Strong Men Strong Marriages

The movies, church, and society teach us to “be one” in a marriage. But, we often misunderstand what this means. We become TOO blended with our wife. We become overly focused on “making her happy” and winning her approval (attention, appreciation and affection). A good marriage is like a good meal. Pasta and shrimp taste GREAT together. But if you put them in a blender and drink it… It doesn’t tas...

Resentment is a COMMON feeling in marriage. But, most people don’t know where it comes from or what to do about it. Overall, it comes from feeling like you are LOSING in your marriage… While your wife is WINNING. If you feel like you’re doing more than your fair share… Doing things you don’t really want to do… Or denying yourself things you really want… Resentment is sure to follow. Luckily, there...

A lot of men complain that their wife can’t seem to move past their mistakes. They just keep bringing up the past. Whether they’ve made big mistakes like an affair, or smaller mistakes like not listening to their wife… They just want to forget about it and move forward. They get frustrated when they make the changes their wife wants to see… But their wife doesn’t seem to appreciate those changes....

Satan is attacking men, marriages and families CONSTANTLY. Every day, 130 people commit suicide. Of those, 90 are men. 50% of marriages end in divorce. 40-80% of married people are unhappy in their marriage. 42% of Americans are obese. The average savings for people age 20-40 is $2,000. Satan’s goal is to make us WEAK and MISERABLE. God wants us to be STRONG,JOYFUL and INDEPENDENT. We defend ourse...

You want a happy marriage.  One where you wake up feeling like the luckiest man alive. Where you go to work feeling strong and confident, because you know your wife has your back. Where you come home to a wife who smiles and jumps into your arms when you come home. Where you sit down to a dinner of laughter and connection with your family. After dinner, you sit and talk with your wife about your h...

Remember, Satan’s goal is to make us miserable. If you’re feeling miserable in your marriage right now, Satan is winning! Satan is on a mission to destroy your marriage, and he uses certain tactics to do it. The more we are aware of these tactics, the better we can combat them. Learn what some of them are, and how to counteract them, in this episode. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary: -If you’re fe...

This is a big question for many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. But, it's the wrong question. Today I'm joined by Daniel Burgess, DanielABurgess.com , a Marriage and Family Therapist and member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. We review some of the Church's teachings about sexuality and masturbation over time, which Daniel has studied e...

Most men think apologizing means saying “I’m sorry” and moving on. But that’s a big mistake. And it’s that attitude that will keep you “in the doghouse” and keep you from regaining your wife’s love and trust. Learn what an apology is, and the common mistakes men make when trying to apologize, in this episode. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -An apology includes seeing what you did that hurt your w...

Flirting can be one of the most fun things you can do in a relationship. But often, we forget to do it after we’ve been married a while. Or, we may have never been very good at it. In this episode, you’ll learn the principles and techniques of flirting with your wife. So you can bring fun, excitement and romance into your marriage. At the end of the day, flirting is about bringing PLAY back into y...

Communication is the #1 problem that men, women and couples complain about. In working with people, I’ve discovered the top 5 communication mistakes that lead to poor communication (and poor connection) in marriage. If you can avoid these mistakes… And learn the #1 communication skill… You’ll be on your way to a happier, more passionate and more intimate marriage. Watch on YouTube here. https://yo...

The reason you’re not as connected to your wife as you’d like to be is because you’ve hurt her in some way. That might be an obvious way, like an affair. Or it may be a more subtle way, like neglecting her over time or serving her with “strings attached” (mosquito behaviors). Either way, you have created disconnection by hurting her. Most men try to fix this by trying to tell their wife they’re so...

Are you married to a narcissist or a sadist? Probably. But so is your spouse! In this episode, you’ll learn what narcissism and sadism REALLY are… How YOU most likely have BOTH of these traits… And what to do about it. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary: -Narcissism is needing to be “one up” on your spouse -It’s also understanding the emotions of others, but not really caring about them -Sadism is e...

Love. A word that can mean SO many different things. And confusion about what kind of love belongs in marriage causes LOTS of marriage problems. In this episode we’ll discuss the 3 most valuable types of love in marriage… And how to develop them. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here . https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707 Watch on YouTube here. https:...

Is your married sex life not quite what you’re hoping for? Is it happening less often than you’d like, or does it just seem the same all the time? If so, there are three simple steps that you can use to create better sex in your marriage. Learn about them in this week’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.  Summary: -Take ownership of your own sexuality -Anticipation is your friend -Connect minds and b...

“Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:21 What is most important to you? You might say it’s God or your family… But what do you spend the most time THINKING about? When I looked closely, I didn’t like what I found. I spent most of my time thinking about: Making money Myself But, I found that I could CHOOSE where my treasure was. And I decided to make that treasure my re...

We are always manipulating the people around us. We want something FROM them… Or FOR them. We want to “move” them into certain positions. Emotional dependence on us or emotional resilience. Sexual obligation or sexual choice. Religious obligation or religious choice. This week I got an in-depth view of how I manipulate my wife, kids and friends… and I didn’t like what I saw. I took the time to INT...

If your answer is an immediate “my wife…” you might be missing something important. At the end of the day, if you are relying on the opinion of others to tell you if you’re good enough… You are on unstable ground. The truth is that YOU get to decide: What a good husband (and a good man) is Whether you will live up to that or not Of course your wife can give you feedback on how you’re doing. And th...

This title was hard for me to write. Being a husband and father are two of the most important roles that I have as a man. But, those roles are not ALL of who I am. And, even if I do poorly in those roles... Or walk away from them all together... (Gulp) I still have value. This was a BIG breakthrough for me and I'd love to share it with you. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary: -God STILL cares a...

What are your New Year’s resolutions? A better marriage? To lose weight? Make more money? Stop a bad habit? We’ll get into why these goals may NOT get you what you’re looking for… And how to find an infinite source of power to achieve your goals. Summary: -WHY do you want to achieve your goals? -If it’s because you think THERE is better than HERE… you’re heading for disappointment -Instead, set go...

Merry Christmas my friends! Sometimes we forget that we're celebrating a birthday on Christmas... Jesus's birthday! And, it's customary to give someone a gift on their birthday. But what do you give the Man who LITERALLY has everything? We'll talk about that today. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -As far as I can tell, Jesus mainly asked for one thing: If ye love me, keep my co...

As we strive to become better men, our ultimate example is Jesus Christ. I’ve spent the last few weeks studying and trying to understand the character of Jesus, and I’d like to share what I’ve learned. I also invite you to use these next few weeks to study Jesus as your example of manhood, and see where you can become more like Jesus, The Ultimate Man. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary: -Jesus was...

Gift giving at Christmas can be stressful... but it doesn't have to be. Use these strategies to give your wife a meaningful and thoughtful gift. One that will be remembered and cherished... instead of forgotten next year. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707 Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/9KwC4qAnL7...

As men we sometimes think that emotional strength means rarely feeling emotion. We push negative emotions down until we explode with anger. Or we try to numb negative emotions with food, pornography, video games, alcohol or other things. Fortunately, there are three simple steps that you can use to become TRULY emotionally strong… Feel in complete CONTROL of your emotions… And stop trying to “fix”...

Right now your sex life isn't where you'd like it to be. You've tried the usual things.  Helping more around the house, buying her gifts, trying to speak her love language, spending less time with friends and work and more time at home. You’re getting frustrated that all your efforts are not being recognized. You’re barely getting a “thank you,” much less a wife who is eager to go t...

What To Do When Your Wife Is Depressed And Anxious When your wife is depressed and/or anxious, it can be hard to know what to do to help her. Today I have a special guest, Lizzie Langston. She is an LDS postpartum coach, helping women overcome depression and anxiety that often follows having a baby. We discuss how we as husbands can help our wives as they struggle with depression and anxiety. Watc...