Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I'm talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that?  Or maybe you know someone, someone who you're in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing,...

Q: How do you deal with trust issues, when they seem to come up again and again? In today's show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she's having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you've ever struggled...

"I never imagined I'd be single in my 30's"... Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single in her late 30s - something she never imagined. What does it look like to hold on to hope when life's timeline doesn't look like what you expected? No matter what age you are, I believe this favorite...

Q: Hey Debra, you always say that what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationships you believe you deserve...how do I help my kids begin to establish a healthy identity? So much of our identity is formed and shaped in our childhood years - and what we do, and say, and teach as parents matters. How do you begin to help your kids see themselves as God sees them? Fight off the cul...

Q: What is your best advice for a couple considering marriage? Marriage is a big decision. I think we can all agree to that. But what sets apart marriages that succeed from marriages that don't?  Today, I'm joined by Pastor Cal, one of the spiritual advisors and coaches from the reality TV show called Married At First Sight. On this show, they literally match up two potential candidates for marria...

Q: How can singles restore a healthy view of sex when they've been hurt by purity culture? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary...

Q: What do you do when one of you wants oral sex, but the other doesn't like it? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, m...

Q: How do I help my wife get turned on? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-...

Quickie Sex or Not So Quickie? That's today's topic! Q: Sometimes I'd enjoy something spontaneous, but my wife prefers to wait until the end of the night so she can unwind. How can we honor each other's preferences? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in celebration of the new book launch of Married...

Q: Any advice to keeping sex fun when you're trying to get pregnant? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co...

Q: Is it wrong to want to try something I've seen in porn, even though I know that porn itself is wrong? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this courageous question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your qu...

Today we're talking about sex tips and tricks for Newlyweds (and not so newly weds) Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? Friends - we're talking about sex! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life, we're taking...

We're talking about sex today...but not in the way you expect. This time, we're talking about being sex-less. What do you do when you're single and living in a sex-filled world? How do you save sex for marriage when everything inside of you and around you is telling you otherwise? How do you honor God, and still have a healthy awareness and understanding of your sexual desires? How does the purity...

What's it like to care for your mental and emotional health in the world of professional sports? In today's podcast, I talk with NFL veteran Rashad Johnson about life in the NFL, and what it looks like to practically care for yourself when the focus tends to be on physical performance. We talk through a hard season he went through, the difficulty of transitioning out of the NFL, and ways he's lear...

The topic of mental health and the Olympics really made it's way to the surface recently, as Simone Biles took the media spotlight after she opted out of her Olympic events due to mental health reasons. The word was divided on whether or not she was a hero, and what it really means to struggle with mental health issues. I wanted to dive deeper into this topic, and I invited an incredible guy named...

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this episode came in at #1! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe about ourselves...

Am I too picky? Today's caller is wondering if she's too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that....maybe....you're too picky. We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #2! I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Marrie...

What does a godly man want in a woman? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #3! My friend Chad and I did a Q&A together, and we answer some of your questions on this episode - and one woman wants to know, what is up with the godly man saying he wants a woman of character, and then chasing after the supermodel woman?? It's a loade...

When it comes to dating, should a woman initiate? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #4! You guys know what I think about this topic (it's a non-issue, and it doesn't matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspecti...

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #5! Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in contr...

If you've been following along, you've heard us have some open and honest conversations about anxiety. But today is a little bit different. Today I'm talking to John Delony from Ramsey Solutions. Dr. Delony is a high-performance, high-achieving man - who found himself in a pit of anxiety that he didn't see coming. Sometimes, people don't recognize anxiety because on the outside they are successful...

Raise your hand if you're stressed! Okay, so pretty much everyone. Now how do we deal with stress? We've heard a lot about stress the past year because 2020 was a doozy and we're still reeling from it. But we've got to learn to unpack and face our stress in healthy ways. In today's episode I'm talking you through dealing with stress. I'm sharing three steps to make sure you're handling your stress...

You'd never guess overcoming severe depression is part of his story. Because I don't know many young men who are full of life and pep and joy like Ben Courson. But this joy has been hard fought for. So hard, that he almost lost the fight. Life has thrown a lot of hardships his way, causing him to struggle with complex post traumatic stress disorder and severe depression. I'm overjoyed to have Ben...

Comparison is the enemy of contentment...the problem is, with social media, Instagram filters, and TikTok stories - there's nothing easier in 2021 than comparing yourself to others. It's literally a trap that's right at your fingertips. Today I'm answering a listener question about dealing with the comparison trap, with my friend and today's co-host Jamie Ivey. Jamie is the host of the Happy Hour...

Insomnia. Sleep struggles. Tossing and turning. Watching the clock go by hour by hour...How do you deal with a lack of sleep when it impacts your overall health emotionally and physically? Today's episode answers a caller who is struggling with his sleep. We'll offer some practical suggestions for what to do, as well as ways to check-in on your sleep hygiene! If you've ever struggled with a lack o...