That Fertile Feeling

The fertility journey can be an incredibly lonely one. Many people just don't understand the challenges you face along they way. They say the wrong things and/or they try to make you feel better about something that is just really hard. It can also feel like you're being left behind in life. And it's a private journey and not something you might necessarily want to share with everyone around you....

I’ve long been a fan of family constellations. We all carry so much baggage from the generations that came before us (a scientifically proven point) and it can be really helpful to see that visualized in a space where other people represent your family members. You can only start breaking patterns once you recognize them. On this episode of the podcast, I talk to systemic facilitator Cecilia Alter...

We never really learn that much about our hormones and our cycles. That is until you’re trying to get pregnant and you realize that the whole process can be so much more complicated than you ever imagined. Yet fertility treatment does not necessarily seem to take that into account, with its protocols that are often narrowly focused on the ovaries and womb alone. On this episode of the podcast I ta...

How can you stop working so hard to get pregnant when conception doesn’t come easily? I feel that one of the most important things that (in)fertility has to teach us (next to embracing our inner darkness) is how to make the shift from doing to being. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss why it is so difficult for us to break with the paradigm that you just need to work really hard to get what...

A couple of years ago I tried looking up goddesses who represented infertility. I figured that there must be cultures around the world who’d created a special status for childless women - maybe as the godmothers of their communities or the wisdom keepers of something along those lines. On this episode of the podcast, Shereen Öberg explains that we can use goddesses mythology to see infertility and...

Oriana’s fertility journey has been a long road filled with a lot of grief. On this episode of the podcast, she shares how she had to terminate her second pregnancy at 5 months for medical reasons. The loss of her son Felix set into motion a huge transformational process. By focussing on the narratives she was telling herself, she came to understand how a shift of perspective can create more light...

On this episode of the podcast I talk to Sophie Jane Hardy, host of Red School’s Menstruality podcast, about how you can use menstrual cycle awareness to deal with the challenges of (in)fertility and pregnancy loss. We discuss how you can work with the inner seasons to deal with the pressure of baby-making sex, the two-week-wait, and the grief that often comes with menstruation. Sophie shares abou...

When Kohenet Nancy Wolfson-Moche started trying to get pregnant at age 43, she turned to the magical power of food to conceive. On this episode of the podcast, she shares with us about the energetics of food and the importance of being really mindful of how you eat. We discuss how to cook with intention, how to set up your kitchen as a sacred space and the role that food can play in processing gri...

Pregnancy loss is a life-changing event that - next to pain and grief - can bring you deep healing as well. On this episode of the podcast, I talk with Rahel Koot about how her pregnancy losses taught her how to connect to her body and invest in healing and self-care. Rahel gives some very tangible examples of what these practices, such as having a womb healing ceremony, looked like for her. We al...

The podcast is back from maternity leave! In this episode, I share how I questioned whether I should continue making this podcast now that I have three small kids at home. Yet while meditating on this question, I saw a small spark of light that made me realize that I’m still driven to show you how you can find light on your fertility journey. I feel that many of the challenges we face on this jour...

Before going on maternity leave, I wanted to record one final episode where I recap my key take-aways from Season 1. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss why certain personality types can have a particularly hard time surrendering to their fertility journey and why that shouldn’t stop you from trying to do so nevertheless. I also recap some ways in which you can develop this attitude, which f...

Years ago, I discovered that sometimes the planets just align in a way that really messes up your life. I’ve been a big fan of astrology ever since. It allows me to identify the bigger energies that are present in my life and helps me accept that sometimes life is just chaotic because of forces outside of me. So when my friend told me her partner is a good astrologer and that he might have some re...

Embodiment mentor Amanda Biccum is someone who I’ve been following on Instagram for a while now. I love how connected she is to her body, her emotions and her sensuality. When I reached out to her to see if she’d want to come on the show to share her wisdom with women who’re dealing with (in)fertility, I found out she’d just suffered a pregnancy loss of her own. On this episode of the podcast, we...

A couple of days ago, I found myself spiraling. I’d had an appointment at the hospital that brought up so many old triggers and unprocessed emotions. I really had to take a moment and tease out all that was happening inside of me. There was intense grief as the ultrasound scan had made me relive the moment we found out that our first baby had died. There was also a lot of fear - fear for this preg...

On this week’s episode of the podcast, I talk to Marjon van Opijnen about her experience with unwanted childlessness. Although Marjon always pictured herself ending up with a large family, life took her in a different direction. We discuss how unwanted childlessness has affected her life and the key truths about life that she has come to learn along the way. We also touch upon the importance of wo...

I recently had a beautiful session with a couple who are about to start fertility treatment and who wanted to take a moment to connect to each other and their intentions for this process. It inspired me to record this podcast on how you can consciously choose how you want to show up as a couple during the treatment process and keep reinforcing the connection you have. I discuss how you can create...

Hypnosis is one of those things that often come up as a potential solution for women struggling with (in)fertility. But how does it work exactly? On this episode of the podcast, I talk to Rachel Cook about her work as a hypnofertilitist. In particular, we discuss how hypnosis works, how our thoughts affect our bodies and some of the most common limiting beliefs that hypnosis can help you overcome,...

Steph runs the website ivfyou.com, where she blogs about her fertility journey and the troubles she has faced along the way. She recently found out that she’s gotten pregnant through IVF. On this episode of the podcast, I talk to her about what it was like to find out she was pregnant and how she dealt with her fears in early pregnancy. We also discuss why she stopped taking pregnancy tests, wheth...

There is no silver lining to pregnancy loss. Experiencing a grief and sadness like this, changes you as a person. Given that it’s such a profound experience, pregnancy loss calls you to go deep within, to slow down and observe the difficult emotions and beliefs that are alive within you, and to treat your inner wounds with love and compassion. On this episode of the podcast, I share about my own m...

Gynecological examinations can be quite unpleasant. And when you’re going through fertility treatment, you face a lot of these examinations… On this episode of the podcast, I interview Sara Tancman, who recently conducted a large study on how women experience their examinations and how they would like to see them improved. We discuss the results of her study and focus in more detail on what you co...

Disclaimer: sound quality starts off really poorly but it gets better after a couple of minutes! Nikté comes from a line of Mayan healers and midwives. On this episode of the podcast, we talk about Mayan medicine and how Mayan medicine looks at fertility and infertility. We discuss how you can heal your mind, body, and soul, how you can prepare for a pregnancy and how you can connect to your womb...

Sensitive post. In this episode, I share the outcome of my own frozen embryo transfer a couple of months ago (so guard your hearts). Turns out I’m pregnant with the improbable combination of one baby who was conceived spontaneously and one successful embryo transfer. I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant and the babies are thriving so I’m starting to feel confident enough to share a bit about this pregn...

When you’re dealing with (in)fertility, it can feel like a really lonely journey. That’s where the (in)fertility community comes in. I’ve heard it said many times that it’s the worst club to be a member of, but one with the world’s best and most supportive members. On this episode of the podcast, I talk to Meg, who’s the creator of the popular webpage and IG account ‘For the Barreness’. We discuss...

Research shows that women who are in fertility treatment display similar levels of psychological distress as women who are undergoing chemotherapy or who have recently suffered a heart attack. Yet so little attention is generally given to the state of mind of women who are having trouble conceiving. On this episode of the podcast, I discuss how you can proactively develop a self-care toolkit to in...

It can be hard to keep the faith in a bigger plan when getting pregnant doesn’t come easily. On this episode of the podcast, I talk with Kathleen Scherek about how you can use spirituality to make meaning of your (in)fertility process. In particular, we discuss how to reconcile scientific and more spiritual approaches to life, how you can start connecting to your future child’s soul, how to keep p...