention is that I have been thinking about why is it that we think thought work in somatic work and paying attention and changing and creating epic shit is difficult.  And I want to challe...

The doors of the next cohort of the Deeply Rooted Group Coaching Program officially opened on Sunday, June 19th.  For those of you who are thinking about joining this room full of women and would appreciate some insight on what you can expect, I have a treat for you. After the most recent weekly call with the current cohort, I just asked a couple of the participants to stay on and talk about what...

As high-achieving women, we are always leveling up and achieving new heights of success. One thing that is certain when you succeed is the various expectations that you place on yourself and that others place on you.  The weight of it all can be unbearable and leads to stress and anxiety that can break you down physically and emotionally.  This was true for our guest today, LaTida. After stepping...

Today we will continue our conversation about the ABCs that you need to accomplish epic shit.  Last week I shared that the C of the ABC is circulation. We must make a decision and commitment to circulate our epic shit into the world so that others can benefit. But before we can circulate effectively the first thing that we need to have is Agency. This is the belief that you know that you are capab...

I am fresh from my vacation where I spent some of that experience with my amazing coach and during that time I came to a realization that I want to share with you today. What I've noticed a lot is that people ask for coaching in one area but haven't addressed another and so the results that they expect aren't there. To put it another way, I’ll equate it to CPR. To effectively complete CPR you must...

Last week we played the what-if game. What if all these obnoxious thoughts we had on consistent bases had nothing to do with our worthiness yet they continue to hinder us from creating epic shit? Right. So if none of these thoughts have anything to do with us.  If it's not that we're wrong. If it's not that we're unworthy. If it has nothing to do with our past, then what is it? That is the questio...

Today we are going to play the what-if game. As high achieving women being marginalized and growing up in the way that we have, we've been conditioned with all these negative thoughts in our brains that we have to fight against on a daily basis. Things like I'm wrong. I'm unworthy. I can't do this. Who am I to think of doing some epic sh*t? What if those thoughts were wrong and the epic sh*t that...

Contrary to what you may have heard, in most cases, you get more benefit from sharing your desire than if you don't, and the most important person you need to share it with consistently is YOU.  I say we have to be obnoxious about ourselves, our goals/desires and what we want to do, and who we want to be when it comes to creating a new self-concept.  What do I mean by this? Listen in to learn more...

Have you ever thought to yourself, “they don't get me”? Listen, if you're a high-achieving black woman, you’re probably talking about some things that some people don't get.  Here is the thing, secretly we want them to get us. This is a primal instinct to want to feel like we are understood and we belong. So when we're different, and people start making reference to it. There's this discomfort. An...

Do you know how these series get us hooked and cause us to binge-watch? It's because they end each episode with a cliffhanger that leaves your brain wanting to know and figure out what will happen next. And so you keep watching one episode after another until you’ve binge-watched the series.  In this same way, our life can be a series of cliffhangers but these cliffhangers keep us living our past,...

If you are old enough to have played Candyman as a child you can remember entering a dimly lit room (usually the bathroom), standing in front of a mirror, and saying the name "Candyman" five times in a row. The expectation is that the monster will show up behind you. This experience caused you to intentionally put yourself in a scary situation. I remember being so scared that I would never make it...

I always say that safe people create epic shit and do it in a sustainable way but how do you develop an internal feeling of safety? You may wonder if or even believe that a haven of serenity exists inside of you, but it does. Queens, it does.  Our guest today, Sherina Hill, Life + Business Coach will share how her experience with coaching led to her feeling a deep internal self-generated safety ro...

Attached to form means that you are attached to the way you think something is supposed to look. You have a singular idea of how you are supposed to achieve something.  For example, let's say your goal is to have an amazing relationship or even marriage. And so you are dating a wonderful person and that relationship does not work out. If you are attached to form then your grieving process of the l...

You guys know how I am always talking about self-coaching, right? That’s because I truly believe that it is a powerful tool to aid in your growth on your journey to accomplish epic shit. We all hold limiting beliefs and thought patterns we are not aware of. Self-coaching will assist you in managing these thoughts so that you can create the future you desire and then expand your vision to help you...

Do you know what a Cyborg is?  Don't run to google, I'll tell you. According to dictionary.com, a Cyborg is a person whose physiological functioning is aided by or dependent upon a mechanical or electronic device. Often times when things happen to us in life we forget that we are human beings having a human experience and that includes us experiencing all the emotions that we feel and it's okay. I...

As a coach of high-achieving women, I find that so many of us have stopped dreaming. Our ancestors sacrificed for us so that we have what they dreamed of and now that we are successful and comfortable we have stopped dreaming. There are many reasons for this that include us not waiting to fail or appear to be greedy.  As you know, my mission is to help high-achieving women become their best selves...

Today's episode is not only inspiring, it's downright amazing. You'll be hearing from my private client, Lenora, as she shares her story of transformation. Even though she was hesitant about coaching she ultimately made the decision to commit to herself and make the investment. As you’ll her say, she could have gone and taken a trip or spent the money elsewhere, but once that's over, she was going...