Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT

The murder of George Floyd and the ongoing protests at centuries of racial injustice have galvinized many to speak truth more forcefully in their daily lives. One of those people is my friend J Nycole Ralph. As J Nycole was processing her own emotions, she realized that she was being more impacted by the death of another black American AND she wasn't standing up in as powerful a way she wanted to....

The phrase "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is often taught to us as children. As adults, we know this isn't true. It would be great if what other people said about us didn't have the power to hurt us, but we are doing ourselves a disservice by pretending it doesn't. Here is a simple 3-step process to tease out the reason why certain words hurt more than others...

Before doing this I didn't understand the difference between compassion fatigue and burnout. I thought compassion fatigue was just a specific type of burnout experienced by helpers and healers. In reality, compassion fatigue is not only different, but can be much more serious than burnout. To understand compassion fatigue more I interviewed licensed mental health professional Robin Bilazarian. Rob...

Do you sometimes hold yourself back from making choices because of concern about how they may impact those around you? It is good to be thoughtful about how your actions affect others, but we can't allow this to dictate our choices. If we put everyone else's needs first, we will never be able to take care of ourselves, and chances are that nobody else will do that for us. This tapping is a simple...

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . Wanting to fit in and belong is a basic human desire, not a failure. It's natural to want oth...

In May 2014 I was lucky enough to be invited to join the group Empowering The Philippines in teaching EFT Tapping to the residents of Tacloban City and the surrounding areas. Six months earlier the region had been ravaged by Super Typhoon Haiyan (called Yolanda in the Philippines), displacing four million people and leaving one million homes damaged or destroyed. Our days in the Philippines were s...

I often hear my clients say "I should have known better" OR "I know better, but for some reason I keep making the same choice" when they are judging their actions. Just knowing what the right choice is doesn't mean we will make it, because information alone is not enough. Most of the reasons we don't make the right choice or take the right action, even though we know intellectually what we want to...

In response to everything that is going on the world my friends Jennifer Carey and Dayna Wood have been doing a video show three times a week called "Connected and Conscious". On the show they ask their friends and colleagues how they are staying healthy, focused, and happy during this time of great upheaval and uncertainty. In addition to talking about how the guests are taking care of themselves...

Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . A significant amount of my time tapping with clients is spent looking into the past. We ident...

New York City is a wacky place. One of the things that I have encountered firsthand is how amazingly different the dating scene is here compared with other cities. First, there are millions of people, many of whom are single, which vastly increases the pool of potential dates. Second, everyone is very busy so dates can be short (and feel a bit rushed) because everyone seems to have less time. Thir...

Note: This podcast is a part of the Fundamental Disposition series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . Last week a client asked me, "Why do you make me tap on that phrase all the time? Is it so...

Just because we have a to-do list filled with useful tasks doesn't mean that we will actually have a productive day. Sometimes we waste our time on tasks that aren't even on our list, or we complete tasks on our list that are not the most valuable ones. Being busy is not necessarily the same thing as being productive. Here is a simple tapping tool I use every morning to ensure that I actually do t...

Recently I was working with a client on the grief she was feeling at missing so many experiences she loves during quarantine. As we were debriefing after a round of tapping she said: "While we were tapping on the grief I noticed all of these other pools of grief that were inside me from the past. As we tapped it was almost as if the wall between those pools of grief broke, the grief combined, and...

The world is a very big place and when we think of how we can make an impact on the world and everything going on in it, we can feel awfully small. In reality, our small gestures and ways of being in the world and how we interact with others can have a significant impact. Recognizing that our choices do make a difference make those helpful choices easier. This tap-along will help you to be a peace...

Most choices aren't black and white, so being of two minds is a common experience. There are pros and cons to both outcomes. On the finale of this season's Project Runway (US version), one of the contestants, Victoria Cocieru, was struggling with which direction to take with her designs. She said, "In my brain I have a thousand little brains and they are fighting with each other." I find that a ve...

Most of us spend at least half of our day at work. Because work consumes so much of our time and attention, stress from the working day can easily spill over into the rest of our lives. This week's podcast provides a tool that will help you to leave work at work. This tool applies to all types of work, no matter how many hours you work, and whether you travel to a workplace or work from home. It t...

Family is complicated. Because they are family we want what is best for them. But at the same time we put up with more from them than we'd put up with from others because they are family. We will allow our family to say and do things that we would not tolerate from anyone else in our lives. This can cause an internal conflict. How can we be a loving family member whilst at the same time not want t...

One of the most difficult parts of the healing process is being able to forgive ourselves. It's common to believe that if we forgive ourselves, we are letting ourselves off the hook and failing to take responsibility for our past choices. Self-forgiveness is actually the opposite of this. Being able to move to a place of forgiveness means we are taking responsibility for the past and making sure i...

These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown. That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system tries to protect us. It's like we are starting off every day paying a 20% emotion tax, meaning that we only have 80% of our usual reserves and resilience....

One of the most common issues I uncover in my client sessions is the feeling of not being worthy to be here. It's seldom the main issue my clients present when we start working together, but as we work we find instances from their past where they felt dismissed or ignored by the people who were important to them. This creates a feeling of not believing you are worthy to be here at this moment. Her...

The most primitive part of our emotional guidance system is our fear response. Fear's primary goal is to keep us from dying. I know that sounds like an overstatement, but this is exactly how it functions. Of course it's good that part of our internal guidance is on alert and doesn't want us to die, but in the modern word just because we fear something doesn't mean there are fatal consequences. Bec...

While past choices may have contributed to your present, they do not mean that what comes next is predetermined. It is all too easy to feel trapped by both past choices and your current situation BUT they do not define who we are or who we can choose to be. In this short tapping audio we place ourselves at a fresh starting point. This audio is lifted directly from a client session, with my client'...

Grief is a much more common emotion than we might think. It is obvious that we feel grief when a loved one dies, or when an important relationship or job ends. In reality, grief shows up any time we experience a loss. This could be for an opportunity, an ability, or even something as simple as a predictable daily routine. For the large changes it is easy to recognize grief. For smaller changes it...

When I was younger I had a hard time accepting the idea that God could love me unconditionally. I believed that I had to earn God's unconditional love. Meaning that I wasn't understanding that unconditional means unconditional, aka it doesn't have to be earned! Here's an audio from a client session where we tapped for accepting unconditional love. My client gave me permission to use this recording...

Sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest places. A few weeks ago I attended the On Air Fest, an event for podcast creators and podcast fans. One of my favorite presentations was given by Shima Oliaee who was one of the producers for Dolly Parton's America . During the presentation Shima shared a number of lessons she learned from interviewing Dolly and working on the project. Dolly is clearl...