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I once heard the saying that “the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your questions.” I thought this was so fascinating and then I also had the thought that the one thing that we rarely question is our thoughts. We rarely ask ourselves, “why are you thinking that?”  Every day the average person has an average of 12,000–60,000 thoughts a day. These thoughts can range from a differe...

Our brain will offer us all kinds of thoughts, especially the thoughts it’s used to thinking. But just because these thoughts are familiar doesn't mean that they are useful. Our brains are doing what it was designed to do. It’s being efficient but we don’t want our minds running loose with destructive or unmonitored thoughts. Therefore we must monitor the thoughts and then manage and redirect them...

Are you on the journey to get your life? Then it may be time to think about life coaching. A life coach acts as a guide to assist you in retraining your mind by adopting new ways of thinking, which can involve replacing harmful beliefs with positive and affirming ones in order for you to reach personal and professional fulfillment. Think of a life coach as someone whose literal job is to help you...

“Imagine meeting someone who wants to learn your past not to punish you but to understand how you need to be loved”. – Unknown As I reenter the world of dating I have been self-coaching on how I feel about this process. I find myself pondering the thought of how we show up to a date with the intention to actually get to know the other person and determine if there is a connection. I’ve also been t...

We all know that life comes with unavoidable physical and emotional pain. That seems to be a non-negotiable part of the deal. The negotiable part is how much time you will spend worrying about it.  If you have a legitimate reason to be stressed; then let yourself worry; it’s normal but I challenge you to adapt the concept of a Worry Window so that you are not using precious energy to worry when it...

In this episode, I discuss a few random topics that I have on my mind. This is a rant where I coach you through some thoughts that may be blocking your potential. I know you have heard me say it before but our thoughts must be managed if we want to move past our self-imposed barriers. Let's talk about how you can do that. Press play to catch these gems.   RESOURCES MENTIONED — Join the Next Master...

Did you know that Black women are 80% more likely than women of other races to change their natural hair to meet social norms or expectations at work? Narrow beauty standards make it difficult for black women to freely celebrate their own beauty. While all women experience pressure to conform to certain standards of appearance, society’s bias has resulted in unfair judgment and discrimination agai...

The need to succeed is a natural human desire, yet for Black women, our success is beyond simple bragging rights or a pat on the back. Our success represents something bigger than our own personal victory. The issue is that this desire presents an added pressure to be perfect and not mess up because we constantly feel the responsibility to not fail, we cannot afford to fail. Unfortunately, this pr...

A life coach is someone whose expertise is to support you in enhancing your life. A life coach acts as a guide to assist you in retraining your mind by adopting new ways of thinking, which can involve replacing harmful beliefs with positive and affirming ones in order for you to reach personal and professional fulfillment. Basically, you can think of a life coach as someone whose literal job is to...

We are not our thoughts. Thoughts are merely thoughts, they do not paint the picture of who we are.  It’s not our thoughts themselves that bring things to fruition, it’s our actions. And so it is important to manage our thoughts so that we will take actions that will actually serve us. It’s all about being aware that the intrusive, scary thoughts are merely unsubstantial nothingness that we should...

Our minds contain many different perspectives, and they can empower or demotivate us. The self-talk in our heads is responsible for so many of our failures and why we think the way we do. Oftentimes we dismiss our thoughts because it seems rational or accurate but it is not always true. When your mind starts saying dreadful things to yourself, don’t let your mind get away with it. This is your sur...

Women swear sometimes so let's get over it. Patriarchy punishes women for profanity because it wants us to forever remain within the straitjacket of niceness and politeness. Well, I say F**k the patriarchy. I think that is ridiculous and I want us to have a conversation about it. Join me on this episode along with some bada** life coaches, Corinne Crabtree , Susan Hyatt ,  Angela Mascenik, and Kar...

Do you feel like you've accomplished a lot, but you still have more big scary goals that you want to achieve? You tell yourself “things are great right now, I don't want to mess it up by starting something new”. Although you try to push those goals to the side, they remain persistent. Perhaps launching a new business is your big scary goal. You dread leaving your goodt goodt  job and having to giv...

It’s easy to have high aspirations. It’s much less easy to make those dreams and goals a reality. The truth is, many of us struggle with committing to bet on ourselves and go after our dreams and goals. Instead, you settle for the status quo. After all, you’ve made it.  You build the career of your dreams and now you have the goodt, goodt job, the house, and the car. You are living the life yet yo...

You are in for a treat with this episode! I am joined by a special guest, Dr. Koritha Mitchell. Listen in as we discuss homemade citizenship, the concept of creating your own belonging; discursive violence, the cruelty of stereotypes determining people’s impressions regardless of what you do; and know-your-place aggression, the backlash against Black and Brown success. We will go into detail about...

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are necessary to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset. Success in reaching our goals is determined by our mindsets. When you believe that we can achieve a goal our energy and actions will reflect that also. In today’s episode, I will share with yo...

When we know how our mind works, we begin to see our thoughts in a new, truly empowering way. When we truly see the nature of thought for ourselves, our thoughts no longer have the weight they used to. Oftentimes these thoughts will come and go like clouds passing by in the sky. But what happens when this is not the case. When a thought is more persistent. Those are the times that you have to wres...

Relationships are challenging and when you enter a relationship while toting along all sorts of baggage and actively hiding parts of yours yourself in an effort not to appear as the angry black woman, this can cause stress, anxiety, and resentment. I am here to encourage you to not do that to yourself. Not only for your personal sanity, but also out of respect for the person you love. They deserve...

The angry black woman stereotype shapes how others read and interpret the actions of Black women including how we treat our men.  The angry black woman is portrayed as a woman who is stubborn and unreasonably quick to anger who enjoys emasculating the men close to them. Now, to emasculate means “to make a man feel less male by taking away his power and confidence”. Is it really possible for anothe...

In this episode we will focus on how the black woman’s experience is unique to that of black men and white women because even at home when we are relieved of the racial burden we are still carrying the load of the gender bias due to the Patriarchy. The patriarchy punishes women for having an opinion about anything because it wants us to forever remain within the straitjacket of niceness and polite...

Today we are continuing the series on the angry black woman stereotype. We are on a mission to reject the labels society has assigned to anger and will instead choose to see anger as an emotion that is part of the human experience and a tool that can help you become a better person. In this episode, we will be focusing on how to use your anger for you. Anger can be positive energy and a very power...

Today I have another client spotlight for you. This story is amazing and I am sure that you will gain some valuable insight that you can apply in your own life. My guest today is Angela. Angela is a rock star and her transformation has only made her light shine even brighter. You will hear as Angela shares her journey from being a high –achieving woman who focused on all the actions and not seeing...

I love the quote that says “other people's opinion of me is none of my business”. It is so true. When others say something critical we tend to feel negative emotions about what was said because we make their judgments mean something about us in our minds. This can lead us to spend our limited and valuable emotional energy worrying about what other people think about us, instead of focusing on livi...

Why do others get the right to be angry and not black women? Why are we charged with managing how others see us as if that is even possible? We are entitled to feel our anger and any other emotion. This is part of our experience and should not be shunned because of society’s narrative. If you have been conforming to this cultural stereotype, then I want to encourage you to start today by giving yo...

Is your mind stuck running on a hamster wheel that you can’t get off of? This is when your mind goes round and round with intrusive repetitive thoughts leaving you stressed out and exhausted. In today’s episode, my client Marcia will share with you her experience on the mental hamster wheel and how she used coaching with me to put her thoughts in check, get clear on her desires and take control of...