Strong Men Strong Marriages

If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… You want to make it hard on her to divorce you. Some guys think that means telling your wife all the negative things that will happen if she divorces you. Telling her it will hurt the kids, hurt you, hurt her financially. Telling her God doesn’t want her to do this. Unfortunately, this only makes it more likely she will leave. Instead, you want...

Take a minute and answer that. What do you think God thinks about you? Your answer to this question can either lead you to feeling not good enough… Or empower you with incredible self worth. Learn how to let it empower you in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and...

As a high achieving Christian man, there are a lot of people you might be trying to please. Your wife, your kids, your clients, your church members, your community… and God. That’s a lot of people, with a lot of different opinions. It just won’t be possible to make all of them happy. So, should you just “make yourself happy” and say “screw you” to everyone else? Not quite.  There’s a simple 3 step...

Believe it or not, there’s a great app that will help you build your emotional vocabulary, intelligence and strength. That, in turn, will allow you to have more empathy for your wife. When you know what you’re feeling, it will be a lot easier to relate to what your wife is feeling. You’ll be able to share your emotions (be known), and understand your wife’s emotions (know her). That’s what emotion...

Maybe your wife has told you that you don’t have much empathy. As a high achieving man, that’s likely true. We have often learned to shut down our emotions in order to “get things done.” While this helps in business, it creates major issues in our marriage. Learn how to stop telling people to “get over it…” And start practicing the empathy that leads to emotional intimacy, deep friendship and love...

You may have tried a lot of things to stop using pornography. Here are the steps that have helped the men I’ve worked with (who have often tried many of the “traditional” programs): -Integrate your sexuality -Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions when you have the urge to view pornography -Reward yourself for having urges and not acting on them -Do that 100 times That’s it! Listen on the Stro...

I’d say 100% of the men I work with either have struggled or currently struggle with pornography. This definitely breaks your wife’s trust in you… But also breaks your trust in yourself. That leads to low safety in the marriage, which leads to superficial communication and low sexual intimacy. Learn how to restore trust after pornography use in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S....

If you’re struggling to have meaningful communication in your marriage… A list of “what to say” just isn’t going to cut it. There’s a deeper reason why your communication has dried up. Until you address that, your wife won’t WANT to communicate with you. Learn how to fix the deeper issues that have created communication issues in your marriage… So you can start having the fun, laughter and intimat...

The Best Love Language For Your Marriage We all need to feel loved, valued and accepted. The best favor you can do to yourself… and your family… Is to love, value and accept yourself. Learn the tip I’m using now to do that in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.   Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental a...

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a best selling marriage book. And, it has great concepts that can help you and your wife understand each other better. BUT, used the wrong way, the 5 Love Languages can actually make things WORSE in your marriage. If you’ve been trying to give your wife: -Words of affirmation -Physical touch -Acts of service -Quality time -Gifts But your marriage isn’t getti...

On today’s episode we’ll cover: -How to navigate an in-home separation -How to evaluate whether your behaviors are manipulative or not -What to do if your wife has filed for divorce Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing le...

Want sex with HER, not just sex. Don’t approach it with “I’m horny and she’s my only moral option.” That’s not attractive to anyone. Cold, warm, hot. Use flirting and touch to bring her into a zone of thinking more about sex. Integrate your full brain. Use your physical desire, your emotional admiration for her, and your choosing her as your life partner as you approach her for sex. Let this shine...

Sexual Strength In Marriage Sex is what makes a marriage relationship special. But, what we thought our sexual relationship might look like before marriage… And what it looks like once we’re married… Can be very different. Learn how to build your sexual strength so that you can… -Avoid turning to pornography or other negative outlets for sex -Approach sex in ways that are more attractive to your w...

What is the most important physical thing you can do to be more attractive to your wife? According to 500 Christian wives, it’s just this. Look good, smell good. Get more details on this on today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.  Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible se...

Strength across all areas is attractive to your wife. As men, we often overly focus on physical and financial strength as the measure of success. And, while women do value physical strength… It’s not quite in the way you might think. Same with financial strength.  More money doesn’t necessarily mean more attraction. Learn how to build these strengths in the most attractive ways in today’s episode....

I never liked the word “need” in relationships. In fact, I’ve often taught that “neediness is unattractive.” However, I’ve come to believe a little differently. It’s true that for our internal needs, such as feeling good enough, we can’t rely on our wife. We need to find other resources for that.  Because if we do rely on our wife for these internal needs, we wear her out and never feel fulfilled....

Want sex with HER, not just sex. Don’t approach it with “I’m horny and she’s my only moral option.” That’s not attractive to anyone. Cold, warm, hot. Use flirting and touch to bring her into a zone of thinking more about sex. Integrate your full brain. Use your physical desire, your emotional admiration for her, and your choosing her as your life partner as you approach her for sex. Let this shine...

I used to think of emotional strength as never being overwhelmed by emotion. I didn’t want to be “too emotional.” I thought that was weakness. I wanted to be ruled my reason, not my emotions. However, being unable to really feel emotion is actually emotional weakness. Or numbness. Or deadness. It keeps you from really experiencing life. It also keeps you in a judgmental mindset towards your own em...

Sign 1 - You blame your wife for how you’re feeling Sign 2 - You mix up facts and your interpretation of those facts Sign 3 - You are overly influenced by the thinking of others… or overly rigid in your thinking All of these lead to you being mentally and emotionally unstable and reactive… Which doesn’t feel good and isn’t attractive. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.  Watch on Yo...

How To Build Mental Strength In Marriage “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” Proverbs 23:7 God has given us amazing brains that have incredible power. What we think affects how we feel, what we do, and the results we get in our lives. Most of us are not aware of this power, or how our thoughts are influencing the results in our lives and marriages. Learn in today’s podcast how to harness th...

When you have real spiritual strength… Neediness disappears. When you feel great self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, and a sense of mission and purpose… You step out of needy, codependent behavior and into strong leadership. Get a reminder on how to build these in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.  Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achiev...

For the next few weeks we’re going to be talking about how to build different strengths in marriage. To me, spiritual strength is: -Strong self-worth based in God -Strong self-esteem (the way you think about and talk to yourself… especially when you make mistakes) -A sense of mission and purpose -Being a man of integrity When you can do these three things, you have great spiritual strength. You fe...

Tip 1 - List Your Commitments List out what you’ve promised to do for yourself, your wife, your kids, your community, your church, your work and any other commitments. Tip 2 - Drop Most Of Them Drop most of these commitments. Let people know you won’t be keeping them, and apologize to yourself and others for not keeping them. Tip 3 - Choose 1-3 And Follow Through. Say “No” To Everything Else. Choo...

I often hear from the men I work with that their wife never apologizes… while he apologizes all the time. Learn why this happens… And what to do about it… In today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast.  Watch on YouTube here.   Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional  in...

Tip 1 - Stop trying to control what you can’t control.   Like what your wife does or how she feels. The fastest way to feel disempowered is to try to control something that is impossible to control. Tip 2 - Ask for what you want You will feel more empowered when you start getting what you want. But you can’t get what you want if you don’t ask for it. Tip 3 - Start saying “no” If you are always say...