Surviving Toxic Relationships Podcast with The Matadoras

What happens when the person you vowed to spend your life with turns out to be living a double life — not in secret affairs, but in hidden abuse? In this eye-opening episode of Surviving Toxic Relationships , we’re joined by Mia Hanks — a brave survivor who spent 29 years married to a covert narcissist. Behind closed doors, Mia endured years of emotional manipulation and financial control, slowly...

What happens when pain meets purpose? Join us for an unforgettable conversation with Samia Young , a powerhouse of resilience, faith, and redemption. Once a foster youth who endured unspeakable abuse, a toxic marriage, and time in jail, Samia’s life seemed destined for tragedy. But her story didn't end there. In this raw and inspiring episode, Samia opens up about the moment she encountered t...

In this candid and powerful episode of Surviving Toxic Relationships with The Matadoras, Lizzie and Deana are joined by therapist and author Dr. Becky Whetstone to unpack the real dynamics behind relationship breakdowns, nagging, resentment, and emotional maturity. Together, they explore the five stages of a deteriorating marriage, the misunderstood "nagging wife" stereotype, and how poo...

 In this powerful Talk It Out Tuesday episode, Lizzie and Deana talk openly about the emotional toll of public betrayal, using the viral Andy Byron affair as a lens to explore the very personal pain of infidelity. Together, they unpack their own experiences, share practical advice for those feeling triggered, and challenge harmful myths about why people cheat. Whether you've been betrayed, re...

In this conversation, Lizzie and Deana speak with Lisa Johnson, a high conflict divorce strategist and advocate, about the complexities of navigating high conflict divorces and legal abuse. Lisa shares her personal journey from being a victim to becoming an advocate for others, emphasizing the importance of courtroom etiquette, emotional support, and strategic oversight in legal battles. The discu...

In this episode, Lizzie and Deana delve into the complexities of manipulation, focusing on gaslighting, blame shifting, and minimizing. They share personal stories and insights on how these tactics can distort reality and erode emotional safety. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags in relationships and offers practical tips for recovery and healthy communication. Tak...

On the first episode of "Talk It Out Tuesdays", Lizzie and Deana discuss the phenomenon of "gray divorce", particularly focusing on the emotional and financial impacts of divorce for individuals over 50. They share personal experiences of navigating divorce in midlife, the challenges of dating, and the importance of personal growth and healing. The conversation emphasizes the n...

In this conversation, Lizzie and Deana explore the complexities of manipulation within faith-based relationships, particularly focusing on how women of faith may be more susceptible to manipulative behaviors. They discuss various manipulation tactics, including passive-aggressive humor, emotional guilt, and triangulation, while emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and healthy communication...

In this conversation, three time best selling author, Azadeh Atzberger  shares her powerful journey from a troubled childhood marked by bullying and substance abuse to reclaiming her life after escaping an extremely toxic relationship. She discusses the challenges she faced, including addiction, domestic violence, and the struggle to find her voice. Through resilience and support, Azadeh found rec...

In this conversation, Dr. Becky Whetstone, LMFT  discusses the complexities of marriage, particularly focusing on the challenges faced when one partner wants to end the marriage. Becky shares insights from her book, "I Think I Want Out, The 5 Stages of Marital Breakdown" which addresses the five stages of marital deterioration and the lack of resources available for couples in crisis. Th...

In this episode, Lizzie and Deana explore the critical distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation, emphasizing that forgiveness is a personal choice that can occur independently of the other party's actions. They discuss the importance of healing from emotional trauma, the necessity of setting boundaries, and the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive individuals. The con...

Summary In this conversation, Katherine Miura, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares her insights on navigating narcissistic abuse. She defines narcissistic abuse as the construction of a false perception of reality by the abuser to control the victim. Katherine emphasizes the strength of the victim, the importance of recognizing the illusion created by narcissists, and the need for sel...

In this conversation, Mandy Schulis, a narrative coach and nervous system expert, shares her insights on healing after toxic relationships. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion, patience, and understanding the nervous system's role in emotional recovery. Mandy provides practical tools for women to navigate their healing journey, including breathing techniques and the significance...

In this conversation, Carla Litto, a marriage and family therapist, discusses the signs of narcissism in romantic relationships. She explains how narcissists often present themselves charmingly at first, but their true nature reveals itself over time. The discussion covers the importance of recognizing red flags, the dynamics of love bombing, and strategies for approaching loved ones who may be in...

In this episode of the Matadoras No More Bull podcast, Lizzie and Deana share their personal journeys of escaping toxic relationships and the importance of healing. They discuss the challenges of recognizing abusive patterns, the impact of deception, and the necessity of building a supportive community for women facing similar struggles. Their mission is to empower others to break free from the cy...

In this brief episode, Deana and Lizzie discuss the importance of setting boundaries for personal well-being and empowerment. They explore the signs of unhealthy boundaries, the steps to becoming a 'boundary boss', and the significance of self-care in maintaining healthy relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for clear communication, self-reflection, and consistency in bound...

In this conversation, Tina shares her profound journey from a traumatic childhood marked by abuse and a cult-like upbringing to a path of healing and self-discovery. She discusses the impact of generational trauma, the challenges of recognizing and breaking free from narcissistic relationships, and the importance of forgiveness and self-love. Tina emphasizes the necessity of inner work and the too...

In this conversation, Katherine Miura, an author and marriage and family therapist, shares her personal journey of overcoming narcissistic abuse and her mission to help others heal from similar experiences. She discusses the complexities of narcissistic relationships, the importance of understanding trauma bonds, and the role of inner child work in recovery. Katherine also emphasizes the need for...

In this episode, The Matadoras delve into the complex and often misunderstood topic of emotional abuse through suicide manipulation. They share personal stories, discuss the red flags of manipulation, and provide practical advice on how to respond to threats of suicide. The conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness, setting boundaries, and seeking help, while also acknowledging the emoti...

In this engaging conversation, the Matadoras and special guest Jennifer, share their personal stories of navigating relationships with narcissistic individuals. They explore the complexities of narcissistic personalities, recount their experiences, and discuss the healing process that follows. Through humor and shared understanding, they aim to empower others who may be facing similar challenges,...

In this engaging episode, Dr. Sam Vaknin, a renowned expert on narcissism, author, and Professor of Psychology provides invaluable insights into the warning signs of abusive behavior, the psychological tactics employed by abusers, and effective strategies for healing and recovery. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and the necessity of establishing bo...

In this conversation, Lizzie and Deana explore the concept of victim mentality, discussing its origins, signs, and how it manifests in relationships and life circumstances. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and breaking free from this mindset to reclaim personal power and foster growth. The discussion includes practical strategies for overcoming victimhood, such as setting boundaries, f...

In this conversation, Deana and Lizzie discuss the profound themes of grief, loneliness, and depression, particularly as they navigate personal struggles and the importance of vulnerability. They share their experiences and insights on how to cope with these feelings, emphasizing the need for support, self-care, and community. The discussion highlights the significance of evaluating life changes,...

In this episode of The Matadoras, hosts Deana and Lizzie delve into the complex and often painful topic of grief. They share personal stories of loss, including the impact of losing friends and family members, and discuss the various ways individuals cope with grief. The conversation emphasizes the importance of healthy grieving practices, the necessity of communication, and the significance of su...

In this conversation, Bre Wolta, a relationship clarity coach, shares her personal journey of healing from a toxic relationship and the essential elements needed for recovery. She emphasizes the importance of clarity, feeling, and connection in the healing process, and discusses the challenges faced by individuals recovering from narcissistic abuse. The conversation highlights the significance of...