The Art of Charm

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #44! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Because Jordan is out of town, Kim Seltzer joins Jason for today's Fan Mail Friday! In this episode:How does someone with Tourette syndrome make good first impressions? How do you break up with someone who has mental health issues? What do you do...

Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) shares how we can rescue Monday, reinvent our work, and never get stuck -- at any age or stage of career -- in his new book Do Over. The Cheat Sheet:90 percent of Americans are disengaged from work -- are you among them? If you spend as many hours watching television as the average American, binge-ification is ruining your hustle. In spite of its current trendiness, most peop...

John Lee Dumas (@johnleedumas) shows us how use the SMART goal system from his new Freedom Journal to accomplish a number one objective in 100 days. The Cheat Sheet:What is the number one reason some entrepreneurs succeed while others fail? Which is more likely to win the battle of changing your life: the physical presence of a giant book that constantly reminds you of its presence versus just ano...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #43! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:How do you keep your work ethic strong when you're surrounded by countless distractions and people whose goals are short-sighted? What are the best habits you can cultivate if you're looking to improve yourself? What adjustments a...

Rob Scott (@rob_scott) is a master coach known for hijacking people's minds, rewiring their limiting beliefs, and leaving them completely transformed. The Cheat Sheet:Why is self-sabotage such a common characteristic among human beings, and how can we break away from it? Our beliefs are like lenses; they alter the way we view reality, and they're designed to be invisible -- which can make changing...

The Art of Charm team (@TheArtofCharm) recounts personal favorite episodes from 2015. Did your favorite episode get left out? Leave a comment and let us know! The Cheat Sheet:Could you name your five favorite Art of Charm episodes from 2015?Are you sure? You just thought of another five, didn't you? Or was it more like 10? 20? 30?It's almost impossible, but we tried! Here are the results. And so m...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #42! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:Does consistently getting bored with people you date indicate there's a problem with you? What happens when you're only attracted to people who are "super hot" -- and what's wrong with grading potential romantic interests on a sca...

Shawn Rafferty (@SafetyBlueprint) is here to show us how to avoid being victimized by harnessing the key principles of situational and observational awareness and making them a permanent part of our daily routine. The Cheat Sheet:What's more important than knowing how to react to a confrontation? Learning how to avoid danger is less of an investment of time and energy than learning how to fight --...

Matt Moore (@HHOFD) is here to show you how to become a better version of yourself -- personally, in relationships, in friendships, and in business -- by cooking and sharing food with others. The Cheat Sheet:If you aren't cooking, why aren't you cooking? Among its benefits, cooking for yourself promotes self-sufficiency, good health, and creativity. What is the number one goal of a chef at a resta...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #41! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:"Pull my finger" is the new "It's not you -- it's me." How do you tactfully let a lifelong friend know that their sudden weight gain has you worried for their health? Is going to college still worth it? We all do stupid things whe...

Scott Harrison (@scottharrison) has convinced more than 20,000 people to give up their birthday presents to raise money for people who need access to clean, safe water in developing countries. And in only nine years, charity: water has raised more than $200M from one million supporters. But his goals are far more ambitious...The Cheat Sheet:While most Americans take access to clean water for grant...

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) presents this toolbox episode about networking and social capital basics that will give you an important leg up in your own relationship development skills! The Cheat Sheet:Relationship development (and, by extension, the dreaded word 'networking') is the highest leverage point you can learn in business and your personal life. How do you make real connections at s...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #40! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:In the 21st century, who pays for what and when in the world of (American) dating? When is the right time to bring your serious significant other home to meet the family? Does your relationship have what it takes to level up? How...

Kabir Sehgal (@HiKabir) looks at biological, psychological, and external factors that help us make sense of how we interact with our dollars in his book Coined: the Rich Life of Money and How Its History Has Shaped Us. The Cheat Sheet:What happens in your brain when you think about money? There's a science for that, and it's called neuroeconomics. The anticipation of gaining money tends to provoke...

Jay Samit (@jaysamit) is a leading technology innovator and serial entrepreneur who tells us how to master personal transformation, seize opportunity, and thrive in this era of endless innovation. The Cheat Sheet:Are you living your life, or are you just paying bills until you die? Whether by choice or what's already happening, your world will be disrupted by change. It's either an obstacle or an...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #39! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:When you don't feel like you have enough time or energy for dating, take a cue from Charlie Hoehn and just remember to save room in your life for fun, first and foremost. What do you do when you want to see your talented and passi...

Jesse Itzler (@the100MileMan) is a powerhouse of boundless energy with a rigid discipline for time management who has never missed a day of work in 25 years. Still, he hired a Navy SEAL to help him up his routine's game and then wrote a book about it -- efficient! The Cheat Sheet:Loyalty is a rare quality in business today; Jesse tells a story about a now-famous former intern to demonstrate why it...

Adrienne Dorison (@adriennedorison) ditched over $45,000 in student debt in less than six months; follow her advice here and achieve your own financial freedom. The Cheat Sheet:Your beliefs about debt -- and your credit score -- don't (and shouldn't) define who you are. Having an attitude toward consumer debt as a normalized facet of modern living makes a lot of us suckers. Why is talking about se...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #38! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:Is it possible to get out of the friend zone when you've been there since the game began? In science, we must remember that correlation does not imply causation. Here's why you shouldn't get testy when someone you're hitting on "t...

Bobby Umar (@raehanbobby) believes we can change the world by recognizing the power of connection originating within and embracing our own leadership. He specializes in turning lost leaders into thought leaders. The Cheat Sheet:How does someone become a "top tweeter" like Bobby Umar? What is a "lost" leader? If you don't like what you're doing now, how do you figure out a direction you will like?...

Jeff Goins (@Jeff Goins) transitioned into his own dream job as a full-time writer; now he helps others overcome common myths and misconceptions about the journey so they can find and answer their own callings. The Cheat Sheet:Everyone has a calling -- how do we use our own life lessons to identify and follow that calling? Discovering what you were meant to do will probably surprise you. Why does...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #37! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:How does a fixer successfully date a complainer? What do you do to rekindle the spark in a 15-year marriage? In order to be at maximum productivity, when is the right time to wake up every day? How does someone with severe hearing...

Dr. Chris Donaghue (@ChrisDonaghue) is one of only a few hundred people in the entire world certified as a sex therapist, so you'll want to hear what he has to say about the myths of sexual dysfunctions, accepting your desires (even if they don't align with societal expectations), and how to develop healthy sex and dating habits. The Cheat Sheet:Cultures that embrace sexuality have lower rates of...

Anese Cavanaugh (@anesecavanaugh) knows what it takes to make "busy" beautiful. She helps people and companies unlock leadership potential, create meaningful impact, and enjoy themselves while doing it. The Cheat Sheet:Is the way you're "showing up" helping you create the impact you want? Contrary to popular belief, it's not merely the leaders who set a company's culture -- it's every single perso...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #36! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:We get listener feedback about how to deal with someone who laughs awkwardly at inappropriate times (from FMF 35).Are you blind to the attraction signals that potential romantic partners are trying to throw your way? We talk about...