Tap in with Tiffany

This episode starts with a Mother’s Day catch-up and a story that sounds straight out of a reality show. Dr. Darby recounts a tense prom lineup encounter that nearly turned into a fight after an unexpected confrontation with a woman in furry boots. Because apparently prom season isn’t stressful enough. We also reflect on Mother’s Day experiences, including the emotional reality of working in crisi...

This episode is very much “life is life-ing,” and we’re just trying to keep up. We get into the chaos of parenting in today’s world—from over-the-top prom culture (why is this a full production??) to the emotional and financial weight that comes with raising kids at every stage. As our children get older, the challenges shift, but the responsibility never really goes away. We talk honestly about w...

Aging, confidence, and evolving identity.. we discuss what it means to grow into yourself—embracing change in your body, mindset, and relationships—while letting go of external validation. Health, wellness, and physical changes are addressed with honesty, including conversations around hormones, memory, and the realities of aging bodies. In this week’s Tap In or Tap Out? segment, the focus shifts...

From New Year “resolutions” that last two days to unpacking emotional clutter, shopping habits, control, and the fear of slowing down, we explore what it means to grow older, wiser, and more self-aware—without pretending it’s easy. The conversation moves through themes of productivity, grief, identity shifts, motherhood wounds, friendships changing with life stages, and the realization that many o...

We open up with a catch-up on life, exhaustion, and transitions—moving homes, shifting work dynamics, and the realities of being high-achieving Black women who are still BLACKITY BLACK! This leads to a deeper conversation about identity, education, and the stereotypes placed on Black professionals, particularly around PhDs, power dynamics, and ego. From there, we turn toward reflection and end-of-...

We kick things off with a wild story about football moms fighting in the stands—sparking a bigger conversation about conflict, communication, and why some people throw hands while others just don’t care enough to fight. From there, we dive deep into sex and sexuality. We unpack the Madonna complex, shifting sex drives in long-term relationships, and the need for open dialogue about fantasies and k...

Dr. Welch discusses her path from community counseling to counselor education, her unexpected entry into leadership, and the challenges she faced as a young, Black woman in academia. She reflects on the importance of representation and the impact of being a role model for students. We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries, staying grounded, and being loyal—but not to a fault..learning...

We break down the fine line between respect and disrespect, and how misunderstandings around the two can lead to real conflict. We talk about the importance of open communication, setting and honoring boundaries, and how gender roles, masculinity, and our upbringing shape our definition of respect. This week’s Tap in or Tap Out? segment features a listener trying to find themselves again after a t...

Welcoming our first ever guest Dr. Roseina Britton to the podcast! Fun and light-hearted, while deeply centered, Dr. Britton gives us a lot of gems in this conversation. She shares her journey through personal loss, challenges in achieving licensure, and her dedication to healing and empowerment. Also gives us the recipe of her self-care rituals, the importance of mentorship, and breaking societal...

Welcome to Warm Girl Summer! We are discussing recent travels to Costa Rica and Antigua, sharing highlights and the dynamics of group travel. We give our two cents on dating, the complexities of modern relationships, and the importance of maintaining one's peace, even if it means facing challenges in a partnership. Lastly, we touch upon empathy in relationships, the challenges of setting boundarie...

In this episode, we explore importance of sisterhood, specifically sororities, and the benefit of hard work, showing up, community service, plus addressing competition and balancing personal pride with humility within these organizations. At the end of the day, a sorority is not for everybody, and you gotta put the work in to reap the rewards. This week's 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a li...

As the circus continues in the U.S. of A.. we are exploring the idea of possibly moving abroad for a better quality of life. We also can't help but discuss the social political climates, and reflecting on white and black protest dynamics. Spoiler: We are sitting this one out. We also weigh in on the potential implications of AI technology in academia and therapy, voicing both advantages and ethica...

Join us as we dive into the challenges of modern parenting, including the emotional and financial toll of raising active children. We explore the intersection of technology with everyday life, discussing its impact on mental health, communication skills, and the shifting dynamics of AI in therapy.  The 'Tap in or Tap Out?' segment features a listener seeking advice on balancing parenting with self...

Navigating Relationships, Intimacy, and Personal Boundaries We start with a lively discussion about the shifts that occur in relationships over time and how to address emotional changes. We also explore the challenges of maintaining intimacy and communication in relationships, touching on topics like love languages, managing expectations, and the importance of small, consistent gestures. We explor...

We are breakin down men's health from various angles. We share our views on physical health, the importance of regular check-ups, and societal pressures that prevent men -especially black ones- from seeking necessary medical care. We also explore mental health challenges, particularly focusing on the emotional struggles black men face and the stigma around seeking therapy. Additionally, we reflect...

In this episode, we explore the complexities of holiday traditions, family dynamics, and creating new norms. We share personal stories about shifting holiday celebrations, the impact of losing family matriarchs, and the challenges of maintaining family bonds. We also discuss the importance of setting boundaries with relatives, the transition after divorce, and the concept of chosen family.  This w...

Let's get into the complexities of managing wealth and finances. We share our personal relationships with money, financial upbringings, and navigating the psychological aspects of money management. We touch on some strategies for financial literacy, budgeting, and maintaining stability while managing debt and investments. We also discuss modern self-care practices like hiring help and grocery deli...

In this episode, we discuss our complex work lives, juggling multiple jobs in private practice, teaching, and supervision, and highlight our commitment to financial stability and professional growth. We also -as usual- talk about setting boundaries, the evolution of our career goals, and the hesitation about leadership roles.   This week's 'Tap In or Tap Out?' segment addresses a listener's questi...

We start out discussing a restorative trip to Jamaica, emphasizing the importance of choosing compatible travel companions. Then we move into a discussion about our career paths as therapists, highlighting the different experiences and motivations that led us into the field. We explore the differences between counseling and psychology, including the varied training and specialties within the profe...

In episode 7, we compare the experiences of raising an only child versus multiple children and discuss the uniqueness of raising boys. The conversation expands to address gender expectations, balancing emotional intelligence with raising resilient boys, and the challenges of co-parenting with differing philosophies. We also explore how modern-day access to information influences parenting and the...

We are exploring the complexities of relationships with parents, particularly focusing on the Boomer generation. We share personal anecdotes about our upbringings, parental challenges, and the effect of our parents' behaviors - for better or worse- on our own lives. The conversation also touches on the emotional labor of caregiving, setting boundaries, and understanding intergenerational trauma. ...

Episode 5 is exploring self-care, emphasizing its personal nature and the importance of daily practices alongside larger goals. We debunk the misconception that self-care is selfish, arguing that it is critical for overall health and well-being. Various aspects of self-care are discussed, including physical, spiritual, mental, and interpersonal wellness. The conversation also covers the importance...

Navigating Friendships and Boundaries in Relationship We dive into the complexities of friendships, both old and new, and how to set healthy boundaries within those relationships. We share personal experiences and challenges with blending friends from different stages of life and how they manage expectations and dynamics within those groups. The discussion also covers the difficulty of forming new...

In this episode we dive into the importance of setting boundaries  in all spheres of life, including relationships with partners, friends, and family members. The conversation highlights the struggles and significance of asserting oneself to maintain mental health and peace, and touches on the complexity of adult friendships, the impact of life changes on relationship dynamics, and the necessity o...

In this episode, we dive into the topic of embracing the soft girl era and what it means for us. We explore how self-care and setting boundaries is crucial, and discuss how this concept affects women, especially black women, and highlight the importance of resilience amidst life's challenges. The conversation touches on navigating the balance between enjoying modern luxuries and cultivating inner...