Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, "This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected." What happens when life doesn't turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected. Maybe your hard time is that you just went through th...

Good communication isn't something you're born with. It's not even a gender thing. It's something you have to learn (CLICK TO Tweet it!) I was on a talkshow where I was talking about the importance of good communication in relationships. The host of the show stopped me to ask, "Debra, do you mean to tell me you expect men to be good communicators?" Why, yes. That is absolutely what I am saying. To...

There's a reason junk-food is so popular. It makes you feel good for a little while, it's quick, and most of all - it's convenient. But at the end of the day, it destroys your health and expands your waist-line. And we ultimately end up regretting it. The same thing kind of goes for "junk food relationships".  We all say we want healthy relationships, but in reality, most of us tend to go for what...

If you're single, I know you're looking for online dating tips. Because, ugh, online dating?  It's a love-hate relationship for sure...especially when it comes to being a Christian and trying to date online. From the Christian singles I've interacted with: they are online because there seems to be no other way to meet other Christian singles. So you give it a try, but like today's caller  - you ar...

Have you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving - and getting little to nothing in return? Why do you find yourself one way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this: You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!) So how do you change that narrative? How do you...

Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can't avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. "Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy." (Tweet it!) That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that Dr. Les Parrott (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of...

How do you know if someone is just not that into you? "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." (Tweet it!) That's exactly what I told the caller on today's episode of the show.  After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested...

We've all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do relationships in the present. Our past doesn't define us, but it can certainly have an impact on the kind of relationships we find ourselves drawn to. It can have an impact on who we choose to open up to, and trust. "But absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God's redemption" (TWEET I...