The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

All human beings have five core "wants." These are deep, fundamental emotional needs and they're universal. They aren't bad or wrong, they're human. No matter who you are, we all want security, approval, control, connection, and freedom.   Here's the premise in this 5-part series: Whenever we feel triggered, upset or reactive, it's not because of what's happening on the surface, meaning, it's not...

All human beings have five core "wants." These are deep, fundamental emotional needs and they're universal. They aren't bad or wrong, they're human. No matter who you are, we all want security, approval, control, connection, and freedom.   Here's the premise in this 5-part series: Whenever we feel triggered, upset or reactive, it's not because of what's happening on the surface, meaning, it's not...

All human beings have five core "wants." These are deep, fundamental emotional needs and they're universal. They aren't bad or wrong, they're human. No matter who you are, we all want security, approval, control, connection, and freedom.   Here's the premise in this 5-part series: Whenever we feel triggered, upset or reactive, it's not because of what's happening on the surface, meaning, it's not...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is the last of an 8-part series, the "quantum insight" is about The Last Time , and it comes from Sam Ha...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part seven of an 8-part series, the "quantum insight" is about Medicine Journeys , how substances lik...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part six of an 8-part series, the "quantum insight" is about our Personality Blind Spots, and it come...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part five of an 8-part series, the "quantum insight" is about Sexual Polarity , and it comes from one...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part four of an 8-part series, the "quantum insight" is about Body Intelligence , and it comes from R...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part three of a 7-part series, the "quantum insight" is about The Success Formula , and it comes from...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part two of a 7-part series, the "quantum insight" is about The Human Condition , and it comes from R...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well.   In this episode, which is part one of a 7-part series, the "quantum insight" is about Radical Responsibility, and it comes from...

When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911 . Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too.   In part three of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers "emergency assistance" for the dating disaster of being dumped .   If you've had the heart-breaking experience of being dumped or divorced—or if you've done...

When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911 . Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too.   In part two of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers "emergency assistance" for the dating disaster of being played .   If you've had the agonizing and paralyzing experience of connecting with someone sexually o...

When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911 . Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too.   In part one of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers "emergency assistance" for the dating disaster of being ghosted .   If you've had the awful and frustrating experience of connecting with someone only to have...

Our host, Roy Biancalana, has had many "mentors from afar," including Eckhart Tolle, Michael Singer, Jim Dethmer and Sam Harris. But perhaps the mentor that's had the most impact on Roy and his work is David Deida.   David Deida is widely considered THE leading expert in the world when it comes to sexual polarity and masculine/feminine dynamics. (He charges $85,000 a day to speak at corporate even...

You've probably heard of the three Relationship Attachment Styles : Anxious, Avoidant & Secure. It's a new theory that describes an old problem: Most of us are either afraid of being alone (anxious), afraid of being close (avoidant) or in very rare cases, comfortable with either.   In this episode, Roy breaks each style down in detail. But more than that, he helps the listener identify their "styl...

There are a lot of challenges women face and feel in their search for a life partner, but in this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, identifies a woman's BIGGEST challenge.   And the best part is, he not only identifies the challenge, but he also shows women exactly what to do about it. The premise is simple: If women work through their biggest challenge, they will allow themselves to attract last...

There are a lot of challenges men face and feel in their search for a life partner, but in this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, identifies a man's BIGGEST challenge.   And the best part is, he not only identifies the challenge, but he also shows men exactly what to do about it. The premise is simple: If men work through their biggest challenge, they will allow themselves to attract lasting love...

Since this podcast originally dropped on Roy's birthday (April 25), he's devoted this episode to discussing the very common but very powerful feelings that can arise around birthdays.   So, whether you're turning 30 and you thought your career would have taken off by now, or if you're turning 40 and you thought you'd have started a family by now, or if you're turning 50 and having a midlife crisis...

When this podcast was recorded, Roy and his wife, MaryMargaret, were looking for a new place to live. And as they searched for a house, Roy noticed how similar it is to searching for a partner. Roy felt like he was "single" again, searching for the "one."   In this episode, Roy shares what we can learn about our search for a partner from his search for a house. He points not so much to the desired...

In this Easter edition of the podcast, Roy offers direction and hope to people who feel like their love lives are "dead and buried."   You will be asked to face 3 essential questions that will raise your love life from the dead—if they are answered with self-awareness and courage. So, if you'd like to "roll away the stone" and resurrect your love life, then don't miss this episode.   Additional Re...

Attracting a relationship isn't easy, but attracting a LASTING relationship is really a challenge. It's one thing to go on a couple of dates, it's another to create a connection that lasts a lifetime.   In this episode, Roy shares a "secret"—something most people probably have never heard before—on how to attract lasting love. This secret defines what compatibility means to you, while also allowin...

Most of us want to live happy, drama-free, peaceful lives. The question is, how? Part of the problem is that not only are there are lot of theories and opinions on how to experience life at its best, but they're usually quite complicated and difficult to understand.   Not anymore.   In this episode, Roy shares a recording of Jayasara, an Australian Buddhist Nun, explaining and expounding upon an a...

In this playful yet poignant episode, Roy makes the case for chivalry. While we should celebrate the evolutionary changes in masculine/feminine dynamics that have occurred since the 1950's, Roy argues for retaining some of the "old-fashioned" ways men and women treat each other.   Roy argues for men to be "gentlemen," opening a women's door, picking up the check and even walking on the curbside of...

Experiencing dark, difficult emotions is a normal and natural part of life. They happen to all of us. And yet very few of us are taught how to handle "dark matters" like loneliness, anxiety, insecurity, resentment, and depression—all of which are all addressed in this 5-part series. In this episode, Roy focuses on depression, and it's important to know that he isn't talking about capital "D" D epr...