Super Secret Dad Club

Parenting often feels like walking a tightrope—trying to keep your kids safe while giving them enough space to grow. In this episode, we dive into that tension between control and trust, unpacking how much of it is really about our anxiety and need for structure. We also bring back The Mess-Up segment, where we confess the parenting moments we wish we could redo—and the lessons hiding in them. Key...

Fifty episodes in and we’re still parenting mostly by gut instinct and Google. This week, we dive into first-day emotions, birthday party logistics, and the awkward art of stepping back so our kids can figure things out on their own. We talk about the stress of managing behavior without overcorrecting, the weird vulnerability of drop-offs, and how AI has quietly become part of our parenting toolbo...

This week we caught up on a bunch of highs and lows—Jack’s crushing potty training and finally staying in bed (huge win), while Pete’s gut is still mad at him. Lacey graduated pre-K and somehow beat all of us at bowling. We talk about the neighborhood pool party that felt like the official summer kickoff, the screen time swaps we’re trying out, and why post-dinner walks and shooting hoops might ac...

This week we pulled on our most dependable t-shirt and asked the real questions: When did we become brand loyalists? Why is everything cut weird now? And does loving a hoodie count as a fashion statement? We also took a stroll down memory lane—middle school crushes, boy band fever, and the exact moment you realized your dad had a weekend uniform. Key Points: Celebrity crushes, from Shania to Obi-W...

If there was a magical parenting newsletter, we’d want it to include honest stories, practical hacks, and at least one tip about how to survive your kid’s bedtime routine without needing therapy. This week, we talked about all of that—plus splinters, the Tooth Fairy economy, and why jury duty felt like a childhood nightmare. We also kicked around what our ideal dad newsletter would include (beside...

In this episode, we reflect on what it means to prepare our kids for a changing world without overwhelming them — or ourselves. Derek shares the big news about expecting baby #2 and how it feels totally different from becoming a first-time dad during the pandemic. We talk through the evolving approach to parenting — especially when it comes to over-explaining, managing emotions, and letting our ki...

In episode 45, we finally reunite in person and dive into a lively conversation about the weird, wonderful world of modern fatherhood. From late-night guitar solo practice and punk rock nostalgia to R2-D2 builds and DIY parenting fixes, we reflect on how our own childhoods, hobbies, and daily chaos shape the dads we are today. Along the way, we each draft our dream “Mount Rushmore of Dad Superpowe...

In this episode, we kick things off with our Hygge Question of the Week: “Who is the most interesting person you’ve ever met?” —which leads us down a few unexpected and hilarious memory lanes. Then we put our homeowner hats on for a Would You Rather. From there, we dive into the heart of the episode: how becoming dads has reshaped the way we see our own parents. We reflect on the generational diff...

In episode 43, we dive deep into personal challenges that have recently touched our lives. We share the emotional burden of Pete's family's health issues, including the heartbreak of losing our beloved dog, Penny, to lymphoma, and grappling with the complexities of aging loved ones undergoing serious health procedures. Amid these trials, we discuss the resilience shown by our kids and the...

In Episode 42, we're tackling the tail-end of winter's challenges, from the stubborn snow to unexpected flooding and the inevitable mud. We're sharing how we handle these dreary days and keeping you updated on our family adventures, like Jack's standout dentist visit and Lacey's newfound independence in the kitchen. Derek also opens up about a recent hiccup with a flat tire on...

In episode 41, we dive into the nuances of parenting as we discuss the highs and lows of our weeks, and we play "Would You Rather" with a very intriguing question about the internet. We explore the shifting landscape of parenting in 2025, focusing on trends like the decline in sharenting and the rise of more balanced parenting techniques amidst the pressures of social media. Join us as w...

In episode 40 of the Super Secret Dad Club, we start by diving into our favorite culinary creations, answering the Hygge question, "What is the most impressive recipe you know how to cook?" We share some fun things we've been whipping up in the kitchen. Then, we transition to our interview with Andy Olsen, where we kick off with our highs and lows, giving an authentic glimpse into ou...

In Episode 39, we sit down with Steve, a dedicated father sharing the compelling story of raising his daughter, Ella, who is navigating life with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA). Diagnosed at age two and now a vibrant 13-year-old, Ella’s journey has been one of incredible resilience and joy despite the challenges. Steve opens up about the practical aspects of enhancing accessibility in their home an...

In Episode 38 of the Super Secret Dad Club, we dive into the festive frenzy of holiday preparations, discussing how we keep up with the dynamic demands of family life during this bustling season. We revisit our cherished "Would You Rather?" and "Hygge Question" segments, sparking lively debates with questions like, "Would you rather have the ability to undo one thing from the past year or sneak a...

In episode 37, Pete and Derek catch up with their old friend Justin, co-host of Derek's guitar podcast and a dedicated father. Justin delves into the trials and triumphs of raising his nine-year-old daughter, Aria, discussing everything from managing ADHD to her passions for dance and horseback riding. The trio explore the intricate balance of nurturing independence while providing essential guida...

Join us on Episode 36 of the Super Secret Dad Club as we welcome Brian, a high school English teacher and dedicated dad, to dive deep into the world of parenting. Brian brings his experiences from the classroom and home to our lively discussion, covering everything from health scares to the juggling act of work and family life. Meet Brian: A high school English teacher and father, discussing the l...

Pete and Derek resume their podcast after a hiatus, discussing their lives and children's developments. Jack, now two, is showing rapid language skills, while Lacey, approaching five, is becoming more independent and understanding complex concepts. Derek shares a health scare involving a complex migraine, leading to a hospital visit and subsequent neurology follow-up. Pete talks about his exercise...

Join us for the Season 1 finale of the Super Secret Dad Club! We wrap up with some awesome segments, including our highs and lows, and a Hygge question: "What advice would you give your 10-year-old self?" We also tackle a hilarious "Would You Rather" question: Would you rather your kids say " f * ck" all the time at home or say "how the f* ck are you" once t...

In this special Father's Day episode, Pete and Derek dive into a fun "Would You Rather" question: Would you rather your kids inherit your music taste or your sense of humor? They also share their favorite TV dads and discuss character development in shows. The conversation includes personal experiences with health issues, the origins of Father's Day, and gift ideas ranging from p...

In this episode, Pete and Derek dive into the timeless debate of whether money can truly buy happiness. They share their perspectives on success, happiness, and the importance of prioritizing mental and emotional well-being. The conversation also covers managing finances, navigating life transitions, and the challenges of affording comprehensive healthcare. Throughout, they emphasize the need for...

Join Pete and Derek as they dive into summer with a fun-filled episode! From the wonders of 3D printing to nostalgic summer memories, this episode is packed with laughs and heartfelt moments. The guys discuss their fascination with 3D printing, share stories of farm visits with their kids, and reflect on the joys and challenges of parenting during the summer months. Plus, they reminisce about thei...

In episode 30, we dive into the all-too-common and sometimes invasive question from friends, family, and even STRANGERS: "When are you going to have another one?" Join us for some straight talk as we navigate these tricky social waters. We also spice things up with a playful "Would you rather" question—would you prefer your kid to know every language or be able to speak to anim...

In this episode, we tell tales from our adventure at the world's largest taco tour in Manchester, New Hampshire, have a huge Star Wars mishap, and unload some real-time dad guilt. Join us as we reflect on the importance of social events for decompression, the strategies we use to handle tantrums and discipline, and our thoughts on meaningful gift-giving for Mother's Day. Key Points: Taco T...

In this special "Go Ask Your Mother" episode, Derek, Pete, and our guest Cassie dive into the various challenges and joys of parenting. From tackling outdoor nuisances like black flies and garden fungi to navigating the deeper waters of postpartum anxiety, we share our diverse experiences. We also touch on how we manage media consumption for our kids, ensuring emotional intelligence and...

In this episode, we unpack the amusing yet challenging aspects of parenting and daily life that just grind our gears. We share our frustrations with everything from tricky baby gates to the elusive concept of giving children an 'illusion of choice.' We also ask the Hygge question "What is something that you wish you were better at?" and we dive into our personal struggles with le...