Storytelling School

It's my very first time at Comic-Con. I'm with my dear friend Denise, and it's her first time, too. The second we arrive in downtown San Diego, we're hit with a wave of everything - cosplayers everywhere, camera crews darting around, and volunteers all over the place. There are 135,000 people moving in every direction at once. It's buzzing, massive, and honestly thrilling! Since it's Day One, we f...

It's a Tuesday morning. I am sitting in front of my computer, matcha tea in hand, staring at my podcast dashboard. A little number in the top corner catches my eye. 200 episodes, 200! Part of me can't even believe it. I think back to those first recordings; I was so nervous, wondering if people would care about storytelling the way I do, yet week after week, I kept going. I didn't always know if I...

I am standing on a court in Santa Barbara, and it's my very first pickleball lesson. I arrived early and I'm already warmed up, focused and ready to do everything exactly right. In fact, even before booking this lesson, I researched every single coach in town. I landed on Richard Pastoria because he's the real deal: a professional coach for over 25 years, the resident pickleball pro at the Valley...

I'm on a Zoom call with one of my private clients. She is a powerhouse executive and is preparing for a TED-style keynote. Her ideas are solid, and her story is incredible; it's emotional, has high stakes and everything you would want in an opening story. And the rest of her Talk? That's epic as well. Plus, she's done the work and is ready to go.  We start rehearsing and everything… falls flat. He...

I'm working with my client on a TEDx Talk. In her opening story, she shares a vivid moment from her childhood: She is standing on a stranger's doorstep, completely nervous and uncertain if anyone is going to answer at all. It's a small detail yet it's emotionally powerful and completely gripping.  After the story, we go ahead and develop the rest of the Talk. And as a whole, her Talk is strong. It...

I am standing in the dojo, drenched in sweat. We're in the middle of a dynamic circle knife drill, and I'm surrounded by fellow black belts, each armed with metal training knives and ready to attack in a simulation of real-life danger - fast, chaotic, and unrelenting.  At first, I hold my own, fueled by adrenaline and a strong desire to prove that I can hang with the best. I move quickly, using fl...

I'm a freshman at the University of Hawaii, living the dream on a full-ride softball scholarship. One night during finals week, my roommate and I decide to take a break from studying and grab a bite to eat. On our way back to the dorms, riding our mopeds, the unthinkable happens and I get hit… by a cement truck.  I wake up five days later in the hospital with massive head injuries and indescribabl...

It's the early 2000s, and I get invited to speak in New York to a room full of tech heavyweights - people and thought leaders I dreamed of being in front of. I am determined to crush it, so I do what any overachiever would: I obsess.  I write, rewrite, and practice endlessly. No improvising. No mistakes. I even buy a stiff, serious outfit that doesn't feel like me but seems like something a "real"...

It's 2006. I am sitting in the audience at TED surrounded by visionaries, innovators, and thought leaders. The energy in the room is electric and everyone is buzzing with anticipation about who's going to take the stage next and what new insight we'll walk away with. When the next speaker, a Swedish professor specializing in global health and data, is introduced, I brace myself for a dry, academic...

I am coaching a speaker as she prepares for one of the biggest keynotes of her career. Her story is powerful, full of resilience and triumph. As she runs through her story, I am captivated... until it just... stops. She smiles, says thank you, and that's it. There is no call to action and no invitation. I deliver the news, gently: her ending isn't serving her or the audience. She pushes back becau...

I'm running a high-stakes speaking event and, as I always do, I have everyone share their name and something interesting that may not be on their bio. We go around, one by one, with people sharing surprising facts and fun stories. The energy is light and full of laughter. Until we get to the last person who says, "Hi. I'm Sandy Zabarsky, and I just got out of prison." The whole room goes silent, a...

It's the end of 2002 and I am fully immersed in the world of technology, running a bicoastal tech event. Over lunch with a new connection, we start unraveling a really wild idea - what if we were to build a software application using technology that has never been combined before? Just for fun, we scribble our ideas onto a napkin.  A few days later, something truly incredible happens. We get invit...

It's 2014. As the year draws to a close, all of my friends come up with their New Year's resolutions, ranging from dropping bad habits to losing weight. But while I create my list of resolutions on the eve of the new year, I realize it isn't going to work. Sure, I write them out every year with the best intentions in mind, but I forget some of them by February and even blow by others in January. A...

I'm in a high-stakes game throwing pitch after pitch after pitch for the University of Hawaii. I feel the ball roll off of my fingers in a perfect spin towards the catcher's mitt. Then, I notice a sharp, burning pain in my finger, glance down, and see that I've worn a hole all the way down to the bone! The coaches grab me and take me over to the athletic trainer. Wasting no time, they inject my fi...

I'm in my martial arts class where we're deep into advanced weapons training. On this day, our Grandmaster tells us that we're going to have a special guest instructor join us. I'm thinking, "I've got the basics down with my knife. I've practiced them and know the foundation, so is this really going to be that different?" Then Grandmaster Yarrow walks in and starts his workshop. Within minutes, he...

A few years ago, I'm coaching a speaker for her first big keynote. We rehearse endlessly, tweaking every word and gesture. On the day of the event, I'm sitting in the audience feeling a mix of pride and nervousness for her. She walks onto the stage confidently. Just as she starts her opening story, the microphone cuts out, and the room goes silent. All you can hear is the awkward shuffle of the te...

I'm on the East Coast about to speak at a corporate event filled with tech leaders of a very large company. As I'm backstage, the CEO comes up to me and says, "Remember Kymberlee, these are incredible people who are amazing at what they do, yet they aren't really bought into the idea of storytelling in the business environment." With that, I'm introduced and take the stage. After the applause dies...

It's the early 2000s, and I'm between sessions at the TEDx conference. As I go to grab a coffee, I notice this crowd forming nearby. Naturally curious, I wander over there to see what the fuss is about. In the middle of this crowd is a guy with a deck of cards doing a magic trick. But it's not just the trick itself that's amazing; it's the effect it's having on everyone around him. None of us can...

I'm helping my client Barbara get ready for one of the biggest Talks of her career. She's preparing to stand on stage in front of thousands of people (with even more watching live online).  She shares her draft with me. It's meticulous and packed with very specific, insightful information. Yet, there's no sense of urgency or consequence. It's just data, so I don't feel anything. I point this out t...

It's time for my first theatrical performance. I've memorized my lines and have been rehearsing relentlessly. I am ready to go.  As I'm standing backstage, I suddenly notice my leg is shaking. And then I feel sweat dripping down my back. Oh. And my breathing is really rapid. I think to myself, how can I possibly be this nervous? I've done all the work. I've prepared like crazy. I'm hitting all my...

It's the third night of a very intense survival training course with a Green Beret guy. I haven't slept or showered. I'm muddy and exhausted and just want to go home to Santa Barbara. I tell myself I just need to make it through one more night and this will all be behind me. When it's time to call it a night, I am given a choice: I can either sleep in my tent or in this lean-to I've built. The lea...

I'm coaching multiple speakers for an upcoming TEDx event. During the kickoff meeting with one particular speaker, I ask him, "Okay, what's your idea worth spreading?" He replies, "Kymberlee, that's easy. I'm going to talk about the 30-year fixed-rate mortgage."  I think, "Wait, what? If this is what you're focusing on for your TEDx Talk, we definitely need to make 30-year fixed-rate mortgages int...

I'm running a high-energy speaker training event, and everyone is buzzing with excitement as we stand in a circle, introducing ourselves. Each attendee shares their role and a fun fact. Among them is a CEO of a tech company who loves bagels, a marketing director obsessed with villas in Rome, and an entrepreneur who just secured his first round of funding.  The introductions continue, one after ano...

My husband and I are driving to the airport for a family reunion when we both get pings on our phones. There's a global outage. We check our tickets and plane reservations–they're all fine. We head to the airport, and everything seems okay. The airline confirms our flight is on time, so we're good to go. An hour later, we get a delay, yet they assure us everything will be fine. Another hour passes...

I'm working with a new client, Leonard, who is completely new to first-person true storytelling. He has lived through several unbelievable situations, and I know others need to hear his stories. So I challenge him to tell a story to open his next podcast. He responds: "I can't do that. My listenership will drop if I do." When I ask him why, he says, "No one's going to care about my story." Yet, wh...