Strong Men Strong Marriages

We all have things we would like our wife to do for us. We want more attention, appreciation or affection. We want to have sex more often. We want our wife to spend less money, cook more, clean more, or spend more time with our family (or less time with hers). Why isn’t our wife doing the things we want? Often it’s because we’re not ASKING for what we want in an EFFECTIVE way. We either don’t ask...

Most men come to The Strong Man System wanting to change their outside situation. They want their wife to come back. They want to stop a separation or divorce. They want to restore trust after infidelity. They want a better sex life. And, The Strong Man System CAN help them do this. Just not in the way they think at first. Here’s what a few graduates of the program have said: The Strong Man System...

Counseling and coaching are often confused. When would you choose a marriage counselor vs a marriage coach? For the most part, it’s about choosing an approach that fits with your beliefs, values and preferences. In this episode, we cover some of the main marriage counseling schools of thought… As well as the coaching method… And finally my personal approach to marriage coaching. Watch on YouTube h...

Most people say the biggest problem in their marriage is communication. But, most people can’t figure out how to FIND and FIX their marriage communication problems. Today I’m going to share with you my favorite tool to fix marriage communication… And share a real life example so you can see how to use this tool. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here .  Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Rea...

What do you want to accomplish in your marriage? In your career? With your money? As a high achieving man, you’re used to setting goals and reaching them. But why is it that when you reach them, you STILL don’t feel fulfilled? Why do you immediately start seeking the NEXT big goal? Why do you tend to spend money or pick a fight with your wife or get mad at your kids… Right when things seem to be g...

Have you ever asked your wife… “What do you do for me?” So have I. And so have most of my clients. How did it go for you? Did your wife become more loving and connected? Or angry, hurt or guilty? Learn why this question is terrible… And what to do instead to have your wife start doing more for you… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here.   Dr. Mike P.S. Interested in joining The Strong Man Syst...

My wife and I were both born and raised members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. A few years back, my wife started to have some questions about the Church. This was VERY hard on me… to the point that I thought if she wasn’t going to be a member of the Church, it would be better if we got divorced. Fast forward to now, we have both evolved in our faith and belief in God… And have...

When you lift weights, you create small tears in your muscles. If you keep lifting weights without resting, these tears just get bigger, making you WEAKER over time. That’s why it’s IMPERATIVE that you REST and eat well if you’re trying to build muscle. The muscle REGROWS bigger and stronger while you REST. The same is true of building spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength… And the inte...

Men WAIT to apologize to their wife. They FEAR that bringing up all their flaws will make things WORSE. Or, they’re too PRIDEFUL to see their mistakes (or how bad the mistakes are). Both of these responses REPEL your wife instead of attracting her. Instead: OWN your mistakes COMPLETELY and HONESTLY (requires you to set aside your pride) TELL your wife your mistakes and understand the PAIN they cau...

When your dog is hungry, do you… A. Tell your dog it’s not time to eat yet and why he shouldn’t be hungry B. Tell your dog you’re hungry too and he should be more considerate C. Tell your dog that you have needs too and he shouldn’t be so selfish D. Try to talk your dog out of wanting food E. Get the dog some food Unfortunately, we often use A-D when our wife needs something from us. When your wif...

When it comes to ATTRACTING your wife to you, it’s more about who you ARE than what you DO. That’s why I could give you all the “right lines” to say, but it would still “not work” to win your wife back. She would (correctly) say: Don’t tell me. SHOW ME! There are 5 MAIN TRAITS that are ATTRACTIVE to your wife… And that make you feel AMAZING as a man. And, they’re based on the Biblical traits that...

What does it take to make a marriage work? Really just 3 things. Trust. Communication. And Intimacy. You need to diagnose which of these is broken… And then figure out how to repair it. You’ll learn tips to repair broken trust, poor communication and low intimacy in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you want to learn EXACTLY how to rebuild trust (even after infidelity), have...

Your wife is telling you she doesn’t love you anymore. What does that mean? She doesn’t want to share a life with you. She’s not sexually attracted to you. She doesn’t feel safe with you. In response, you’re trying to prove to her that she SHOULD love you… Which ALWAYS backfires. Learn how to start to REGAIN that love in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achiev...

These days it’s popular to say “I’m working on myself.” Your wife might even be saying “You need to work on yourself.” But what does that even mean? To me, it’s about building up your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. It’s also about building up your communication skills so you know how to get to win-win with your wife (and others). And, with your wife, learning how to cr...

“Don’t tell me, SHOW me!” This is what your wife says when you tell her that you are going to change. Most men go about this the wrong way. They try to show their wife they are changing by doing more dishes, buying more gifts, or sending lots of text messages saying they’re sorry. NONE OF THESE WORK. Because they’re not addressing the CORE issues that drove your wife away. Learn what those core is...

A member of The Strong Man System recently asked what to do when your wife ignores your text messages. It is VERY difficult when this happens. But, it's also an OPPORTUNITY. Your response will show your TRUE COLORS as a man and a husband. Will you respond with ANGER? With DESPERATION? This will show her that she is RIGHT in creating more distance from you. That you are emotionally IMMATURE an...

As a man, you think about sex a lot. But, the WAY you’re thinking about it is causing problems. Often men think that they can “earn” sex from their wife. They try to earn sex “helping out” around the house. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids. They try to earn sex by doing the love languages. Spending time with her, saying nice things to her, buying her gifts. Basically, they try to create a so...

You’re a high achieving man who is used to success in his life. But now, your marriage is on the brink of failure. Infidelity. Separation. Faith crisis. “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Divorce talks or filing. Your wife’s interest in another man. You want to FIX this and WIN HER BACK! Unfortunately, this “get after it” approach...  That has worked so well in many areas of your life… Doe...

As high achieving men, we’re used to fixing problems. And we’re good at it. So, when our wife comes to us to talk about a problem, we naturally want to try and fix it. Unfortunately, this often backfires. She feels like we don’t really understand her. And we’re frustrated because she doesn’t want to hear our (expert) advice. Today you’ll learn what to do INSTEAD of trying to fix her problem. So th...

In the book "The Noble Art of Seducing Women" by Kezia Noble, she identifies 3 types of men. The nice guy. The bad boy. And the good man. For us, we'll call the third the Strong Man. These same guys show up in marriages. The nice guy puts his wife above himself in ALL ways, hoping that someday she will return the favor with attention, appreciation and affection (sex). The nice guy g...

Women typically want two things in a marriage: security and romance. Being an emotionally safe person provides security. It lets her know that you value her. That you will be there for her. That she matters to you. Learn how to provide this emotional safety and sense of security in today’s episode. Also, see why you can’t wait for your spouse to be perfectly “emotionally safe” before you bring up...

Right now you’re worried about the future of your marriage. Will you get divorced? Will you get separated? Will your wife have another affair? You think your life will basically be over if these things happen. And that makes you try to STOP these things from happening… using EXTREME measures. Changing yourself. Doing the 5 love languages. Spying on her.  However, these actions are motivated by FEA...

When your wife says she “needs space,” what does that actually mean? It means she needs space from your NEGATIVE and UNATTRACTIVE thoughts and behaviors. Learn the top 3 negative things she needs space from… And how to CHANGE them… In this episode. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary -DO NOT use the “no contact” rule, as this will create MORE distance between you and your wife -Be friendly and cordia...

You want to show your wife you’re changing. But you’re going about it all wrong. It’s not about maximizing the good and minimizing the bad. It’s not about making the “pros” outweigh the “cons.” It’s about DIAGNOSING your problems and TREATING them. It’s about being BRUTALLY HONEST about your shortcomings to yourself and your wife. ONLY then can she start to trust you… And have ANY belief or hope t...

Women want two things in a marriage. Security and romance. If you’re hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” she’s missing one or both of these things. Learn how to provide BOTH security AND romance in this episode. So you and your wife can both feel “in love” with each other again. Watch on YouTube here.   Summary: -Security is provided by having a strong sense of self, being a man of...