Storytelling School

It's 2017, and I'm meeting with our TEDxSantaBarbara team, preparing to plan our next year's TEDx event. As we start discussing the hundreds of speaker applications we've received, it feels incredibly hard to narrow down our selections with so many wonderful candidates. That's when it hits me. What if we focus on the idea first and the person second? In other words, what if we identify the most im...

I'm on stage performing at Santa Barbara Improv. My scene partner and I are playing a game of He Said, She Said which goes like this: After every line of dialogue from one person, their scene partner will then narrate something physical for them to do. For instance, let's say that I say to my scene partner, "I'm so angry at you right now." My partner then narrates something like, "She said while j...

"Kymberlee, how are you always able to take questions and turn them into storytelling opportunities?" That's the question my client Claire asks me as we're getting her ready for a big keynote presentation. As I'm quickly thinking about how to answer her, I realize that I mostly do it unconsciously. Yet I know that's not really a helpful answer, so I replay in my mind the times I've recently turned...

It feels like I'm flying all the time while running my software company. Every month, I'm going somewhere to meet clients.  It's standard practice until, out of nowhere, I have my first anxiety attack. These attacks become serious and start happening randomly on different days at different times of the day. Weeks and months go by, and every single time I step on the plane, an attack triggers. Whil...

"What's the difference between the brands everyone talks about and the ones we can't remember?" That's the question that me and my colleague Glenn are pondering over coffee this week. He expresses surprise at the over $1 billion valuation of the brand Liquid Death. "They sell water in a can. It's just water," he tells me. Yet their success doesn't surprise me because they sell it in a cool can (wi...

I'm in prep mode, getting ready to host a standup comedy night. I ask myself:  "What's it going to take to move this event from good to unforgettable?  Sure people are coming to see comedians who they love and may have been following for years… What can we do to make this experience last and earn a permanent memory in every audience member's mind? What can we do to make this experience last and ea...

Whenever we do a new TEDx event, our first order of business is finding the theme to get everything flowing. It influences everything we do, from the set design to invited speakers and so much more. So as we come up with theme ideas for our Santa Barbara TEDx event in 2019, nothing is really clicking.  We try phrases, single words, even full sentences and they all fall short. The theme candidates...

As a kid growing up, I get to spend time with two families. On one side is my mom and stepdad, and on the other is my dad and stepmom. Being the only child in both families, I spend holidays at one house and then the other. Trick or treating on Halloween with one family earlier in the evening and the other later in the evening. I even have two different celebrations on my birthday. Everything is s...

I'm ready to dazzle! I have on my heels, my dress, and my glitter as I enter the doors of Blaisdell Arena and make my way to my seat near the front row. I can feel my heart racing with anticipation.  Then, the lights go out. The fog on stage gets thicker. The familiar beat begins, and it's as if my heart starts to beat with it in unison. Suddenly, the backup singers take their places on the stage....

I'm on a Zoom call rehearsing with a group of speakers who are getting ready for an upcoming TEDx event. Yet something's off. After finishing her run, one speaker admits, "I don't really feel like I'm connected."  And that's when I realize something. She's scanning the room and not really seeing anyone. It's like she's talking into the void. So I say, "Try focusing on one person at a time, like yo...

I'm standing backstage with my dad in a room full of speakers who are getting ready to make their TEDx debuts. We've been working for over eight months for this moment, yet the nervous energy in the room is palpable.  So Greg, the event organizer, takes the microphone and gives a short, inspirational talk. Then he stops, walks over to my dad and hands him the microphone. Dad clears his throat and...

I'm at the Annoyance Theater in Chicago taking a week-long intensive Improv class. In the middle of a scene with my scene partner, I have this brilliant idea. So I start forcing the scene in the direction I have in mind. My partner follows along…and the whole scene ends up being pretty flat and predictable. After we're done, the instructor says, "Kymberlee, I have a note for you. Allow yourself to...

I'm in the final planning stages for Story to Standing Ovation, our annual live event, when my dad randomly stops by to drop something off. He comes toward my office, stops in the doorway, and says, "What the heck is that?" As he points at my sliding glass doors, I tell him, "This is my brain on sticky notes." What he's looking at is three days of our event broken down, sticky style.  These aren't...

One sentence from a stranger is all it took to ignite the biggest epiphany of my life.  I'll explain. I'm sitting in the audience at my first TED conference, enraptured by all the speakers when a guy comes on stage who I've never heard of before. He starts showing some of the most beautiful and haunting images I've ever seen. Then he says something offhand that gives me chills… Speaking of the imp...

I'm catching up with my Aunt Marie about everything that's happening in life. She asks me, "Do you have any performances or events coming up?" I do. Our annual three-day immersive speaker bootcamp is coming up at the end of February. For those three days, I get to be on stage helping people take their speaking to the next level. "I don't know how you do it," my aunt replies. "Growing up, you were...

It's 2016 and I'm putting on a high-stakes speaking and storytelling workshop. One of the attendees "Shawn" is the CEO of a tech company, and he's not buying the idea of using storytelling to raise money and land deals. I say to him, "Give me two days. But you've got to play all in. Are you in?"  Despite his skepticism that anything will drastically change for him, he reluctantly agrees.  When the...

It's 2015, and I've just started training in Improvisational comedy. Every Wednesday night, I attend Alan Irwin's Improv classes at Santa Barbara Improv. Weeks turn into months, and my fondness for Improv grows into an addiction. I want to learn more, absorb more, and grow faster!  So I start keeping a notebook of all the games we play and capturing all the critical class lessons and sound bites....

I'm at the main TEDx event, sitting in the theater next to a lady who's captured my attention. Her name is Carrie, and she's impeccably dressed. I can't help but fixate on her outfit! So as I'm chatting with her, I compliment her on her dress. She thanks me and says she's a designer who makes custom dresses for her clients based on their unique measurements. In addition to wanting to get a tape me...

I'm teaching an Improv class where everyone is doing an exercise called "Headlines". We're standing in a circle on stage, and one by one, we each share an outlandish headline we've made up on the spot. But there's a twist: each person has to start their headline with the last word from the previous person's headline. So, for example, if the prior person says, "Life found on planet Pluto" as their...

I'm working with a new client who is getting ready for a huge keynote speech. He tells me that he felt like his last speech completely fell flat and the audience felt disengaged. So I ask him: "Did you use storytelling in any way in your last speech?" "No, of course not," he responds. In his view, story wasn't appropriate for his last talk because it was very data-heavy. So I challenge him. "Since...

In a small village, a young shepherd boy is given the task of guarding the sheep. He's the type of boy who wants entertainment and perhaps even attention. So he suddenly cries out, "Wolf!" Hearing this, all the villagers come rushing to his aid. When they arrive, there's no wolf to be seen. So they get back to their daily lives. Then they hear the boy cry "Wolf!" again. The villagers run over and...

It's 1990. Five days after my moped accident with a cement truck, I wake up in my hospital room. The doctor comes in and says, "Kymberlee, you're going to have headaches for likely the rest of your life. You'll probably have trouble with balance too. You'll need plastic surgery on your face. And you may have lost your sense of taste and smell forever." I'm thinking, "How is this possible?" I can d...

I almost don't do it. Normally, a Storytelling School Podcast episode lasts around 30 minutes with a special guest (or myself) delivering mic drop moments and storytelling nuggets of pure gold. Yet, for the 100th episode, I do something special; I collect these moments and golden nuggets from the first 99 episodes and put them all together in a single show. The episode runs over an hour. Does anyo...

I'm sitting in the living room at eight years old when my mom walks in and says, "Kymberlee, I have a surprise." It's not a holiday or my birthday, so there's nothing particularly special about this night… yet. So what's the big surprise? "Tonight is going to be movie night."  Now there's one particular well-loved book I read over and over again and keep on the nightstand by my bed so I recall all...

I'm at a family gathering when a family friend remarks about the weather.  "It's cold outside."  Others agree. Someone chimes in about the wind.  Then someone else mentions that it hasn't rained in a while. Oof. I can't take it anymore. I have to step in. "Rain makes me think of snow. And snow makes me think of the time Dad decided it would be a brilliant idea to go out and tie an inner tube to th...