The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we can be fearful of allowing ourselves to be 'too happy', the over-apologising, and shares a couple of questions we can ask ourselves about whether love is transforming us into more or less of who we are. This week's listener question is, Should I contact him and try to tell him that he is worthy of love and avoidant?, plus Natalie shares what she's learne...

In this episode, Natalie talks about #relationshipgoals, what it means when we acknowledge that we're the common denominator, and why whether we want to be in a relationship or not, we must choose it from a positive place. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop feeling guilty over my breakup that I didn't even instigate?', plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast...

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of considering how your future self would respond to a situation that you're in right now, plus talks about how to have better boundaries with loved ones who tend to ruin birthdays and other big occasions in your life, and explains why it's totally unnecessary for someone to point out that you're both 'grown-ups' when they're trying to get you to...

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of acknowledging your progress by acknowledging personal anniversaries of big decisions, 3 key areas where you can make big strides in changing your responses to conflict, and why it's best to take a bigger picture view with Valentine's Day. This week's listener question is, Is it a red flag that my boyfriend doesn't ask me questions about myself...

In this episode, Natalie talks through ten key reasons that more than justify breaking up, shares how she navigated her way out of negative feelings, and why it's important to hug yourself. This week's listener question is, Is anyone honest online? plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Instagram |  Courses | Events | Blog |  Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what we can learn from our stuckness with our career, shares questions and ideas to help you get your self-care routine up and running, and talks about her intention to bring some minimalism into her life. This week's listener question is about how to overcome irrational jealousy and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about slowing down.  Email: podcas...

In this episode, Natalie shares the key lessons she learned in 2016, sharing stories and anecdotes on subjects including how she had her first drama-free Christmas and New Year for the first time in a very long time, how she learned that life really is a funny albeit at times, twisted teacher, and why everything comes in useful so even if we don't get why we're doing something, it's often prepping...

In this episode, Natalie talks about what interdependence means, the factors that affect our bounce-back rate, and how family's attitude towards 'borrowing' money is a lesson about remembering to walk around the trap. This week's listener question is, Why haven't I moved on when I'm the one who walked away?, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Ins...

Abbie thought that her heart was healing when a few months after her devastating breakup, a guy at work was devoting himself to her and telling anyone who would listen that she was 'The One'. One year later it was all over, with him claiming he'd pretended to be someone he's not, while also telling her what an awful person she is. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook...

This week, Natalie talks about why romance isn't the same as intimacy, why we don't have to get stressed over our uncomfortable dreams, and shares tips for avoiding being catfished. This week's listener question is about how to come to terms with widowhood, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Instagram |  Courses | Events | Blog |  Membership

Taylor and Greg's 18-month relationship ended when she boiled over with resentment about his lack of effort and his unwillingness to address anything while at the same time insisting that he didn't want to end the relationship. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Instagram |  Courses | Events | Blog |  Membership

This week, Natalie talks about what to do about having more ideas than time, shares tips to ensure that you don't get drawn into the same drama with a family member, and explains why having too much expectation of our judgment with a stranger damages our confidence and ability to trust. This week's listener question is about how to figure out whether the girlfriend is lying about the soon-to-be ex...

Natalie talks about the benefits of a social media diet, how to use a Stop, Start, Continue to inspire change when we're self-critical, and why we don't need to turn simple decisions into life decisions. This week's listener question is about whether to give up online dating, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Instagram |  Courses | Events | Blog...

When Tim told Stéphane during their first deep conversation that he has a condition that causes him to disassociate from his feelings and yet he kept feeling compelled to be around her and act differently with her, she couldn't help but think that they had something special. Unfortunately, once they did get together, it was over before it even really began.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com   Ins...

Natalie talks about why we've got to stop making snap judgements about who's 'nice', how to respond to loved ones whose opinions differ from ours from a place of love, care trust and respect, and why it might not be a good idea to send the card/text to your ex. This week's listener question is, Why would an ex want to connect on LinkedIn rather than any other media? and Natalie shares what she lea...

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Joanne is still wounded after her brief involvement with her longtime crush ended after they slept together. She thinks that it was her having the STD that he said he was OK with because he was so sure their relationship was going to work out but he said that it's because she's not "geeky enough" due to not playing board games or reading comic books.  Email:...

Natalie talks about why we need to stop criticising ourselves for not being more self-disciplined in areas where we've had to give up something or make a big change, plus she talks about some of the causes of gifting stress and why the commitment-dodging ex is being intense with the new flame. This week's listener question is about feeling rejected because their partner doesn't want to cuddle all...

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Zoe was devastated after her partner of six years went to visit family for a few weeks, cut contact and secretly started a relationship with an old girlfriend from his school days. During their six years, Zoe sunk her entire inheritance into clearing gambling debt after gambling debt and grappled with anxiety and insecurity due to the instability and his con...

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arrangements during the holiday season, and explains why we have to be careful of being over-committed to goals. This week's listener question is, How do I forgive myself for being the rebound and the booty call? and Natalie shares what she learned this...

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off with her boyfriend of four years. Her co-worker, Joe, didn't follow suit and so began four months of deep pain, lies and confusion which culminated in her ending it when she found out that he was going on holiday with the fiancé he claimed to no long...

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being shady or not meeting our expectations is not about our inadequacies but teaching us lessons on how some people are, and the importance of giving up small satisfaction today for greater satisfaction in future. This week's listener question is about whet...

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance of distinguishing between the experiencing and remembering self, and what to do when someone ignores you and then makes out that it's you who's ignoring them. This week's listener question is about whether her boyfriend living with another woman and r...

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key habits that are a block to it, and how we avoid answering a question by replacing it with something else. This week's listener question is about how do we deal with people who clearly feel superior, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Em...

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on around you so that you can broaden your perspective. This week's listener question is about when to recognise that reflection after a breakup has become rumination, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com...

In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whether you want to commit to that person. Plus, Nat talks about why it's not a good idea to seek admiration, approval and validation, and why we don't need to advertise our insecurities and old hurt. This week's listener question is about whether it's w...