Talking with Tanya

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I open up about my experience stepping into leadership and how much it challenged me emotionally, mentally, and personally. I talk about the discomfort of asserting myself into other people’s spaces, navigating conflict in real time, learning to trust myself under pressure, and realizing that being a good leader doesn’t mean everyone will like or understand y...

One year ago, I started this podcast with no plan—just a desire to grow, understand myself, and share what I was learning along the way. 36 episodes later… I’m not the same person. In this episode, I’m taking you through a timeline of my journey—not just the episodes I’ve recorded, but the versions of myself that existed within them. From wanting to help others, to learning how to use my voice, to...

There’s a version of me that used to feel like I needed connection to feel complete…and this version of me? I actually enjoy my own company. In this episode, I talk about what it’s been like outgrowing people, redefining connection, and realizing that emotional fulfillment starts within. I’ve been learning that I don’t need everyone to meet me—I just need the right people to meet me where I am. I...

In this episode, I talk about what it really means to start living with intention. Recently, I had a moment that made me realize how much I’ve changed—how I move differently, how I see people differently, and how I choose what aligns with me instead of just accepting attention. We get into: the difference between attention and alignment learning from past mistakes without staying stuck in shame ho...

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I reflect on something that’s been on my mind lately: Do people actually like me for who I am, or just for how I make them feel? I talk about learning to match people’s energy, the exhaustion that can come from overgiving in relationships, and what happens when you start going through an identity shift. As I continue growing and becoming more aware of my patt...

Sometimes the hardest part of growth isn’t the breakthrough, it’s the uncertainty in between. In this episode, I open up about financial insecurity, wondering if I should change career paths, health worries, emotional detachment, and the pressure I put on myself to always be “profound.” I talk about vulnerability hangovers, trauma minimization, and what it means to trust yourself while you’re stil...

Growing up isn’t just about getting older, it’s about understanding. We share personal stories from our childhoods, reflect on the hardships our parents faced, and unpack how those experiences formed who we are today. We talk about fear, resilience, independence, chosen family, and learning to see our parents as human. You can’t truly appreciate the good without experiencing the hard. And sometime...

This maybe a new series. I came home after a long day not expecting to create this episode but here it is. Have you ever realized you understand people deeply… but they don’t always meet you there? In this episode, my friend and I talk about: – Not over-giving anymore – Being the “mirror” in friendships – Why discernment matters more than availability – The struggle of always being the spontaneous...

Leadership isn’t always loud or recognized. Often, it’s shaped quietly through lived experience — through moments of integrity, boundary-setting, and choosing what’s right even when it’s uncomfortable. In this episode, I reflect on personal stories from childhood, adolescence, and early adulthood that shaped my understanding of leadership long before I ever held a title. We talk about standing up...

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In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I’m joined by two friends with very different perspectives on religion and spirituality. Together, we explore faith, belief systems, spiritual experiences, and what it means to question what we were taught without losing ourselves. I share my personal experiences with tarot, angel numbers, astrology, and manifestation, and why these practices have helped me r...

In this special, full-circle episode, I’m joined once again by my very first guest, my brother, who also happens to be one of my best friends. From Thanksgiving chaos to deep, unexpected moments of reflection, this conversation is filled with laughter, honesty, and heart. We talk about his life, his likes and dislikes, his unique perspective on the world, and the lessons he’s taught me — especiall...

In this milestone episode, I’m taking a moment to reflect on my podcasting journey so far — the lessons, the growth, the challenges, and the surprises along the way. From facing fear and self-doubt to discovering my authentic voice, this episode is all about the personal insights that made me fall in love with podcasting and helped me grow as a creator and as a person. Join me as I share what I’ve...

In this Halloween special, I sit down with two of my friends to explore costumes, connection, and personal reflection. We share stories about standing out at work, feeling authentically ourselves, and navigating friendships. Later, I do a one on one friend dive into the card game Substance , answering thought-provoking questions like “If you could send a message to your past, present, and future s...

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, we explore the power of giving back to the community. Why it matters, how it can transform lives, and the ripple effects of kindness. I share my personal journey of starting over, the lessons I’ve learned from leaning on my community, and how small acts of care can make a big difference. From helping neighbors, friends, and strangers, to supporting local busi...

In this episode, I open up about my journey as an empath — the beauty, the heartbreak, and the lessons that come with feeling everything so deeply. I talk about how empathy can shape the way we love, how it can lead to people-pleasing, and how learning to set boundaries became one of my biggest acts of self-love. I also share some of the neuroscience behind empathy, what makes our brains different...

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I share the lessons I’ve learned from my past relationships — heartbreaks, realizations, and personal growth. From navigating attachment styles to understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energy, I dive into the truths about love that no one tells you. This episode is for anyone who’s loved, lost, or is learning to choose themselves while opening t...

Ever feel like you’re not enough? Even on your best days? In this episode, I dive into my own struggles with feeling unworthy. Even someone optimistic, forward-looking, and resilient like me can have these moments. But it’s these very traits that help me explore the truth, uncover why I feel this way, and develop insights to transform unworthiness into self-empowerment. Amazing what a shift in per...

In this episode of Talking with Tanya , I sit down with my best friend to reflect on the life lessons we’ve learned through the friendships we’ve built over time. Relationships can act as mirrors, showing us more about ourselves — our likes, our boundaries, and the people who make us feel truly safe. We discuss how recognizing these feelings can turn into wisdom we carry forward into future connec...

In this episode, I sit down with my friend to explore the journey of self-discovery, healing, and authenticity. We talk about the lessons life has taught us through personal challenges, and experiences with bullying, the idea of fasting and how facing these moments can lead to truly being seen. We dive into mind-bending ideas like quantum immortality, the power of vulnerability, and how embracing...

In this episode, I share the coping mechanisms and mental health routines that keep me grounded when life feels overwhelming. From simple daily habits to creative outlets that help me reset, these are the tools I turn to when stress and anxiety hit. I’m not a mental health professional, just someone on my own journey learning what works. My hope is that by sharing my practices, you’ll feel inspire...

In this episode, I sit down with two of my good friends to talk about ADHD — what it was like growing up with it, the struggles we face as adults, and the unexpected gifts like hyperfocus. We also dive into coping tools, friendships, and how ADHD shows up in relationships. This episode was definitely a journey to create. I originally recorded the whole thing on a third-party app, but the file corr...

In this episode, I sit down with my best friend for a candid, fun, and heart-to-heart conversation about friendship. We dive into how we met, what makes a good friend, and why making friends as an adult can be surprisingly tricky. From funny stories to life lessons, we cover it all—and share what we’ve learned about loyalty, boundaries, and supporting each other through thick and thin. Tune in for...

In this episode of Talking with Tanya, I dive deep into the transformative power of astrology and how it’s become an essential tool for my personal growth and self-discovery. Whether you're a skeptic or a seasoned astrologer, I share my journey of exploring my birth chart, the insights I’ve gained, and how understanding my Sun, Moon, and Rising signs (along with other placements) has helped me...

In this episode, I open up about one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever had to make—leaving a 9-year relationship and moving back to California to start fresh. It’s raw, it’s honest, and it’s real. I share what led to this choice, the fears that held me back for so long, and how growing up with a helicopter parent shaped my sense of independence (or lack of it). I also talk about what grounding me...