Subtle Shifts with Jennifer Delliquadri

If your Middle Schooler is struggling to find friends, is being isolated from the friends they have, or is in the middle of a friendship transition, this episode is for you. So many of my clients struggle with friendships: Keeping them, finding them, finding the right ones. If your teen doesn't have close friends — if they don't feel like they have a group they belong to — it can be really...

I'm sharing 9 science-backed ways for parents and teens to manage stress and anxiety, that just take a little bit of commitment and knowledge to take effect. In this episode, we get into: How to breathe effectively for stress management (I walk you through a round of the Square Breathing technique at the 2:00 mark) My recommendation to make mindfulness meditation more doable, so it's easie...

I work with so many high-achieving teens throughout the year, and one thing they all have in common is high levels of stress and anxiety. In this episode, we'll cover: 7 Challenges high-achieving teenagers face 5 things you can do as a parent to help your teen find more balance and ease in their life You'll get new and nuanced perspectives on perfectionism, imposter syndrome, burnout, and...

This week, I share some opinions on parenting that may not be widely accepted or understood — which I'm ok with. I've been a parent for a while now. I've gone through the wringer with experiences with my kids, and it's really impacted the way I see parenting and what it takes to raise a human being. And I'm sharing these potentially controversial thoughts to give you the freedo...

The college application process can feel so overwhelming — to teens and their parents. But that doesn't have to be a given. My guest today, Stacy Boodman, offers strategies and processes to simplify this experience, so it doesn't disrupt your whole life and stress everybody out! She helps teens navigate the college applications and all of the decisions involved in it. Here's what's...

We're getting a little vulnerable and personal today, as I talk about something I'm experiencing, which I find isn't really openly discussed in the parental space: Parental Grief. Walking alongside your kid, as they transition from a baby all the way to an adult, is like a slow Letting Go. They find more independence and rely on you less and less — and even though that's what you w...

If you're anything like our clients, fear is a constant. Fear that you're going to mess up, that your kid will feel something uncomfortable, that other kids will have advantages and yours will be left behind. And while that fear is normal, you can create more challenges if your reaction to it is Social Engineering. This week, I'm joined by Life and Parent Coach Darlynn Childress to tal...

I always assume positive intent, from both parents and teenagers, but sometimes we need reminders to call out unhelpful behaviors we're not even aware of. That's what this episode is all about. It'll help you recognize what you might be doing to unintentionally create a divide in your relationship with your teenager — and what to do instead. In Untangled by Lisa Damour, a book I recomm...

So many parents and teens want a close relationship with each other more than anything. But conflict — and our inability to handle conflict — can easily get in the way. In this episode, I explain where a lot of misunderstanding and disconnection comes from, and how it escalates into conflict. I also share how you can effectively avoid that escalation, or at least mitigate its negative effects. Bec...

Teenagers get a bad rap for being unreliable, rebellious, and self-centered. But in my experience, none of this is true. In fact, when teenagers are acting this way, it's typically because they struggle with trust - both in themselves and those closest to them. The good news? You, as their parent, are your teen's primary example of what a relationship looks like. Which means you can establ...

In this episode, I share three questions you can ask yourself when you’re stuck wondering if you should push harder or back off. Am I doing this for me or for them? What is your teen really needing right now? What is most important? I also discuss signs that you may be pushing your teen too hard and signs that you’re not pushing hard enough. Finally, I share a story about my own daughter and how I...

You've heard of helicopter parenting. Now, let's talk about lighthouse parenting and how it may just be the key to raising a happy, resilient, and independent teenager. In this episode, I discuss: What is lighthouse parenting and why is it important for teen development? The characteristics of a lighthouse parent, and how to be one The potential advantages and disadvantages of lighthouse p...

In this episode, I discuss the importance of letting go of expectations as a parent. When we have expectations of who our children should be and what they should accomplish, we set ourselves up for disappointment and frustration. More importantly, we put pressure on our children to live up to our expectations, which can damage our relationship with them. Instead, it's important to focus on sup...

ADHD is often misunderstood, and the teenage phase can be especially challenging. In this episode, I'll share practical strategies for parents to provide the right support for their teenagers. You'll learn how to: - Create a supportive environment for your teenager and encourage them to pursue their passions. - Help your teen feel more confident and supported. - Implement routines and stru...

Peer pressure is a common experience for teenagers, and it can have a significant impact on their behavior. And sometimes, it can actually be a good thing. In this episode, I'll discuss the different types of peer pressure that teenagers face, the impact of peer pressure on teenagers, and tips for how you can help your teenager cope with the negative impacts of peer pressure. I'll cover to...

It's normal for teenagers to pull away from their parents as they get older and start to develop their own identities. But that doesn't mean you have to lose touch altogether. In this episode, we'll share 9 tips for staying connected with your teen, even when they're not making it easy. We'll cover topics like: Creating a safe space for your teen to talk. Showing interest in th...

As the school year kicks off, parents of teenagers are presented with a golden opportunity to instill effective study habits that will set their teens up for academic success. In this episode, we dive into the journey of helping your teenager establish and maintain good study practices that lead to better grades, stress management, and personal growth. At the outset of the year, enthusiasm runs hi...

The first semester of college can be a challenging time for you and your student. They are adjusting to a new environment, new people, and new academic demands, and you may be feeling a mix of emotions, such as excitement, sadness, and worry. In this episode, I will discuss the challenges and emotions that you and your freshman may experience during the first semester. I will also offer tips on ho...

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Pamela Ellis - CEO of Compass College Advisory.  For over 15 years she’s been working with families to connect their teen with a school that feels like home. She’ll be sharing her expert advice on how to support your teen throughout high school and effectively prepare them for college. You'll learn what to focus on each year of high school, how to create a “r...

Mean girls are a real problem, and they can have a devastating impact on their victims. In this episode, I'll discuss the different types of mean girl behavior, how to spot them, and what to do if your teen is targeted. I'll also offer some tips for parents on how to help their teens cope with mean girl behavior. If your teen is being targeted by a mean girl, I can help. I’ll help your tee...

Parenting a teenager can be tough. There are so many decisions to make, and it can be hard to know what's the right thing to do. But what if there was a way to tap into your inner wisdom and make decisions that are in your teenager's best interest? In this episode, I'll talk about parental intuition. What is it? How can you develop it? And how can you use it to parent your teenager? I&...

This week, I'm diving into the role each generation plays in the development of subsequent generations. I'll provide an overview of the characteristics and experiences of seven generations - Silent to Alpha.  I’ll then talk about how the parenting style of each generation impact later generations.  And finally, I’ll talk about why Gen Xers and elder millennials make fantastic parents for G...

My goal as a life coach is to catch teens before they fall.  The best way to do this is to notice the more subtle behaviors that could potentially lead to an issue down the road.  It's important to note that all of us struggle with low self-esteem from time to time. As such, we all have experienced some of the things on this list. But when the behavior is consistent and persistent, it may be t...

In today's episode, I invited Bill Brady, father of 5 and founder of Troomi Wireless to discuss all things technology and teens. We talk about: How to introduce devices in a safe and age-appropriate way. The obvious and not-so-obvious harmful effects of phone usage. Why denying access to a phone won't work in the long run, and what you can do instead. Whether hounding to get a phone has ju...

I was recently asked to be a guest on my friend and fellow coach, Julie Lamb's podcast. We had a great discussion, so I thought I'd share it here as well! In this episode, we discuss: • Why teenagers aren't totally rational yet and how that should impact your parenting • Why your teens need to know that their parents are always a "Safe Space" • The importance of teaching the...