The Better Sex Podcast ~ Unfiltered Conversations

We're glad you're here!   Expectations about pleasure, and the messages you get about what it means to be a sexual being, are often deep. But I want you to know that it is possible to embrace pleasure —and that it is possible to find joy in your body and in the world around you.    In today's episode of The Better Sex Podcast, we are joined by M'kali-Hashiki. M'Kali is a Somatic Sacred Storyteller...

Our whole lives are sex. Yes, you read that right. And I don't mean it literally. Sometimes sex is boring; other times, it is exciting–which is pretty much like it.   Here's a truth about sex– it's not just about you getting an orgasm; forget about penetration; it's just part of it. The truth is, sex feels good and even feels best when it touches parts of us that haven't felt good in a while; it c...

You know that feeling when you're out in the world, and you feel safe? You know what I mean, right? It's that feeling that lets you breathe a little easier, and allows you to be yourself and do whatever you want—the ones that make you feel like there's no way out.   And it's also that same feeling when you're in bed with your partner and do the intense moments the way you desire. We all want this...

The key to better sex is to understand ourselves– what makes us feel good and what doesn't. Women are often not given the chance to rule in bed or they aren't even asked if they are enjoying the moment.  Communicating and understanding what we want as a woman allows us to live with more connection and pleasurable experience that suffices our desires and erotic fantasies– this is where real empower...

We don't think about it a lot, but our emotional and spiritual health plays a HUGE role in our sex life. This week, I've invited relationships expert and author Sequoia Stafford onto the show to unpack some of the less-obvious causes of challenges people run into in the bedroom - from erectile dysfunction to jealousy.  Join Sequoia and I as we discuss: Sequoia's healing journey and experiences wit...

Thea grew up in a traditional family where she was taught nothing about sex/intimacy/relating to others formally. She learned what she saw, did what she was told, and followed the path that she was promised would produce success... but when that path left her a newly divorced, stay-at-home mom of two kids in her late 20s, she decided it was time to try something different.  On her quest to learn w...

Our guests' beginnings - Suzannah with a political and military background and Andre with a focus on love and relationships - couldn't be more different, but their meeting transformed their lives. When their traditional marriages ended and forced them to look at how they wanted to live for the first time in a long time, they found each other again and vowed to explore new ways of building relation...

When it comes to embodying our power, discovering what we want, and honoring our emotions, there are SO many awesome resources out there for women… but our men often get left out of these conversations   This week's guest, Karen Brody, is on a mission to fix that by giving men the space, permission, and support to connect with their potential and power.    If you're a man ready to get what you wan...

Over the course of her life, LiSara has been everything from a forensic linguist to a performer, to a trade show marketer, to a leadership coach. Though her life has called her to many different roles and places, her varied experience revealed one constant truth: sound is powerful.  As a relationship coach, LiSara witnessed sound's power to heal trauma. As a leadership coach, she marveled at how s...

Buckle up, sexy spirits! This episode is a transformative one.    This week's guest Spirit Child is a revolutionary somatic practitioner who has never been a fan of the boxes we put ourselves in. They've made it their life's work to help people find liberation from stereotypes and shame - inside and outside of the bedroom.    In this episode, Spirit explores how ancestry and culture assign stereot...

When Lindy James walked into her first Tantra event with her friends, she really didn't know what to expect. Did Tantra require you to be naked? Would she be having sex? What the heck was she getting herself into? But instead of finding the intimidating orgies she had pictured, Lindy found a place of healing, empowerment, and freedom.  She left that event knowing she needed to be a part of this wo...

Better Art = Better Sex? Does becoming a better artist make you better at sex? And does becoming better at sex make you better at art? According to this week's guest, Artist and Sex Coach Rafael Martinez, the answer to both questions is yes - and he's here to show us how that's possible. In this episode, Rafael and I explore the relationship between sex and art, what Kundalini energy has to do wit...

After leaving a sexless marriage at age 30, Sky Studley felt adrift. Her body was changing, she was a single mom, and she felt more disconnected from herself and others than ever before. Sky tried therapy, but it wasn't until she learned about sex and relationship coaching that her body was able to start processing things. Only then did her healing really start to begin. Now a Life and Relationshi...

  I often talk about my Leather Daddy or my BDSM mentor I am beyond thrilled to have Ken as my guest. Though he's always had a love for tying people up, Ken Zane didn't connect with the BDSM aspect of this affinity until he was stationed in Germany. There, he found an amazing community that introduced him to BDSM play - and unlocked his passion for being Dominant. But the more BSDM communities Ken...

The Three Keys to Great Sex and Fulfilling Relationships This week's incredible guest, Sheba, Queen of the Night, began her career as a traditional stage actress, but a fated performance of the Vagina Monologues changed everything. That show became her life for the next 11 years, and opened her up to a world of sex, dance, creativity, pleasure, and kinks in the process. Now an Erotic Artist and Se...

Tarot and You: A Conversation with Wizard and Business Coach Sage Lee I don't know about you, but when I have a fight with my partner or less-than-stellar sex, my first move isn't to consult my tarot deck - but after this episode, that might change.    In this week's unfiltered conversation, wizard and relationship coach Sage Lee pulls back the curtain on the power tarot has to reveal the true cha...

Chemistry is essential for great sex - and it isn't as elusive or accidental as we make it out to be. In fact, how we experience chemistry can be a BIG indicator of blockages or unhealed patterns within ourselves.  This week, I've invited Hema - a gifted psychic, energy healer, and certified Tantra Instructor -  on to the podcast to take us through what contributes to chemistry, teach us how to us...

Born in rural Eastern Europe, sex coach Lyuba Venable was raised with the understanding that women were to be married off and sex was only for men to enjoy. She lived by these rules... until a chance encounter with a stranger transformed her idea of what sex could be - and who it could be for. In this episode, sex coach Lyuba Venable shares her compelling journey from a subservient wife to a multi...

Episode 2: Sexual Healing with Lucia Pavone In this episode, Deborah Kat interviews Lucia Pavone, a somatic sex mentor. Lucia began her journey of sexual emancipation began over 17 years ago when she took a  sensuality course. Quickly realizing that the pursuit of pleasure was her calling,  she became a dedicated researcher of communication, relationships and sensuality. Since then, she's trained...

Welcome to the first episode of the Better Sex Podcast, where we feature unfiltered conversations about sex and relationships! In this episode, host Deborah Kat explains what to expect from this podcast, provides a peek into her work as a sex and relationship coach, and explores the unexpected ways some romantic narratives can wreak havoc with our sex lives.  Connect with Deborah:  Website: https:...