Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

BPD Idealization Devaluation Cycles - "Get-Away Closer" BPD Push/Pull BPD idealization is not as real as BPD devaluation. Both result from the core relational impairment of the Approach Avoidance Conflict in BPD - It's the push-pull "get-away closer" that cannot and will not ever change until and unless each person with BPD has 8-16 years of successful treatment. Without that treatment Borderlines...

Can You Reach Out to a BPD Ex To Help Them In Repeated Failed Attempts To Have the Impossible Conversation? In response to a comment left on my Youtube Channel, a video "5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD?" which is Season 4 Episode 91 in this podcast. Do you still want to, or do you continue to try to reach back to a BPD Ex to "start a conversation" to h...

7 Signs Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality That You Experience 7 Signs that your love one, in any relationship type, has Borderline Personality. If you are or you have experienced any of these signs you may well have a loved one with BPD. Are you new to learning about BPD? This video can also help people who "know" but keep questioning if their loved one, girlfriend, wife, boyfriend, husban...

5 Reasons For BPD Lying That Destroys Relationships - Is There Biology To BPD Lying? 5 reasons (Root Causes) that explains why people with BPD lie. People with Borderline Personality - BPD - lie pervasively and often for so many reasons. BPD lying destroys relationships because you can't trust someone who lies so often about so much. There is no room for you to maintain your sanity if you keep giv...

Borderlines are Drowning Emotionally Go *No Contact* Don't Drown With The Relation - SHIP Borderlines (untreated) are drowning emotionally go no contact don't drown with the Relationship. Borderline emotional dysregulation and the major defense mechanism of splitting leave many partners, Ex's, On/Off again "partners" playing the role of a life preserver. If you approached a person actually drownin...

Borderline Inward Focus Leaves You Out - 5 Reasons Why The inward focus of people with Borderline Personality Disorder is at the heart of why you really cannot be connected to them and they don't ever truly connect fully or consistently to or with you. The inward focus of people with BPD has 5 central core reasons that all end up blocking you out and making mutuality and/or reciprocity impossible...

What Do Borderlines Need? 9 Red Flags You Can't Help Them & Why You Will Be Punished For Caring Peope with Patterns of BPD or diagnosed and not extremely well treated and on their way to BPD Recovery (for real) need from a partner or anyone close to them interpersonally. Why you really can't give them what they need. 9 Red Flags why helping a borderline and meeting their needs is impossible an...

BPD On/Off Relationship Recycling limbo and Still Stuck Wanting Your BPD Ex Back? Why? BPD on/off relationship recycling limbo and still stuck wanting your BPD Ex back is the situation that a lot of people are finding themselves in. What is keeping you stuck in these very unhealthy cycles? Why do so many keep betraying themselves? If you can relate what is your self-abandonment due to? Your relati...

Loving a Borderline is a One Way Relationship When you are loving or trying to love a person with Borderline Personality, whether a significant other, mother or father. sibling or friend it's a one way relationship. You will give and give and that person will take and take. You want to please them, but they can't be pleased. You want to be seen and heard but they truly don't see you or hear you. L...

Do Borderlines Lack of Empathy? Borderlines lack of empathy is fueled by identity disturbance - the loss of self and the arrested emotional development as a trauma response to adverse childhood experience. People with BPD unconsciously at very young ages need a lot of defense mechanisms to survive their childhoods. Their defenses in childhood become very maladaptive in adulthood in any attempts to...

Borderline Provocation Manipulates You What Codependents Need To Know To Get Into Recovery Action to Break Free Borderline provocation manipulates you to react & re-engage in cycles of circles that won't and can't meet your needs. Why and how can you stop the emotional reactivity? This happens in BPD Breakups and/or BPD Relationship recycling as well as in any relationship type with a person w...

Borderline Ghost You? Want BPD Ex Back? Is Your BPD Ex Thinking About You? Most people who each get into a significant other relationship, with someone who ends up having all the patterns of BPD (undiagnosed) or someone diagnosed and untreated, will get split to devaluation and ghosted. When most people in these unhealthy relationships (having Codependency) are ghosted they want the BPD Ex back. I...

BPD Betrayal Means Can't Be Friends & No Contact Needs To Be For Life BPD Betrayal occurs when they split you to devaluation (often even in the relationship) and then the major split to devaluation (in relationship recycling repeatedly) ghost or discard you. It is not healthy at all to want to be friends with a Borderline that betrayed you. No contact is the way to heal. No contact needs to be...

This episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups Podcast features Season 2 Episode 8 of my Codependency Surviving Cluster B Relationships Podcast. Codependency Painful Emotional Dangers Rooted In Family Systems 16 Patterns Re-Enacted In BPD or NPD Adult Relationships People with Codependency, more often than not, re-enact core childhood woundness from Family Sytems in Family of Origin in adulth...

BPD Splitting Destroys Relationships - 14 Signs of How & Why You Need To Stop Relationship Recyling. Splitting in BPD is the major defence mechanism in Borderline Personality Disorder. Its roots are deep within people with BPD who core trauma caused a loss of self and arrested emotional development by or before the age of 2 years old in childhood. You cannot help a person with BPD change or he...

BPD Relationship Recycling Getting Your Ex Back is Recycling The Trauma Bond BPD relationship recycling between people with BPD and their partner/ex-partner person with Codependency getting the BPD Ex back are really recycling the core trauma bond that is not love. This is a dualistic "rebounding" by each person with BPD and each codependent on/off partner/ex of the unhealed woundedness of the cor...

BPD breakup and no closure leaves so many Ex's wanting "the closure conversation" with a BPD Ex - these "closure conversations" go nowhere and only hurt you more. For the very minority of Ex's of a person with BPD that can even get to starting "the closure conversation". They aren't usually attainable. Secondly, your Ex or even on/off BPD partner won't hear you or want to listen. He or she will be...

People untreated with Borderline Personality Disorder use people. Many may be aware of this and many more are likely not aware consciously. They are not emotionally capable of loving you, feceiving you love or attaching to you. Borderlines are often using you to help emotionally regulate them, meet many of their needs and also seeking identity from you due to lack of a known self or "identity".

BPD Breakup and The Mother Wound - 7 Impacting Consequences For Men with Codependency Most men in a relationship with a girlfriend or wife with Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have Codependency. The origin of Codependency is in childhood and is the result of the Mother Wound. (Can be or also be a Father Wound). It is the wounded inner child - that hurt little boy insid...

Borderline Tribalism & BPD Right-Fighting - They Can't Handle The Truth The victim narrative of so many with Borderline Personality Disorder continues to grow as they evoke a co-opted "social justice warrior" victim mentality and try to silence those who tell the truth about them. They can't handle the truth. In this Borderline Tribalism each and every one of them, untreated, or not well enoug...

BPD Breakup Getting Your Ex Back - Dream Come True or Nightmare Revisited? BPD Relationship breakup and recycling of relationships getting your BPD Ex back BPD breakup after BPD breakukp - how can that be healthy or working because the same cycles keep being experienced and add to your pain more and more each time. What Codependents really need to understand. Understanding BPD more and more is not...

Borderline Risky Sexual behavior and bpd impulsivity is a central and core part of BPD for many but now all. Impulsivity acted out through risky sexual behavior means partners being cheated on, BPD monkey branching or many with BPD seeking to re-engage sexually with an Ex or more than one Ex. Why do people with BPD cheat (many often) as you are split to devaluation blamed for how the Borderline fe...

Borderlines Always Know What They Are Doing Codependents Logical Fallacies and Biases will help you to be more consciously aware of how much and why you need to focus on yourself and how skewed the internet echo chamber can be. Is that helping you? Or enabling your codependency?

The Borderline Red Herring Fallacy is experienced by anyone close to a person with Borderline Personality. Especially BPD partners, on/off recycling relationships, BPD Hoovers or your reverse hoovers. What is this red herring fallacy? What does the Borderline Red Herring Fallacy have to do with Codependents? How does it effect you? Do Codependents also experience their own red herring fallacy?

BPD relationship impossibility exists in the dynamics of polyamory or monogamy. People with all the patterns of BPD undiagnosed, or diagnosed both groups untreated are not emotionally capable of anything that even remotely resembles a healthy relationship. While Polyamory and Monogamy have fundamental differences, when there is a person with untreated BPD in any relationship the dynnamics at core...