The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

We all face problems every day, right? Some are big, some are small, but we all face them. You could even say that life is basically a series of problems that we need to deal with.   The question is, what causes them and how do we solve them?   Well, today's episode is part three of a 7-part series where Roy shares pithy, powerful wisdom from some of the most respected gurus, mystics and masters t...

Do you want to find your life partner? Stupid question, right? Of course you do. You've had enough disappointing, unhealthy, short-lived relationships and you want something healthy and lasting.   The question is, how? How do you find your life partner in today's crazy, digital world?   Well, today's episode is part two of a 7-part series where Roy shares pithy, powerful wisdom from some of the mo...

Do you want to be happy? Stupid question, right? All of us want to be happy, to live with a felt sense of well-being. And not just a moment of happiness here and there, but a consistent experience of fulfillment and inner peace.   The question is, how? How can we be happy—consistently—especially since we all know that "shit happens" and circumstances are unpredictable and often difficult?   Well,...

It might be safe to say that expectations are the key (or the demise) of intimate relationships. If our relationship expectations are met, we're happy. If they're not, we're unhappy. So, what we expect is extremely important.   In this episode, Roy shares a talk given by Michael Singer (author of The Untethered Soul ), where he points out that almost everyone expects that a relationship will meet...

Unless you've been living under a rock, you know there's a huge controversy raging these days concerning trans people, gender identity, personal pronouns, and the whole binary vs. non-binary discussion.   In this episode, Roy shares that gender identity changes depending on if you're coming from a biological, energetic, or spiritual perspective.   For example, the conservate "right," coming from a...

Sex is an important part of any intimate relationship, and yet there are many issues to discuss when it comes to sex and being good in bed. For example, some people lack sexual desire and find it difficult to feel chemistry at all. Others can't have an orgasm, or can't get an erection, or can't last more than a minute or two.   While this episode is not about techniques or sexual positions, it is...

On the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four "seasons" or phases. And within each "season," there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last.   In this episode, Roy addresses the fourth and final "season," which is, Construction . Once you've gotten yourself "in shape" for something real (the prepa...

On the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four "seasons" or phases. And within each "season," there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last.   In this episode, Roy addresses the third "season," which is, Exploration . Once you've gotten yourself "in shape" for something real (the preparation seaso...

On the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four "seasons" or phases. And within each "season," there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last.   In this episode, Roy addresses the second "season," which is, Attraction , and it's largely a discussion about chemistry. There are so many issues to consi...

On the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four "seasons" or phases. And within each "season," there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last.   In this episode, Roy addresses the first "season," which is, Preparation . Just as the key to being successful in a marathon or triathlon is about how we p...

In episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this...

In episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this...

In episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this...

This is the fifth and final installment of the "Quantum Questions" series and it might be the most life-changing question of all:  What Is My Personality (Enneagram) Type and How Is It Sabotaging My Life & Love Life? Roy, our host, often says to his clients, "If I had a prayer it would be: 'God, please make my clients fall in love with the Enneagram'." It's that important. The Enneagram is a profo...

In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the fourth quantum question,  Why Am I Single? What if it's not because "all the good ones are taken or gay," or because "I've just not met the right person yet," or because...

In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the third quantum question,  Why Don't I Feel Alive, Passionate & Motivated? Very few of us feel so depressed that we can hardly get out of bed in the morning. But if we're...

In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the second quantum question,  What Am I REALLY Feeling? , and it's all about growing in both emotional and body intelligence. Many of us "live in our heads," having lost con...

In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. The first question, What's Here, Now? , not only explains what it means to be present, but it equips us with our "unarguable truth" which is the key to relating authentically. If you want to attr...

Many people feel like they have a knack, or a particular skill, for picking the absolutely wrong partners. They feel like they always choose the people the shouldn't, and for some reason, reject the very people they should. If you've ever felt like your "picker" is broken, then don't miss this episode. The host, Roy Biancalana, offers 2 options on how to end up with the person best suited for you....

Michael Singer has famously said, "We treat our minds like God or Guru, but it doesn't know anything! It's wrong all the time, yet we still listen to it. Ignore the mind as you would a financial advisor whose advice has always been wrong." In this playful yet powerful episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, explains that we all have a "relationship coach" living in your heads and if we want to have a m...

It's not a matter of IF you will go through a break up (or a divorce or get dumped), but WHEN . It's just a part of life, we all go through it. You've probably been there. Our host, Roy, certainly has. Multiple times, in fact. Most of us have experienced the ending of a significant relationship. It doesn't matter if you are the dump-er or the dump-ee, how you handle a break up will, in large part,...

A "relationship persona" is a fear-based way of relating that always leads to drama and unhealthy, short-term relationships. In this episode, Roy Biancalana outlines 9 of the most common relationship personas and shows how they sabotage our ability to attract lasting love. If you want a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship, then you must discover and dissolve your relationship persona. So,...

Most of us love watching drama on TV or in movies, but not so much when it happens in our own lives. In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, discusses two kinds of drama: internal turbulence or suffering and external conflict or discord. You will learn not only about "the drama triangle," a model that explains the three roles we (and others) play when drama is occurring, but more importantly, b...

Unless you've been living under a rock, you're aware of the incident between Will Smith and Chris Rock at the 2022 Oscars. In this episode, our host Roy Biancalana, doesn't spend much time dissecting what happened—everyone has done that. No, he talks about what we can learn from Will Smith, because all of us get triggered to one degree or another. We all know that if we act on our triggers and the...

Those of us who listen to podcasts (or read books) are usually interested in learning, change and growth. It's in our nature. And yet, genuine, measurable growth, the kind that is clearly recognizable to us and everyone else around us, is rare at worst and slow at best. Why? Why is change and genuine growth so difficult and rare? Well, in part one of this three part series, our host, Roy Biancalan...