The 423 Podcast

Why do we keep turning to things that ultimately leave us feeling more isolated and empty? In this solo episode, Ben explores how pain, attachment wounds, and our experiences of being unseen often shape the way we relate to God and cope with life's struggles. Drawing from the Still Face Experiment and Romans 8, he challenges listeners to stop numbing their pain and instead bring it honestly be...

Sexual brokenness is quietly sitting in the pews of every church. Shame keeps the church bound in silence or regularly indicts those who are struggling. What if there's a better way to address this struggle within the church? Joel and Ben sit down to talk about how the church can create a culture of radical grace and vulnerability fueled by the love of Christ. It's not only a challenge but an invi...

423 Next is a Christ-centered recovery community helping teens and families navigate pornography struggles and unhealthy sexuality. Through biblical truth, brain science, and honest community, we go beyond behavior to uncover the deeper wounds and longings driving addiction. This podcast introduces how we help people move toward healing and freedom in Christ. To learn more, you can visit- https://...

Have you wondered what it's like to actually be in a 423 Community? We give you the step by step process for what it's like to join a group at your church and what you can expect on this journey. If you're interested in joining or starting a 423 Community at your church, please reach out to us at info@423communities.org or at our website: https://www.423communities.org/join

Where do you strike the balance between relying on grace and putting in effort on your recovery journey? We sit down with Jonathan Daughtery of BeBroken to discuss how grace empowers recovery and fuels us along the pathway of transformation.

When temptation shows up, everything feels urgent. Your brain narrows. Your body wants relief. So what do you actually do right then? In this episode, we walk through real-time strategies for dealing with temptation as it happens—when to flee, how to ask better questions, and why cravings often point to deeper longings for beauty, connection, and rest. This isn’t about shame or willpower—it’s abou...

Recovery is more than stopping a behavior. In this episode, Drew Boa of Husband Material joins us to explore inner-child healing, IFS, and his “Older Brother Coaching” model. We talk about why sobriety alone isn’t the goal, how to locate, love, and lead our exiles, and why attuned community is essential for real transformation in porn recovery.

Finding your “Why” behind addiction is a crucial step—but it’s not the end of the healing journey. In this episode, we explore why forgiveness is essential for healing the core wounds, shame, and beliefs that drive addictive patterns. Christian forgiveness is not denial, forgetting, or forced reconciliation; it is a Spirit-empowered release that names real harm and entrusts justice to God. Drawing...

Every January we set goals hoping they’ll finally change us. But Scripture and neuroscience say we’ve been doing it backwards. Habits don’t create identity, they reinforce the one you’re already living from. In this episode, we challenge the New Year mindset that says “change first, then you’ll be different.” Through Scripture, neuroscience, and lived experience, we show why lasting formation begi...

As we move toward the holiday season, we know this time of year can bring a mix of emotions for couples walking through recovery. While the world around us celebrates the  “happiest time of year,”  many of you are navigating the very real impact of disclosure, betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and learning new rhythms of connection. You’re not alone! And you don’t have to enter the holidays unpre...

A raw, hopeful, and deeply honest podcast where Jon Seidl, bestselling Christian author turned recovering alcoholic, pulls back the curtain on faith, addiction, and what real healing looks like. Based on his book Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic , Jon sits down with us to unpack the roots of disordered desires, shame, and the parts of us we often hide.

Often, we as Christians find ourselves stuck in the false dichotomy of destroying desire or serving desire. What if there was another way? Today we talk about seeing desire as a pathway to God. When we are in tune with the core of our desires, we'll stop being deceived by them and we can learn to satisfy them in God's good design for us.

For many women, the struggle with pornography comes with deep shame—and silence from the church. Ben and Jara, our Women’s Director, talk about the shame women carry in the church, the impact of porn on identity, and how God’s grace redefines freedom.

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, we explore the idea of the inner child —the younger parts of us that carry wounds from past trauma, pain, and broken relationships. These unresolved hurts often shape the way we live, love, and struggle today. Together, we talk about why naming and nurturing these parts of ourselves is vital to recovery, and how Christ invites us to bring them into the light wit...

So much of our healing journey depends on being witnessed —seen and heard—in safe, grace-filled community. In this episode, we explore why being known by others is not just a nice addition to recovery, but absolutely essential for uncovering the deeper “why” behind unwanted sexual behaviors. Together, we’ll talk about how community helps us move past shame, discover the parts of ourselves that nee...

In Genesis, Adam and Eve walked in perfect intimacy with God—until sin fractured that connection. Fear replaced trust, shame replaced openness, and humanity has been searching for secure attachment ever since. In this episode, we explore how broken attachment drives us to sin against ourselves and others, why pornography offers such a potent but counterfeit intimacy, and how Christ-centered commun...

Welcome to Season 2 of the 423 Podcast. This season is dedicated to digging into what it really means to find your why . Why do we fall into the same patterns? What’s beneath the surface? When we start naming the deeper motivations that lead us toward sin, we also gain the clarity and strength to choose differently—living as the new creation we already are in Jesus.

In this powerful and vulnerable episode, Joel is joined by his wife Rachel Warneking to explore what recovery looks like—not just for the one struggling with addiction, but for the spouse who never saw this story coming. While previous episodes have focused on the recovery process from the perspective of the addicted partner, this conversation shifts the lens to the often-overlooked journey of the...

Many who struggle with pornography and unwanted sexual behavior can get stuck in the process of behavior management—but the roots often run much deeper. In this episode, we explore how childhood wounds, internal parts, and hidden “weights” from the past shape our present struggles. Drawing from Hebrews 12:1 and tools like Internal Family Systems and inner child work, we invite listeners to begin u...

You are always being formed—every thought, habit, and response is shaping who you are becoming. In this episode, we explore what it means to live a life of intentional formation through discipleship to Jesus. Whether you realize it or not, you already have a "trellis"—a structure of daily patterns that’s forming your soul. For many, those practices are unknowingly feeding cycles of unwan...

You are always being formed—every thought, habit, and response is shaping who you are becoming. In this episode, we explore what it means to live a life of intentional formation through discipleship to Jesus. Whether you realize it or not, you already have a "trellis"—a structure of daily patterns that’s forming your soul. For many, those practices are unknowingly feeding cycles of unwanted sexual...

In this episode, we explore how recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors isn’t a solo race—it’s a shared journey with a "Witnessing Community" anchored in Christ. Drawing from Hebrews 12:1-2, we unpack how healing happens when we lay aside sin and shame together , fixing our eyes on Jesus as a unified body. Only in the context of loving, Christ-centered relationships can our deepest wounds begin to...

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, we talk about why the Holy Spirit isn’t just helpful—He’s essential in our recovery journey. We explore how He brings conviction without condemnation, strengthens us from within, and leads us into truth, identity, and real freedom. Join us for a practical, hope-filled conversation on how we can walk with the Spirit daily and invite Him into every part of our hea...

You’ve left Egypt, but the desert is hard. In this episode, we explore what it means to run the long race of sexual integrity — where daily fidelity, not just big moments, defines our freedom. Learn how God’s Word becomes the fuel for your endurance and the mirror that unveils your identity.

In this episode of the 423 Podcast, Ben and Joel discuss how following Jesus isn’t just about breaking free from sin—it’s about stepping into a new identity and purpose. We’re not just restored; we’re re-storied , no longer defined by shame but by God’s love. Recovery isn’t about trying harder—it’s about living in the abundant life Jesus offers.