The Art of Charm

Teresa de Grosbois (@TeresaDee) is an influence expert sought by entrepreneurs and large corporations wanting to better understand how local word of mouth can suddenly turn epidemic, and she's the author of Mass Influence: The Habits of the Highly Influential. The Cheat Sheet:Why is developing a knack for mass influence more important than just offering improvement to your own life? Learn the simp...

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. In this episode:Can your personal growth still thrive if you're in a relationship with an underachiever? A man in sweatpants every night is just as unsexy as a woman in sweatpants every night. Should an interviewer ever challenge a subject matter exper...

Dr. Duana Welch (@duanawelch), author of Love Factually, rejoins us to explain how men can enter, exit, and recover from relationships in a way that benefits them...all based on science. The Cheat Sheet:Is "love at first sight" a real thing? Science has the surprising answer. Women have shaped men psychologically over the course of evolutionary history. How do mating strategies differ between men...

Jay Baer (@JayBaer), author of Hug Your Haters: How to Embrace Complaints and Keep Your Customers, shows us why we should strive to understand our haters and communicate with them instead of getting defensive or -- worse -- ignoring them altogether."When you answer your critics in public, they never see it coming. You can blow their minds and steal their hearts." -Jay BaerThe Cheat Sheet:Customer...

Time for Fan Mail Fridays, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. If you're new to The Art of Charm Podcast, this isn't a great place to start. Most of our content is more in-depth and longer format, so check out our Best Of picks or the Fundamentals Toolbox episodes. There, we've got the fundamentals of body languag...

Michael Roderick (@MichaelRoderick) went from being a high school teacher to a broadway producer in two years. Here, he shares what he's learned about the different ways we connect and how they tie into our own issues around giving and asking. The Cheat Sheet:You may understand the importance of creating a network, but do you understand the importance of curating that network? Are the people in yo...

Russ Roberts (@EconTalker) talks about how economics can help us understand the world around us and lead better lives. He's the author of How Adam Smith Can Change Your Life: An Unexpected Guide to Human Nature and Happiness and host of the EconTalk podcast. The Cheat Sheet:Adam Smith's deepest insight into human nature -- what really makes us tick -- is being loved and lovely. Learn about the imp...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #50, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right! In this episode:Remember this one important rule when someone keeps blowing you off: your time is your most valuable commodity. Sunblocking and risking vitamin D deficiency (as discussed with Dr. Rhonda Patrick in episode 485) vs. not sunblocking...

Dr. Ben Michaelis (@DrBenMichaelis) is a motivational psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. Here, he shows us how to stop trying to avoid stress and, instead, utilize it in intelligent ways."The tighter we hold onto things and try to control them, oftentimes the more difficult it is to have influence over them." -Dr. Ben MichaelisThe Cheat She...

Brian Koppelman (@BrianKoppelman) was a blocked writer until he was 30. Now, he's the showrunner, co-creator, and executive producer of Billions on Showtime and the host of Slate's The Moment podcast. How did he turn things around? He's here to discuss this and share his Hollywood stories with us on The Art of Charm. "The armchair quarterback is easy to filter out; just look and see what kind of w...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #49! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:Be careful of giving too much significance to someone you think of as a "significant other" -- especially if years have passed and you've only interacted online or by phone. A college enrollment counselor responds to a question la...

Frances Cole Jones (@FCJones), author of How to Wow, wants you (yes, you!) to know that charisma is something you can learn and cultivate for better job interviews, sales pitches, presentations, and connecting with others. The Cheat Sheet:Understand the impact of body language on communication (by managing your own and reading that of others).Learn how to listen for intent as well as content. Use...

Dr. Rhonda Patrick (@foundmyfitness) of FoundMyFitness.com talks about micronutrient deficiencies on metabolism, inflammation, DNA damage, and aging as well as the role of vitamin D and omega-3 fatty acids in brain function. The Cheat Sheet:Just because you don’t have scurvy doesn’t mean you’re getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs. Genetics get credited (or blamed) for cognitive f...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #48! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:Was Cal Newport's advice to entrepreneurs in episode 482 of The Art of Charm too practical? (We get some clarification from the source.)As the new guy on the job, you might expect some lighthearted newbie-ribbing from your boss an...

Dov Gordon (@dovgordon) helps consultants, experts, and small professional service firms build a steady, consistent, predictable flow of ideal clients. He also tells us why it's important to take "Seddon Days" by putting our priorities in perspective and what we can learn by pondering the gravity of The Last Webinar. The Cheat Sheet:As a business owner, why would you ever take on a client who's no...

Pat Flynn (@patflynn) helps entrepreneurs build and grow successful online businesses with his book Will It Fly?: How to Test Your Next Business Idea So You Don't Waste Your Time and Money and the Smart Passive Income podcast and blog. The Cheat Sheet:An entrepreneur needs to develop a mindset of steely resolve to overcome resistance from family, friends, not-friends, and -- most important -- him...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #47! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend. To mix things up a little, AJ joins us for this episode! In this episode:What's the difference between confidence and arrogance, and how can you make sure you're gaining the former while losing the latter? How can you slow your roll and stop habi...

Cal Newport (@calnewport) shows us how to cultivate meaningful and successful working lives while debunking the "follow your passion" advice that lesser professors peddle to the masses. The Cheat Sheet: Why is "follow your passion" bad advice -- and what are some better alternatives? The traits that make work great are rare and valuable -- so you need rare and valuable skills (career capital) in t...

Cameron Herold (@CameronHerold) tells us how we can double our revenue and profit in three years or less in his book Double Double. The Cheat Sheet:What's the real harm in a serial entrepreneur's lack of focus? Sometimes, working backwards is the best way forward. What does R&D really stand for? Learn why you should work on your B team to make them A players and lose the C players. Focus your lear...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #46! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! Kim Seltzer joins Jordan in this episode to offer a genuine therapist's perspective. Enjoy! In this episode:What dating advice do we have for a couple in a 14-year marriage who just decided to start swinging? How do you deal with a workplace bull...

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) practices and teaches the skills of learning to love wholeheartedly by looking at what gets in the way, and discusses her book Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love. The Cheat Sheet:There are five natural stages through which romantic relationships cycle: The Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, Decision, and Wholehearted Love. Why does "falli...

Bill Caskey and Bryan Neale (@advancedselling) of The Advanced Selling Podcast show us we don't have to be in sales to master our "inner game" mindset and get what we want out of life. The Cheat Sheet:Whether we realize it or not, we're all in sales -- no matter what we're trying to accomplish. Understand that your philosophy has an impact on your words and results. Learn how the age-old concept o...

Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #45! No jibber-jabber, just a short show where we answer Art of Charm listener mail and give out mini-lessons for the weekend! In this episode:How can you objectively qualify relationship red flags in your own situation when your people-pleasing tendencies have blurred the current boundaries on which that relationship was founded? How do you build your socializing and fr...

Maria Konnikova (@mkonnikova) shows us how we can defend ourselves against would-be con artists and use the same principles for more benign purposes in her new book The Confidence Game. The Cheat Sheet:As it turns out, you can fool an honest man. But cynics -- by their own overconfidence in being savvy and "scamproof" -- are just as susceptible to deception. Technology and the abundance of informa...

Steve Kamb (@stevekamb) gives us a blueprint to follow, based on game mechanics and nerd culture, to finally accomplish things in our lives we've always wanted but never found the time for in his first book, Level Up Your Life. The Cheat Sheet:Stuck in a rut? Need to get in shape and add more adventure to your life? Take your own hero's journey and stop letting fictional characters have all the fu...