Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

Our bodies are giving us information all day long. We feel pain when we are injured, our stomach rumbles when we are hungry, and we feel butterflies when we are nervous, to name a few examples. But just because our bodies are sending us signals does not mean that we are paying attention or interpreting the signals correctly. The ability to understand what the body is saying to us is often called "...

It sometimes feels like your body is letting you down. No matter what you try, healing doesn't happen. This can lead to frustration and disappointment to the point where you feel like you are fighting your body and yourself. In this week's podcast we explore three keys to understanding how our body and our overall system function. This simple understanding will give you the ability to understand w...

Tapping is a wonderful tool that can help us to feel better in the moment, which is why it's sometimes referred to as emotional first aid. As much as I love emotional first aid, I find tapping's ability to help us to clear fear and resistance so that we make better, more thoughtful choices even more impressive. If I am consistently able to make more choices that are congruent with my authentic sel...

In order to get the most out of a tapping session we know that the more specific we are about an issue, the faster we will get results. In more than a decade of working with clients I have come to realize that 95% of all issues have the exact same core issue. In this week's podcast I share what that core issue is, the best way to uncover it (it only takes two questions), and how you can tap for th...

We have all heard the old saying that "hindsight is 20/20 vision" because it is so much easier to look back and see how we could have done things differently from the vantage point of the present. When this happens we can end up judging ourselves very harshly. The problem with this type of evaluation is we are judging our past self with new knowledge. It's easy to think "What on earth was I thinki...

As my friend Jondi Whitis likes to say, "At our core we are herd animals." This statement has some profound impact when it comes to how we see ourselves, the actions we take, and how self-sabotaging behaviors show up in our lives. When we are making choices and taking action, we aren't just considering facts and practicalities, we are also influenced by our genetic heritage. This week I explore ho...

One of my favorite ways to use tapping is to help people to take the actions they want more consistently. At this point it is probably the number one focus of my work with clients in private sessions. It's an issue that I love working with BUT it doesn't mean that I am immune to self-sabotage in my own life. In August of 2019 I conceived a new project that resonated with me all the way to my core....

For the last few months I have been working on redesigning the Tapping Q & A website. I have come to the realization that the structure no longer serves everything that is happening on the site. In this week's podcast I'm sharing the new vision for Tapping Q & A and how it reflects the transformation that is happening in my own life. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Andr...

One of my favorite parts of running a question and answer website are the questions I am asked by readers and listeners like you. The reason I love it so much is because answering your questions pushes me to think about the work that I do in new ways so that I can clearly articulate and share my approach to tapping. In this week's podcast I answer the following questions: How do you approach tappi...

The human experience is complicated. At times it can feel like we are being pulled in multiple directions, as if we are of two (or many) minds. I recently thought this was expressed perfectly on one of my favorite TV shows, Project Runway (US version). In the midst of struggling with choosing her creative direction one of the contestants, Victoria Cocieru, said "In my brain I have a thousand littl...

Over the weekend my friend, and all-around amazing thinker and practitioner, Alan Davidson died. Next week I will be sharing the last interview I did with him. In this week's podcast I would like to highlight the amazing interviews that I have done in the past about responding to grief. Grief is not an emotion that we only feel when a loved one passes away. It is an emotion we experience whenever...

Recently I was writing about the history of tapping, tracing the different tapping points used over time and also why different practitioners and innovators had added and subtracted points. In doing the research I realized that a number of tapping points have "fallen out of favor". Usually this was to do with how to teach tapping in the easiest way possible and had nothing to do with the efficacy...

Here in North America we are just emerging from a long, dark winter and many of my clients have shared their struggles with low energy levels, particularly first thing in the morning or when they hit a wall mid-afternoon. This week's podcast shares a simple procedure to reset your energy. As I was recording this, even though I thought my energy levels were fine, I immediately started feeling an ex...

Recently in a social media post a friend used the phrase "fiercely kind" which really stuck in my mind, although to be honest I wasn't exactly sure what it meant. At one end of the spectrum we can be too kind-hearted for our own good, which is a kind way of saying we are being doormats to others. On the other end of the spectrum, we might think we know what is best for others and run them over wit...

The way that I have described the emotional toll of the last year is as if we are paying a 20% emotional tax every morning when we get up. This means that our energy is at a lower ebb, we think more slowly, and many everyday activities seem to take more effort. As time passes this daily grind can accumulate into something bigger and more serious. It's not just a matter of moving more slowly, it's...

Twelve years ago today the very first episode of the Tapping Q and A Podcast was published, which means a little celebration is in order. Sometimes we hold ourselves back from celebrating. Perhaps because we are worried the achievement isn't big enough to shout about, or others may think we are being immodest, or if we celebrate something small, then we will lower our standards. I have found the e...

For me, jealousy is one the most corrosive emotions. Jealousy floods the mind with all sorts of negative thoughts, leading us to think poorly about ourselves, about the object of our jealousy, and amplifies our feelings about the unfairness of the world. That cascade of negative thoughts also leads us to feeling unmotivated because part of us feels like it is a total waste of time. In this week's...

In my mind there are three main reasons why we tap. The first is for emotional first aid. This is the tapping we do in the moment to help us when our emotions feel overwhelming. The second is for clearing hurtful memories and limiting beliefs. I group these together because they are often intertwined, with painful memories being a common root cause of limiting beliefs. By tapping to clearing these...

All of us have experienced failures in our past. It is an unavoidable part of being human. We fail because we didn't finish what we started, we didn't put in the effort we should have, or we didn't get the results we wanted. Failure can be instructive, but if we continue to relive our failures emotionally, then they are longer lessons but instead become unhelpful emotional anchors. This week we ta...

Recently I conducted a survey of my readers and listeners asking them what their biggest struggle with tapping is. There were five really common responses: Not knowing where to start ​* Having way too many issues to tap for ​Not knowing what to say when tapping for a particular issue ​Tapping consistently ​* Finding that tapping for one issue turns into an avalanche of emotions that feel too daunt...

In the middle of the day it is easy to find ourselves distracted. One minute we are working on a task...the next we are sucked into one of our social media accounts, glued to a YouTube video, or conducting some frivolous internet research. AND if we are not careful, we surface 30 minutes later and realise we haven't gotten anything done. When this happens it is much more than just being distracted...

I spend a lot of time helping my clients to get clear about the actions they want to take. They often think their problem is not knowing exactly how to do what they want to do. In reality, the problem isn't not knowing what to do next, it's about actually knowing what they want. If we don't know the direction in which we're heading, it's impossible to make a concrete plan. In this week's podcast C...

We have all been trained to push on, to push through, and to maintain a stiff upper lip. Sometimes that isn't possible. Sometimes there are hard things in our lives and we feel overwhelmed with sadness. Right now there is so much going on in the world. Many of us feel disconnected, isolated, alone, anxious and overwhelmed. Some days are OK, other days not so much. Late last week I was having one o...

As one of the craziest years in living memory winds down, there is a great desire to find peace, calm, and stillness. This week's podcast contains a simple tap-along process to help calm your system and gain some mental clarity. In addition, learn how to choose which tapping point to tap on next (you will be surprised by the analogy that I use). This will only take a few minutes to do, but it is p...

There is no question that tapping is a valuable tool to have in your self-care tool box, but if we are not thoughtful in our approach, it is easy for us to miss out on some of the benefits of a tapping session. If we aren't careful we can tap for thirty minutes, moving from topic to topic to topic, doing bits and bods of work here and there without ever making a big dent in any one issue. This isn...