The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

Experiencing dark, difficult emotions is a normal and natural part of life. They happen to all of us. And yet very few of us are taught how to handle "dark matters" like loneliness, anxiety, insecurity, resentment, and depression—all of which are all addressed in this 5-part series. In this episode, Roy focuses on resentment. While anger itself is a difficult emotion, when it's allowed to fester a...

Experiencing dark, difficult emotions is a normal and natural part of life. They happen to all of us. And yet very few of us are taught how to handle "dark matters" like loneliness, anxiety, insecurity, resentment, and depression—all of which are all addressed in this 5-part series. In this episode, Roy focuses on insecurity. This feeling is the root cause of many other difficult emotions like peo...

Experiencing dark, difficult emotions is a normal and natural part of life. They happen to all of us. And yet very few of us are taught how to handle "dark matters" like loneliness, anxiety, insecurity, resentment and depression—all of which are all addressed in this 5-part series.   In this episode, Roy focuses on anxiety. While it appears that this dark emotion comes out of nowhere and arises wi...

Experiencing dark, difficult emotions is a normal and natural part of life. They happen to all of us. And yet very few of us are taught how to handle "dark matters" like loneliness, anxiety, insecurity, resentment and depression—all of which are all addressed in this 5-part series.   Since this episode drops on Valentine's Day, Roy focuses what many single people experience on V-Day: Loneliness.  ...

There is definitely one thing you DON'T have in common with "Punxsutawney Phil." If he sees his shadow on February 2, it's bad news. It means there's going to be 6 more weeks of winter.   But if you see your shadow—on any day!—it's good news! It means you're ready to create a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship.   In this episode, Roy playfully and creatively uses "Phil" and the legend of...

Some movies do more than just entertain us; they sometimes contain a message that inspires us or shows us a deeper, more conscious way of living or loving.   In this episode, Roy points to three movies ( The Holiday, Jerry McGuire & As Good as it Gets ) and shows how each of them have something important to say about "the path to healthy connections."   If you are interested in a playful, yet powe...

Some movies do more than just entertain us; they sometimes contain a message that inspires us or shows us a deeper, more conscious way of living or loving.   In this episode, Roy points to three movies ( Runaway Bride, Pleasantville & Liar, Liar ) and shows how each of them have something important to say about "the path to authentic living."   If you are interested in a playful, yet powerful way...

Some movies do more than just entertain us; they sometimes contain a message that inspires us or shows us a deeper, more conscious way of living or loving.   In this episode, Roy points to three movies ( Braveheart, Forrest Gump & Yes, Man! ) and shows how each of them have something important to say about "the path to happiness."   If you are interested in a playful, yet powerful way to learn how...

Perhaps the strangest thing about online dating is that although almost everyone is doing it, hardly anyone likes it. And that's unfortunate because it has proven to be an effective way to meet your life partner.   But online dating can really be a horrible experience. In fact, the first thing Roy teaches when it comes to dating online is you better have a sense of humor!   So, if you are consider...

One of the most common New Year's Resolutions is to lose weight and get in shape. And yet, we all know how rarely that resolution is realized.   Why do we struggle so often to keep our resolutions to lose weight? It's not that we don't mean it, and it's not that we don't really feel it's important. We do. We sincerely do. And yet that stats show that most of us will weigh more at this time next ye...

For 90+ episodes, Roy's been sharing wisdom and insight on how to attract healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. He's also spoken about the value of coaching: how it changed the trajectory of his love life and how it can do the same for you.   So, in this episode, Roy does something that is long overdue. He goes into detail on his 4-month, individual coaching program. He shares not only wha...

Ram Dass, a famous spiritual teacher once said, "If you think you're enlightened, go spend two weeks with your family." He's being funny, but he's got a point, doesn't he?   With the holidays upon us, the thought of spending time with our families might make some of us giddy with anticipation, but others of us might be dreading it. As much as we love our families, being around them can trigger old...

Sometimes right-leaning Fox News and left-leaning CNN have guests on their networks to share an opposing point of view, and that's admirable. They give those who disagree with them an opportunity to share their perspective. Well, in this episode, Roy does the same thing.   In this episode, Roy turns the mic over to someone who stands against everything he stands for.   As you'll hear, Roy admits i...

The new year is right around the corner and if you want a truly magnificent 2023, one where new and wonderful things come into your life, then you must create space for what wants to emerge.   For example, if you want to buy new furniture, then you must first make space for it by clearing away your old furniture. So, in this episode, Roy asks us to "touch" every area of our lives and determine if...

In previous episodes, Roy has shared a list of his favorite personal growth books (#30), his favorite personal growth questions (#'s 62-66), and his favorite personal growth quotes (#'s 77-82). But now, in this episode, he shares his favorite personal growth tools.   The tools he mentions are things he has practiced and still practices to this very day. The premise is simple: Loving yourself means...

Who are you more attracted to: a person who bitches, moans and complains about everything, or a person who is grateful, appreciative and thankful? The answer is obvious, wouldn't you say? But who doesn't struggle, at times, with negativity, complaining and feeling entitled?   Well, in this Thanksgiving edition of the podcast, Roy talks about gratitude—not just for this time of year—but as a way of...

Have you heard the cliché, "what you see is what you get"? It points to the truth that our beliefs create our realities. In other words, if we see the world in a certain way—for example, if we believe that there is a scarcity of quality, available partners—the world will show up that way.   Having a scarcity mindset is probably THE most common, self-sabotaging barrier to attracting lasting love. T...

Have you ever thought of being a coach? There are three reasons to consider it.   First, you get to make an impact in people's lives. Second, you get to live a life of independence (you work when you want and with whom you want). And lastly, you can make a six-figure income being a coach.   For those reasons, Roy believes being a coach is the best career in the world.   In this episode, Roy discus...

In this Halloween edition of the podcast, Roy takes a playful but important look at how and why we wear relationship "masks" or "costumes"—and how this keeps us from experiencing healthy, authentic relationships.   It's fine to go to a Halloween party dressed up as someone you're not; in fact, it can be fun to play a role, and for a short time, be someone you're not.   But it's not fun if it's hap...

There are "forks" in everyone's relationship road, critical choice-points that often determine the direction of your love life.   Some are major and obvious—the decision to be exclusive or to be sexual or to move in with one another, to name a few—but others are more subtle…but no less important.   In this episode, Roy talks about 3 "subtle forks in your relationship road." Though they are subtle...

Connecting with another human being in a healthy, sustainable way can seem really complicated—and that might be because us relationship experts make it seem that way—but what if it's as simple as being a great listener?   In this episode, Roy shares that although most of us know that communication is the key to relationships, we often forget that communication has two parts: speaking AND listening...

Some people love drama, but I'm guessing you're not one of them, right? I bet you're sick of it. Have you had it up to here with drama and all the shit that goes on in relationships?   Well, today's episode is the final part of a 7-part series where Roy shares pithy, powerful wisdom from some of the most respected gurus, mystics and masters that have ever lived.   But here's the thing: The author...

Relationships are fraught with "fork-in-the-road" moments, crossroads when it seems you must figure something out or make a decision.   "How do I figure out if there's enough chemistry to continue seeing them?" "When do I bring up the issue of taking our profiles down?" "When should we have the exclusivity conversation?" "Is it too soon to have sex? How do I know? "Is that a red flag issue? How ca...

Do you have trouble letting go of the past and all of its pain? Who among us doesn't have some "baggage" and trust issues?   We all know we need to let go and live and relate with an open, available heart, but how? How do we let go so that the past is merely something that happen-ed, and not something that is happen-ing?   Well, today's episode is part five of a 7-part series where I share pithy,...

We all want to connect authentically but communicating in today's complicated world is really tough. The online world is filled with liars, losers and lunatics, and let's face it: people play games.   Given that, how are we to create authentic connections?   Well, today's episode is part four of a 7-part series where I share pithy, powerful wisdom from some of the most respected gurus, mystics and...