Strong Men Strong Marriages

Today I have the privilege of talking with Monica Tanner, host of the Secrets Of Happily Ever After Podcast. We discuss insights on how to “woo your wife.” What are the things you can do today (and tonight) to make your wife feel “those feelings” again. This episode includes some extra special tips and phrases on how to do just that. Watch on YouTube here. You can find Monica at monicatanner.com ...

Do you feel like your marriage is stagnant? Are you walking on eggshells, avoiding asking for what you want, because you’re afraid your wife might not like it or agree? Are you good teammates in parenting and household management, but lack sexual, mental and emotional intimacy? Then there’s a good chance there’s not enough conflict in your marriage. Just like your body needs stress to become stron...

I’ve had some important insights lately that I have not been the father that I want to be, and feedback from my oldest son that I’m not the type of father he would want to be around once he leaves the house. While hard to hear, it was very important to me and now I’m making changes that will help me be that father. Today I talk with Don Manning from Crazy Cool Family, who has made it his mission t...

When your wife says “I need space…” It’s frightening and often confusing. But, understanding WHY she needs space…  And what she needs space FROM… Can help you become the man that she wants to come CLOSER to… Instead of GET AWAY from. Learn WHY she’s asking for space… And what to do to make her become ATTRACTED to you again… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  https://youtu.be/s-4Nve4PZ6c D...

When you feel yourself going on that “low road” and acting in ways you won’t be proud of… Stop and take a breath. Remind yourself that you’re OK. Start acting how you want to act if you can. If you can’t remove yourself from the situation until you can. Mentally rehearse this so you’re ready to go in the moment. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who...

This week was a powerful week for me.  My son told me directly that he didn’t really feel comfortable talking to me because he was worried I would respond with anger. This was a turning point for me. This moment combined with reading Parenting From The Inside Out by Daniel Siegel https://amzn.to/3KAr8CP helped me see that I was repeating some old patterns from my childhood that I wasn’t aware of....

You would think your wife would respect how hard you try to make her happy. That approach MIGHT make her LIKE you… But it WILL NOT lead to her RESPECTING you… Or being ATTRACTED to you. Learn how to earn her respect in today’s episode. It’s probably not what you think. Watch on YouTube here.  https://youtu.be/6pSGR01K4pY Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian...

I talk to a lot of men who are great leaders at work. Business owners. Professionals. Military leaders and sports professionals. They are great leaders at church. Men’s group leaders, youth group leaders, even leaders of marriage ministries. BUT, they DO NOT feel like leaders with their wife. They walk on eggshells trying to make her happy. Their wives say they want them to lead more… But when the...

There are 3 simple steps to become the man your wife passionately desires. Step 1 - Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting. If you don’t do this, you’ll continue to push your wife away. And if you don’t get a guide to help you, you won’t be able to identify them. Or at least not all of them and not at a deep level. Step 2 - Replace them with pos...

You’re trying to do the right things. You’re trying to make your wife happy. Cooking, cleaning, doing the 5 love languages. But, your wife isn’t turned on by any of it. She doesn’t even appreciate it, while people outside the marriage seem to. The question now is… Do you want to continue to try to create intimacy on your own? Or do you want to follow The Hero’s Journey to become the man your wife...

Is it possible to be “too nice” to your wife? YES! If you’re not willing to disagree with your wife… Express yourself… Speak up when you feel things aren’t fair… Then you are living in the “happy wife, happy life” mindset. Which creates a sort of happy wife who “loves you but is not in love with you…” A roommate, unbalanced, and walking on eggshells feeling in the marriage… And an emotionally and...

Do you feel like roommates with your wife? Do you walk on eggshells, worried that your wife might not like what you say or do? Are you constantly trying to make your wife happy? If so, you are likely to be put in the “friend zone.” A marriage with low physical intimacy, or a feeling of “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Learn what to do to get OUT of the friend zone… And enjoy a marriage w...

The price of an intimate marriage is the courage to make yourself known… Even and ESPECIALLY when your wife might not like it. Courage sounds good… but it doesn’t feel good. It’s facing down your fear. And you CAN do it. It’s a choice. Will you be courageous or a coward? Which one is stronger? Which is more attractive? Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian m...

There’s a price to be paid if you want sexual, mental and emotional intimacy in your marriage. And it’s NOT sacrificing what you want for what she wants. It’s NOT putting her needs before your own. It’s definitely NOT happy wife, happy life. Learn what it is in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to...

Happy Wife Happy Life is a lie. And the sooner you learn that, the better. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. http://mikefra...

You do “all the right things.” Make the money. Cook. Clean. But, your wife isn’t giving you attention, appreciation, affection or sex. You feel like other women would appreciate that, and so you think about divorce or maybe even having an affair. But, because of your Christian beliefs, you can’t do that. You want an intimate marriage. But the one person you can be intimate with… Won’t be intimate...

Believe it or not, saying “no” to your wife and others builds trust. You can’t say “yes” to everything. Even “yes” to everything your wife says.  It’s not realistic. And your wife knows this. So, if you say “yes” to everything, she’ll be constantly wondering… “does he really mean it?” She’ll remind you a bunch and feel let down when you don’t follow through. But, when you start saying “no…” You sh...

When you’re trying to rebuild trust after… -Infidelity -Loss of temper -The mosquito cycle -Manipulation Or other bad habits… You can feel like you have to do EVERYTHING right… or else trust will break. This can feel very OVERWHELMING and make you feel ANXIOUS. Fearful that one wrong move will break all trust. Luckily, this isn’t true. Learn how to build trust WITHOUT feeling anxious and overwhelm...

It’s time to step into bravery and boldness. Today, do the following. Identify something you want to change (I recommend avoiding asking about sex as that requires you to become more attractive first) Ask for the change with a clear plan Give a reason for wanting that change It takes bravery and boldness to ask for what you want. Step into it and let me know how it goes! Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a...

There are things that you want to change in your marriage. But, you’re worried about bringing them up. You’re worried that it might make things worse than they already are. And so, you stay stuck in a marriage with low mental, emotional and sexual intimacy. This is giving into fear instead of being brave and bold. To get the relationship you want… you have to risk losing the relationship you have...

When your wife won’t work on the marriage, you have 3 options. Option 1 - Complain Option 2 - Act superior to her Option 3 - Become a great choice. Ask for what you want. Decide if you choose her. Really, it’s a decision between being a leader or a follower. An action taker or a whiner. If you’re ready for option 3… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. http://mikefra...

If you feel like you’re putting more work into the marriage than your wife… You probably feel frustrated and resentful. You also feel superior to her. After all, you’re doing more than her. Unfortunately, all of these feelings are unattractive to her. And will make her LESS motivated to work on the marriage. Learn what to do instead in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, pro...

We know that we have to change our OWN thinking if we want to be happy. But, once we understand that, it’s good to know how to ask our wife for what we want. Use the 3 steps in today’s episode. Don’t criticize or complain Appreciate Give a reason why But again, even if your wife does what you want, you will NOT be happy until you learn to manage your own thinking expertly. Learn how to do that by...

I’ve seen it happen over and over. In myself and my clients. Your wife does what you’ve been hoping for. She has sex with you. She starts cooking more. She writes you nice notes or texts. But, you’re still not happy. And she feels like whatever she does, it’s not enough for you. Learn EXACTLY why this is happening… And how to fix it… In today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, pr...

Sometimes we’re overly sensitive with our wife. We can take a comment as criticism… That isn’t mean that way at all. She may just be giving you information. Or asking for something. Learn how to tell the difference in today’s quick episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with...