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What does it mean to “be a man?” Today, there’s more confusion than ever about this. There’s even a term, “toxic masculinity,” that makes it seem like it’s toxic to have male character traits. Fortunately, there is a perfect example of manhood that we can follow… Jesus. Learn how to use your God-given male gender and character traits to create the powerful life and intimate marriage that you want...

As you start to make positive changes in your life and marriage, it’s exciting. You feel better and your wife starts to build some hope. But then, a setback happens. You go back to old patterns. You break her trust. And now it seems that all is lost. But, there’s a way out of this. And actually, these setbacks can be used to create MORE connection with your wife. Learn how in today’s episode. List...

Do you feel like your marriage is unfair? That you’re doing so much, but not getting attention, appreciation or affection from your wife? Do other people seem to notice all the work you’re putting in, but your wife doesn’t? If you’re thinking this way… You’re in the martyr mindset. And, you’re viewing your wife or your marriage as an affliction. As a thorn in your side. As arthritis that you have...

You want a better mental, emotional and sexual connection with your wife. You’re listening to podcasts, watching videos, reading books. And maybe you’re seeing some changes… but they’re not quite what you want. Or, they’re not happening as fast as you would want. That’s because you’re missing the two key drivers that accelerate improvement by AT LEAST 10x: Accountability and coaching. Learning wha...

You want your wife to love you more. You want to feel a powerful mental, emotional and sexual connection with your wife. But, there are some obstacles in the way of that connection. Some may be obvious, like an affair or pornography. Some might not be as obvious. Like neglecting your wife over time. Either way, these obstacles need to be removed. And, you may be working to remove them and feel goo...

My date night started off bad. But, I was able to use the skills that I’ve learned to turn it around. Learn how at the beginning of the episode. As part of our date night, we took a personality test. I found that I have a “powerful choleric” personality (and you probably have some of it too). This personality is driven, productive and gets a lot done. But, they are also prone to being proud and ju...

Do you feel like you’re doing everything you can to have a great marriage… But it’s just not happening? You’re making the changes your wife wants you to make, but she still doesn’t want to have sex with you? Or she isn’t forgiving you for your mistakes, isn’t willing to end a separation or divorce? You may be caught in what Stephen Karpman called “The Karpman Drama Triangle.” Learn how to step out...

What will make you happy in your marriage? If your wife has sex with you more? If she forgives you and comes back? If she stops the divorce? Most men think this way. That they will be happy when their wife does something different. But, what if she didn’t have to do anything for you to be truly happy? And what if your happiness is what led to her opening up to you and connecting with you emotional...

Would you like to know how to have loving relationships for the rest of your life? I recently realized that my main goal in life is to have loving relationships with God, myself, my wife, and each of my kids. If I can do that, then I will have lived a great life. I was reminded this week of a secret that can help me reach that goal. And that, in fact, puts that goal 100% within my reach. Learn the...

This week I got upset with my kids again for beating me in a game. This time, though, I took the time to really sit with my emotions and understand why this has been such a problem for me. What I uncovered was a deep issue with my identity. That identity was: I am the best. While this may seem like the kind of affirmation that would get you everything you want in life… For me it caused a lot of pr...

If you’ve been following along with the intimacy intensive series, you’ve learned that women are attracted to strength. So, you may be wanting to build your strength. But, that strength needs to be built on a solid foundation. If you want to build strength mainly so that you can save your marriage or have more sex with your wife… You are built on a sandy foundation. At its core, this reason is sti...

Last week I attended a writing workshop through Scribe .  It was an amazing experience, but one of the most meaningful parts was getting clear on who I can help best. In this episode, I describe clearly the type of person with the type of problem I feel especially able to help with. I call him John. John is a professionally successful Christian man who has a good marriage… except for the sex. But,...

Last week we learned about the common mistakes men make when trying to have more intimacy with their wife. The main problem is that these methods are NEEDY, WEAK and SELFISH. Women always have been and always will be attracted to… STRENGTH. In old times, physical or financial strength was enough. But, now that women can provide for themselves financially, they are looking for men who are strong in...

Over the next few weeks we’ll be doing a short “intimacy intensive” course. This will help you to start the new year with improved intimacy with your wife. Today we’re going to talk about the 3 problematic approaches that men take when they want more intimacy with their wife. -The Mosquito Method -The Pout Method -The “You Owe Me” Method All three of these are based on neediness and weakness, and...

I’ve been sick in bed with COVID all this week, so today I’m going to refer you to a different podcast. The Joe Rogan Experience - #1747 - Dr. Peter A McCullough   Dr. McCullough is a renowned physician and has testified in congress regarding COVID treatment. In this episode, you’ll hear Dr. McCullough’s concern about the glaring lack of treatment for COVID-19. You’ll also hear why he believes mas...

You’re probably setting some goals for the new year right now. But, before you do, listen to this episode. You may be setting goals for all the WRONG reasons… Which will SABOTAGE your success… Or make your success less sweet. Watch on YouTube here.   Dr. Mike P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $25...

It’s Christmas this week and a great time to get to know Jesus better. Over the past few months, I feel like I’ve finally started to understand Jesus better. Instead of trying to EARN my salvation and “try to be like Jesus,” I’ve started to focus on letting Him into my life. I feel more free, easy and abundant than I ever have. And that’s available to you too. Watch on YouTube here.   Dr. Mike P.S...

When I ran track in middle school, my coach told me… “Imagine there’s a big dog chasing you.” That DID motivate me to run faster (especially since I had been attacked by a dog a few years earlier). For high achieving men, the “dog” motivating them to “run faster” is often the feeling of not being good enough. They reach for higher and higher levels of financial and professional success, hoping to...

If you’re a human male, you’re going to get mad sometimes. But, how you handle that anger will have a BIG impact on how attractive you are to your wife...  And how you’re viewed by everyone else. Learn how to stop the “volcano method” (Acting like everything is fine and then exploding over something small) And the “coping method” (Escaping anger and other negative emotions with alcohol, drugs, por...

About 1 in 10 women suffer from depression. About 1 in 4 suffer from anxiety About 1 in 4 have been through sexual trauma. If your wife is suffering from depression, anxiety or PTSD, she’s not alone. And neither are you. Supporting a wife who is struggling with depression, anxiety or PTSD can be very difficult. Today I’ll share the most helpful tips that have helped me and my wife as she has dealt...

For some people, the holidays are a time of joy. For others, they are very difficult. If you’re struggling in your marriage, you may be separated from your wife or children. It can be easy to slip into sadness, anger and resentment… or into bad habits to try to get rid of these feelings. But, there is an antidote that can help. And that’s gratitude. And that’s not just “counting your blessings.” I...

Many of us try to avoid conflict. It’s uncomfortable to disagree with someone (to their face). But, KNOWING what is important to you… And STANDING UP for that… Even and ESPECIALLY when others disagree with you… Is what having a backbone is all about. In marriage, you need to have the backbone to stand up FOR your wife (by protecting her). You also need to have the backbone to stand up TO your wife...

Many men are sexually frustrated in their marriage. They tell their wife they want to have more sex, but she just doesn’t seem interested. She says that she doesn’t want to feel “pressured” or “obligated” to have sex. So, men will back off and not bring up sex at all, hoping it will relieve the pressure… While their own sexual frustration builds higher and higher. What’s the solution? As a husband...

Jesus said: “"I am the true vine...Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:1-5 In The Strong Man System, we are trying to build strength...

Men come to me in very difficult situations. They are in a separation or in the divorce process. Their wife has been unfaithful to them. They have been unfaithful to their wife and feel terrible about it. These are MAJOR issues and VERY difficult. They are the equivalent of being hit by an emotional bus. And when this happens, we ARE in a younger emotional state. In a way, we are babies. But how d...