The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that apply to all breakups.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Instagram |  Courses | Events | Blog |  Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don't undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means 'mean' goals versus end goals. This week's listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself h...

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with...

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn't get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is 'better', and why there's no need to tell someone you don't like them. This week's listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she lear...

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling reje...

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week's listener question is about how to broa...

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn't seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge gr...

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week's listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a 'good listener', plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. Th...

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a m...

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you're in a relationship, and explains why it's never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week's listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when...

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw....

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and the...

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn't get too carried away by 'graduation goggles'. This week's listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week...

Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people that validate and increase negative feelings, and why setting a time to worry can break a worry habit. This week's listener question is about whether to confront a friend that seems to be pulling back and Natalie shares what she learned this week. The...

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week's listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on t...

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me" . This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_...

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Sou...

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money o...

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by...

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish betwe...

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares...

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. 
 Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to ho...

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'n...

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it's not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week's listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about 'overreacting'. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what...

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she's glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week's listener wants to know if the guys she's dating are "too emotional" and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of th...