Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn't go how you hoped it would to go? That seems to be the question of the hour with Valentines Day looming just around the corner.  People approach Valentines Day with a range of love/hate feelings for this occasion to celebrate love.  How To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (Don't Do...

Should I marry him? Today's caller is having some doubts in the relationship she's in. She's not sure if she should just fight through, or if she should just walk away. When do you know that the doubts you're facing are normal doubts, and when do you recognize that there's something going on that might be a signal that you need to walk away from this relationships?  In Love In Every Season, I expl...

We're in the thick of Winter, here in Pennsylvania. And there's a lot we can learn from this season when it comes to relationships. Every season of a relationship comes with important ingredients that can make or break your relationship. If you aren't aware of what the seasons bring, you won't be able to USE them to strengthen your relationship. Today we're talking about the season of Winter. It's...

Today we're talking questions to ask your partner, because we often assume instead of ask...and end up with some major conflict. When it comes to relationships, things aren't always as they appear. Every relationship goes through a season where they navigate through the realization that the person they're with has flaws, failures, and sometimes - major issues. True colors begin to shine through, a...

Summer is the season of intimacy, and it's when things get hot in a relationship. I can't wait to share all about Summer in today's podcast episode, but I just want to share with you that my new book, Love In Every Season, officially launched TODAY!!! You can get a copy anywhere you get your books. There's so much I wanted to share with you on these episodes of the podcast, but of course the major...

We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today's question couldn't have come at a better time. We're digging deep into the four seasons of a relationship starting with the season of Spring! Spring is the season of growth, it's the season when attraction is blossoming and emotions are blooming. It's the season of planting the right seeds and taking out the...

Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!! It's time to do things better this coming year, and expect better things! Especially when it comes to our relationships. Because the quality of your relationships impacts the quality of your life! Tune into this extra special New Years Eve Podcast episode for some hope, encouragement, and motivation to make better, hea...

Q: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced? Dating someone who is divorced is a topic that has come up more and more over the years. With the age of divorce getting younger, and the number of divorces getting higher over the years - it makes sense that dating someone who is divorced is a topic that keeps coming back around during my question and answer time. I have clients, frien...

Today on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage. If you've ever wrestled with the concept of leadership, submission, or headship in marriage than you don't want to miss this episode. I have LOVED Tim + Anne's biblical approach to marriage, and their views and ideas have put into words in a way that no one else has, the way that John and I do marriage. We're a...

Looking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you're trying to get to know someone of the opposite sex? Today's podcast episode is a fast and furious trip through 15 questions you can ask as you're starting the process of getting to know someone and wanting to learn how to break the ice. I hear from so many people how difficult it can be to break the ice when...

Last week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she's interested in him. Today we're hitting up the flip side for the man who asks: what are some ways I can show her interest? Is there anything I can do to let her know that I'm into her? I surveyed women of all ages, and the consensus was the same. And today, we're revealing what they said on this brand new episode of the podcas...

I'm always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious or seeming desperate. Today's episode I'm talking you through THREE things the men said a woman can do to show him she's interested in him! I interviewed and surveyed all kinds of men to get you these answers, and they're so much more simple than you would imagine. Showing interest is something t...

Is it possible to fall in love with the wrong person, or is falling in love the ultimate goal?   What is that feeling that we call "falling in love" and is it possible to choose someone based on pure emotion rather than choosing someone who is a good match for our lives? And then what happens if you feel like you've fallen in love with the wrong person?  Falling in Love With the Wrong Person Today...

Today we're talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it's time to walk away?  A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That's a question we're diving in to today. Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from...

Compatibility is key. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship.  Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships.  When it comes to understanding com...

Today's question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks: Q: Hi Debra. I'm feeling conflicted that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for a relationship. I do my best to eat well and exercise to keep a healthy weight for myself, especially since I'm at risk for Type II diabetes, and obesity is the number one risk factor. It seems that marrying someone who also has...

Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship?  A: Today's question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like...is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationshi...

Time is everything. In fact, it's one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you...because it's the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we've been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 39, our interactions in episode 40, and today we're talking about our time. Time is your most valuable comm...

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we're comfortable talking about, but it's a necessary conversation. It's easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don't actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries...

How do you protect your marriage? What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What's your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage?  These are some of the questions that came in over the past few months, and I am so glad say that I can finally answer them, because Season 3 of the Love + Relationships Podcast is officially here!!!! And y...

There's a lot of casual dating going on these days...and it's starting to get confusing.  Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex.  Today's question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name o...

Spiritual warfare isn't something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the context of our relationships. But by not having this conversation, what if we're missing something? Because what if there are forces unseen at work, waging war against our hearts and against our relationships? Spiritual Warfare in Relationships According to scripture, "our battle is not...

"Guard your heart".  That's pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? How To Guard Your Heart Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart...because your heart is the most important part of who you...

Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say no is likely going to start impacting your health, as well as the health of your relationships. If you're anything like the average American, you're probably feeling burned-out and spread thin. We live in a society that has absolutely no margin. We're so caught up in the rat race of life that we've lost o...

Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn't spiritually in tune with where you're at with your faith? What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship? Attracted To a Non Christian Today's episode answers a...