The Answer To Everything

In this supplemental episode, I have a stimulating conversation with host of Breaking the Borderline and Sensitivity Stigma Podcast, Kristin Nicole Paige. We discuss the most common issues for deeply feeling people. And we also discuss what it's like to love a deeply feeling person. We draw on one another's expertise to better help their own clients. For all people diagnosed with BPD, with BPD tra...

In this short, fun, supplemental episode, I respond to more listener questions. What do you do when you have narcissistic traits? What if you think your child is a narcissist? How do you support your codependent partner's growth? I give tips on thought challenging, when diagnosis are helpful, and where to start learning about codependency.  Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If...

In this short, fun, supplemental episode, I do a first-time counseling session with hosts of Ill Advised the Podcast, and B est F riends F orever (BiFFs,) Ray and Stefani. We explore protective mechanisms they adopted early in life (being a "tough bitch," and "controlling") and how those mechanisms show up in adult life. I explain the hidden (not-so-good) message you send to people when you "come...

In this short, fun, supplemental episode, I respond to the 1) loving, 2) hateful, 3) confusing, and 4) sexual comments I receive on social media. Learn why I don't take compliments personally, how I respond to mean comments I would NEVER tolerate in real life, and what I do when someone on social media wants to date me. Guys, this one is just for fun. Enjoy! Want to work with me, one-on-one? Conne...

In this supplemental episode, I introduce you to my personal guide, Emie Kay. Together, we discuss the unique power of women, and how women are taught to suppress, ignore, and denigrate that power. Emie explains how to be guided by the pelvic region of the body in addition to the heart space. She describes what happens when a woman knows her own body and takes ownership of her body's "yes's" and "...

In this short, fun, supplemental episode, I respond to listener questions. I explain how to respond to manipulative people and I discuss the difference between narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder. I also explain why I talk about traits and disorders without sugar-coating my message (I am passionate about this!) Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you lov...

Today, I discuss the nature of all living things–moving forward in an unstoppable growth state. I also discuss the concept of suffering and how most people believe that when they suffer, they are holy. John and I give tips for tolerating scary moments: is it Mexican cartel-level scary? Or flying cockroach-level scary? If it's flying cockroach-level scary, YOU GOT THIS! Today's client, John: In the...

Today, I discuss the nature of all living things–moving forward in an unstoppable growth state. I also discuss the concept of suffering and how most people believe that when they suffer, they are holy. John and I give tips for tolerating scary moments: is it Mexican cartel-level scary? Or flying cockroach-level scary? If it's flying cockroach-level scary, YOU GOT THIS! Today's client, John: In thi...

Today, we have the honor of hearing how Olivia embraces her depressive episodes and comes out of them stronger. I discuss realistic expectations for happiness, how to ditch self-care guilt, and how to be sad like a boss. I give you tips for how to use your sadness as a strength–because true strength is the ability to honor weaknesses. Today's client, Olivia: In this full-length episode, Olivia and...

Today, we have the honor of hearing how Olivia embraces her depressive episodes and comes out of them stronger. I discuss realistic expectations for happiness, how to ditch self-care guilt, and how to be sad like a boss. I give you tips for how to use your sadness as a strength–because true strength is the ability to honor weaknesses. Today's client, Olivia: In this condensed episode, Olivia and I...

Today, we discuss the ways we allow other people to control our mood, and how to take that control back so we are in charge of our own mood. We explore why we feel like we are in danger when we make mistakes. And I give you tips for pulling yourself through moments you feel so scared because you've made a mistake. Today's client, Jesse:  In this full-length episode, we hear Jesse's response to the...

Today, we discuss the ways we allow other people to control our mood, and how to take that control back so we are in charge of our own mood. We explore why we feel like we are in danger when we make mistakes. And I give you tips for pulling yourself through moments you feel so scared because you've made a mistake. Today's client, Jesse:  In this condensed episode, we hear Jesse's response to the d...

Today, I talk about triangulation (two people connecting to beat up on a third person), the extremes we experience when we go through big change, and what to do if you have a parent who preys on your weaknesses to fulfill their own needs. I give you tips for who you should talk to when fighting with your spouse.  Today's client, Tracy: In this full-length episode, we learn that Tracy is having rev...

Today, I talk about triangulation (two people connecting to beat up on a third person), the extremes we experience when we go through big change, and what to do if you have a parent who preys on your weaknesses to fulfill their own needs. I give you tips for who you should talk to when fighting with your spouse.  Today's client, Tracy: In this condensed episode, we learn that Tracy is having revel...

John's made BIG changes since the last time we heard from him. We talk about life, death, and grief. We also discuss what it's like to follow your gut, even when other people don't understand and don't agree. I give you tips on how to listen to and be guided by your own voice. Today's client, John: In this full-length episode, John is back! —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me her...

John's made BIG changes since the last time we heard from him. We talk about life, death, and grief. We also discuss what it's like to follow your gut, even when other people don't understand and don't agree. I give you tips on how to listen to and be guided by your own voice. Today's client, John: In this condensed episode, John is back! —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here...

Today, Reagan and I talk about the overwhelming fear and anxiety she experiences when she's people-pleasing. I have tips for you on how to F$%& what everyone else wants, and do what you want instead. Today's client, Reagan: In this full-length episode, we hear from Reagan again. She's making big changes: dating, exercising, giving up nicotine, and examining her "sensitivities." I challenge her low...

Today, Reagan and I talk about the overwhelming fear and anxiety she experiences when she's people-pleasing. I have tips for you on how to F$%& what everyone else wants, and do what you want instead. Today's client, Reagan: In this condensed episode, we hear from Reagan again. She's making big changes: dating, exercising, giving up nicotine, and examining her "sensitivities."  —-- Want to work wit...

Today, I give you information and tips about the benefits of anger and I explain why the simple act of talking to a counselor can be healing. Today's client, Jewely: In this full-length episode, we follow Jewely as she grieves the death of her dog, AND she wants to kicks someone's ass … but to her surprise, I support her anger. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love...

Today, I give you information and tips about the benefits of anger and I explain why the simple act of talking to a counselor can be healing. Today's client, Jewely: In this condensed episode, we follow Jewely as she grieves the death of her dog, AND she wants to kicks someone's ass … but to her surprise, I support her anger. —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect with me here If you love t...

Today's discussion is overwhelming and, as you will hear, leads Olivia into a shut-down. With my help, she works through the shut-down, and learns a lesson: the messages she received about her value as a little girl still affect her as a woman. I admit I failed at an intervention and I explain my mistake. I give you the steps to understand where your people-pleasing comes from and tips on what to...

Today's discussion is overwhelming and, as you will hear, leads Olivia into a shut-down. With my help, she works through the shut-down, and learns a lesson: the messages she received about her value as a little girl still affect her as a woman. I admit I failed at an intervention and I explain my mistake. I give you the steps to understand where your people-pleasing comes from and tips on what to...

Today, we talk about true love and what to do when loving partners have major differences in their relationship. We discuss boundaries around the things we enjoy and love, and I give you the ultimate tip for how to stop overthinking. Today's client, Jesse: In this full-length episode, we meet Jesse: a 33 year old gay male who loves his job, partner, and life in general. Jesse's main concern is ove...

Today, we talk about true love and what to do when loving partners have major differences in their relationship. We discuss boundaries around the things we enjoy and love, and I give you the ultimate tip for how to stop overthinking. Today's client, Jesse: In this condensed episode, we meet Jesse: a 33 year old gay male who loves his job, partner, and life in general. Jesse's main concern is overt...

In this full-length episode, Tracy and I discuss how to make it through the difficult time in marriage when you're not quite ready to leave, but not happy staying. I give tips on how to communicate to your partner that you are ready to leave the relationship. Today's client, Tracy: Tracy is suddenly fed up with her marriage, and contemplating divorce.  —-- Want to work with me, one-on-one? Connect...