Strong Men Strong Marriages

To be a strong and loving leader of your home, you need to be confident. Confidence feels great, feels strong, and is ATTRACTIVE to your wife and others. But, how do you become more confident? There are 3 main steps: 1. Be someone who can be relied on. A man of your word. Keep the promises you make. This includes saying "no" more than you say "yes" so that your "yes"...

What does it mean to be a real man? I've been trying to answer that question my whole life. This week, we'll look at two examples. One is the type of man we want to be (Nephi)... The other is the type of man we do NOT want to be (Laman and Lemuel) Watch you YouTube here.   Summary: -Faith vs Fear. COMMITTING to a result BEFORE knowing all the "how." -Persistence vs Giving Up -A...

When it comes to creating a strong, joyful and intimate marriage, there are 3 relationships that need to be built. 1. God's relationship with you/your relationship with God 2. Your relationship with yourself 3. Your relationship with your wife Today we're going to examine God's relationship with you... meaning... What are God's thoughts and feelings about you? If you feel like...

Do you wish you had a better sex life with your wife? Do you have a hard time bringing up sex with your wife… Or does she often say “no” or “I’m too tired” when you do finally ask? In this episode, you’ll learn WHY your sexual advances are unattractive to your wife… And how to make them much MORE attractive… And likely to get a “yes.” Summary: -There are 3 levels of sex in marriage -Physical - org...

Did you know what your wife WANTS you to call her out? Maybe not consciously, but unconsciously, she wants you to show STRENGTH and LEADERSHIP in your marriage. And that means, when it's appropriate, calling out her inappropriate behavior (in a strong and loving way)... DISAGREEING with her at times (in a strong and loving way)... And passing other "strength tests" she throws your w...

If you and your wife have different religious beliefs, it can be SCARY. A lot of experts will tell you that this can be a big cause for PROBLEMS in marriage. BUT, it can also be an incredible OPPORTUNITY. For MORE intimacy and connection. In fact, you may find that discussing and understanding these differences brings MORE intimacy than almost anything else. Learn how this can happen in this episo...

In part 1 of the workshop, we learned that the main problem is that your wife is not ATTRACTED to you right now. That’s why she wants a divorce or separation, “loves you but is not in love with you,” or is interested in someone else. We learned that STRENGTH is what ATTRACTS women. Spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. We started learning HOW to build that up. And how to beco...

For many of you listening to this podcast, your marriage is NOT where you want it to be right now. You may be… -Recovering from infidelity (yours or hers) -Hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you” -Facing potential divorce or separation (or are already in that process) -Having little to no sex in your marriage -Having BIG trouble with communication No matter WHAT is going on in your marri...

How do you get your wife to pay more attention to you? Appreciate you more? Kiss, hug and have sex with you more? Some couples therapists will say "just ask for it." This seems like it would work... BUT IT DOESN'T. You know because you're already trying this. Learn what to do INSTEAD... that ALWAYS works... in this episode. Watch on YouTube here Mike P.S. For your COMPLETE syst...

Experts say up to 93% of communication is non-verbal. That's why "saying the right words" or focusing on "communication skills" in marriage almost always FAILS. Instead, what will make the most IMPACT in your communication is evaluating your INTENTIONS in what you are saying. And, a great way to find these is to ask yourself... "What is the sentence AFTER?" For e...

You think it’s… Good sex. Being appreciated. Being valued. Being loved. And, a successful marriage does include ALL of those things. BUT… Your wife CAN NOT give those to you. These things MUST come from something DEEPER and more SOLID than your wife’s words and actions. And you CAN feel those things… even WITHOUT your wife. You can feel full, valued, loved and appreciated. Learn how in this episod...

A lot of the men I work with are looking for VALIDATION from their wives. Now, they will call it different things. They will say "I just want my wife to care" or "I just want my wife to have sex with me" or "I just want my wife to reach out to me when she doesn't need something." But, when it comes down to it, they are asking for their wife to VALIDATE their sens...

As I’ve thought about how to help my clients better, I realized that I neglected something VERY important… Developing your physical strength and fitness. Find out why in this week’s episode: Watch on YouTube here . Summary: When you work on a physical goal, MANY good things happen… -Your overall health and energy improve -Your mind works more easily and quickly -You are able to find purpose and me...

In case you thought a great marriage is always perfect... You're wrong! In this episode I share a negative pattern that has plagued our marriage for YEARS... And what I did to FINALLY start breaking free from it. Hint: It has to do with me feeling like a MARTYR in my marriage. Watch on YouTube here . Summary: -When I feel like a martyr in my marriage, my WIFE is probably struggling -Instead o...

"Your wife can prop up your ego or your penis, but not both." Today I have a VERY special treat for you all! Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! If you're not familiar with her work, she is a licensed therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality. She is one of the people I respect and admire very much and who has helped me understand why focusing on STRENGTH is SO IMPORTANT whe...

Most people come to me because they’re not happy in their marriage. They’re not getting enough of what they want from their wife. BUT, they usually are NOT doing the MOST EFFECTIVE things to get their wife (or others) to do more of what they want. Learn the BEST and MOST EFFECTIVE ways to influence others to do more of what you want in this episode. Watch on YouTube here .  Summary: -COMPLAINING w...

We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family. You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party… And  5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years. Watch on YouTube here  Summary: 1 - Decide and then get spiritual confirmation 2 - Have faith and let people help 3 - Happy wife happy life is a lie 4 - Intimac...

Do you feel like you're trying hard in your marriage... But it's making NO difference? Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes... Or even HOSTILE about them? In this episode, we'll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to "do good to them that hate you." Watch on YouTube here Summary: -Doing good is like planting a seed -Continuing to do good is like watering that...

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It Do you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK? Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over? Would you like to break FREE of that cycle? You'll learn how in this episode. Watch on YouTube here   Summary: -Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, &quo...

Are you struggling with communication in your marriage? Do you feel like you just don't understand your wife, or that she just doesn't understand you? In this episode, you'll find out EXACTLY how to reach the DEEPEST levels of communication. This type of communication brings the PASSION and INTIMACY back into your marriage... Even if that spark has been missing for YEARS. Summary: -...

If you are using pornography more than you would like, there is a perfectly logical explanation. And, if you would like to STOP or CUT BACK on your pornography use, there is a simple 3 step solution that you can follow. If you are interested in working through a program to implement these skills and ELIMINATE pornography from your life, contact me. Watch here: https://youtu.be/_ALjaYZOldQ Summary:...

A lot of men come to work with me when they are very near divorce. They may already be separated, their wife may be threatening divorce, or they may be in the divorce process. The men I work with want their wife back. They have seen the error of their ways. But, sometimes, despite their best efforts and strength building, their wife chooses to divorce. This can be extremely difficult. It can feel...

Sometimes it can seem like you have 2 options in your marriage: Stay married and miserable or… Get divorced and finally be free. Luckily, there is a third option. That is to feel FREE AND stay married. There are 3 marriage traps that make us feel stuck. You’ll learn what they are and how to break out of all 3 in this episode. Summary: -Trap 1 - Trying to control your wife’s feelings and thoughts -...

As men, we have sexual urges MANY times throughout the day. For some of us, we have used pornography as a way to deal with negative emotion… which brings on more negative emotion… which makes us want to use pornography even more. This cycle could accurately be called a sexual addiction. Is there a way to break out of it? And are there ways to use our sexuality for good? The answer is: YES! Find ou...

When your wife tells you she wants to leave, it can be DEVASTATING. Luckily, there are specific strategies that you can use to get through this… AND feel STRONG and CONFIDENT again. These same things are also the things MOST LIKELY to win her back. Mike Summary -Allow yourself to FEEL the negative emotions -Realize that you CAN feel strong and confident… no matter what she’s doing -Try to UNDERSTA...