Strong Men Strong Marriages

Many men will tell me that they feel emasculated in their marriage. One literal definition of this is to have your testicles removed. While this (hopefully) is not the reality, these men FEEL one main thing… POWERLESS. Whether it’s with money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or time… These men feel like they are constantly losing while their wife is winning. They say they try to lead…...

Men try to get their wife’s respect in 3 ways. Only 1 of them works. Learn what it is in today’s short episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Str...

If you’ve looked at dating advice to try to help your marriage, you’ve probably found some advice about being a “tough guy.” This is what I call fake strength. It CAN work to create a girlfriend/wife who is dependent on you and your approval… But it CAN NOT work if you want a truly intimate marriage… The kind that lives true to Christian values and shows your daughters the type of husband they wan...

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie is one of the most popular books on human relationships. Learn the biggest 3 principles… And how to apply them to your marriage… In today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing l...

You’ve made mistakes in your marriage. And, you feel bad about them. But, beating yourself up about them won’t change the past… Will have negative effects on your self-esteem… Will make it more likely you make the same mistakes… And will stop you from the changes you want to make. Learn why… and what to do instead… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achievin...

I’m finishing up “Deep Work” by Cal Newport. The basic idea is this: The ability to give something focused concentration is a skill. That skill is being whittled away by our focus on “shallow” activities, like social media. We need to rebuild the ability to give things sustained focus by blocking out time to do it. To block out that time, identify the main things you want to accomplish. Identify t...

When your wife tells you she “doesn’t feel safe…” It can send off alarm bells for you. You want to prove that you ARE a safe person… Which often results in you feeling LESS safe to her. Learn what she ACTUALLY means by not feeling safe… And what you can do about it… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is...

Having one of these goals will lead to frustration and less attraction. The other goal will lead to empowerment and more attraction. Learn which is which and why in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to...

Creating an intimate marriage requires work. But, it doesn’t have to be hard, tiring work. Learn the secret in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK...

When you’re trying to change your unattractive habits to attractive habits… It’s hard. But, it’s worth it. To be the man you want to be. To set that example to your kids. And to create the intimacy in your marriage that you’ve been dreaming of. Galatians 6:9 (KJV) And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Keep planting good seeds and you’ll get a good...

Is your marriage lacking attraction?  Are you feeling like roommates… or less? If so, there are 5 steps you need to take to start creating more attraction and intimacy. Learn what they are in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wi...

When you’re arguing about money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time… It can be exhausting. It feels like a tug of war, with both of you digging into your positions. But, there’s a strategy you can use today to end arguments immediately. Learn what it is in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to creat...

It feels good to be right. But, if you focus on who is right and who is wrong in your marriage… You’re headed for trouble. You may end up being “right…” But you probably won’t create the intimacy you want. Learn what to do instead… To be more effective in creating intimacy… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man...

Today I have a special interview with a recent program graduate, Simon. Simon was separated, living in different countries from his wife, and had divorce papers filed. In the course of the 90 day program, he was able to… -Move back in together -Create deeper mental, emotional and physical intimacy than they had ever had -Feel closer to God and stronger in his self worth than ever Simon worked very...

You want a marriage with more sexual, mental and emotional intimacy. But, there’s a price to be paid to get that. Are you willing to endure the necessary pains to produce the marriage gains you’re looking for? Learn what it takes…  And if you’re up to the challenge…  In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is...

If your wife has been through sexual trauma, she took some negative lessons from that trauma. For one, people will see her as an object to be used for their benefit while hurting her. For another, people will remove choices around her body from her. And, that she is powerless to stop something bad from happening to her. As her husband, you’ll want to demonstrate a new approach around this. That yo...

Approximately 1 in every 3 women has experienced sexual trauma in their lifetime. Given those statistics, there’s a good chance that your wife, like mine, has been through this terrible experience. There are many different types of therapy that can help your wife (or you) recover from this kind of trauma.  Today we’ll explore a unique approach that could be a good fit for your wife (or you). If yo...

A long time ago, a mentor of mine had me make a list of all the qualities I wanted in a wife. I listed things like beautiful, honest, intelligent, connected to God, a hard worker, great with kids, and an expert cook. He complimented my list, and I thought my job was to go find this girl. But, he told me that if I wanted a girl like that, I had to be a guy like that. When it comes to anything you w...

If you’re suspicious that your wife may be involved with another man… Or if she’s been unfaithful in the past… The temptation to spy on her can be VERY high. There are pros and cons to spying, and we’ll cover them in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotion...

If your wife turns away from your hugs and kisses… But doesn’t have an issue giving hugs to friends, family and your kids… It can be VERY frustrating. But, there’s a reason for it. You are probably trying to TAKE a hug from her… Instead of GIVING a hug. Learn more in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible...

It used to bum me out that my wife would hug and kiss my kids… But not me. They were getting more affection than I was! And my wife would tell me that she just “wasn’t very touchy…” Which I saw with my own eyes just wasn’t true. Learn why this is happening… And what to do about it… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Chris...

If you’re at the beach and a wave is coming, you have 3 options. Option 1 - Run away. If you choose this, you will get smashed. This is like trying to avoid emotions. Option 2 - Stand there. If you choose this, you will get smashed.  This is like freezing in your emotions or trying to ignore them (or push them away with things like food, pornography, etc.) Option 3 - Jump into the wave. While coun...

No matter what, your marriage WILL have ups and downs. You’ll have moments of great connection… then disconnection. Your wife will be happy… then unhappy. How do you handle these ups and downs now? Many men try to fix the downs and make them go away as fast as possible. But, this often just makes the downs last longer and creates more damage. Learn what to do instead… To enjoy the good times and m...

Step 1 - Seen. Notice your own emotions. Name them. Feel them. Step 2 - Safe. Remind yourself that you’re OK and in a safe place Step 3 - Soothe. Deal with your emotions appropriately. Think in terms of body, mind, heart and spirit. Body - exercise, stretching, yoga, etc Mind - Music, books, scriptures Heart - Connection with others Spirit - Prayer, meditation, books Following these 3 steps, you W...

This is, I believe, one of my most important episodes so far. We all have the desire to feel seen, safe and soothed in our emotions. Unfortunately, many of us did not get that… or did not get it consistently… from our parents or caregivers. I used to ignore this idea a lot, thinking our upbringing didn’t really matter. But, as I’ve done some of this work on my own, I’ve seen that our childhood has...