Stop Shrinking, Start Living with Christina Aaliyah

0:00 intro 2:22 prioritisation 5:29 self-sabotage 6:57 good news 8:03 wealth 11:08 rejection 12:56 vulnerability 17:01 love

0:41 you can have a conversation with anyone 1:40 you live in the present moment 3:31 you’re a good mix of relatable and aspirational 5:20 right mix sense of humour and intelligence 7:03 strong sense of self 8:36 negativity is just as important as positivity 10:56 you’re comfortable being seen

0:00 intro 1:52 you have to work to get approval 2:57 low self esteem 4:38 are you trying to save them 8:18 what do boundaries look like 11:50 boundaries are an act of self-respect

0:00 intro 1:41 social media 3:39 hyper individualist culture /hustle culture 8:24 Lack of third spaces 14:37 people are less open 8:24 lack of third spaces 16:06 neurodivergence

2:56 hating yourself became your safe space 5:26 you make up for your lack of beauty elsewhere 6:45 friendships 9:45 relationships 14:56 confidence

1:25 society places value on extroversion 3:49 you’re exhausted from pretending 7:38 lonely v alone 10:01 you thrive 1:1 and not in groups 13:00 feel like you’re in the outside looking in

0:00 intro 2:08 being your authentic self isn’t about adding, it’s about revealing 4:50 Suppressed emotions 9:37 journal prompts to help you be yourself 13:21 the authentic you doesn’t need approval

0:00 intro 2:17 self improvement creates excellence, but acceptance creates happiness 4:39 what is self acceptance? 7:53 forgiveness is your biggest barrier to self improvement (last chapter??) 13:47 pursuing perfection only makes you more insecure 16:18 elebrating yourself is a habit not an occasion

0:53 micro habit 1 2:41 micro habit 2 5:00 micro habit 3 7:31 micro habit 4 11:04 micro habit 5 13:48 micro habit 6 15:48 micro habit 7

0:00 intro 2:16 respect is long term, likability is short term 5:34 why respect matters more 10:52 deep relationships over superficial relationships 14:20 being liked = validation, being respected = confidence

0:00 intro 0:40 compliments 1:50 being nice 4:19 instagram 5:45 groups 7:02 saying no 9:58 being alone 11:18 unshakable confidence

0:00 intro 2:10 placing too much emphasis on being similar 6:53 self esteem 12:19 expectations 15:04 difficulty in reading social cues 17:58 fear of rejection

0:00 intro 2:51 hook up culture 4:21 men are wick of women + women are sick of men 9:00 we are motivated by fear, not by hope 13:06 we don’t date people we date avatars 16:12 unlimited options 20:27 attachment styles

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

0:00 intro 1:25 the chase 13:30 men don’t respond to words they respond to no contact 16:36 be his lover, not his mother 20:08 the nice girl is easily impressed, the dream girl is not 24:38 hold them accountable

0:00 intro 2:54 you’re not crazy for wanting to be attractive 7:58 the only thing worse than feeling ugly, is other people thinking that you’re ugly 9:17 avoidance behaviour 13:24 race 16:41 what do you hope to gain from not being ugly 21:46 Inherited attraction v earned attraction 26:22 your identity can be shaped by you or it can be shaped by everyone else 31:15 outro

00:00- intro 01:36 -you’re used to thinking and not feeling 05:03 - you feel like you have to hide who you are 09:37 - Work life comes before social life 13:00 - fuelled by curiosity, not entertainment 15:29- you’re used to being lonely 16:46 - you hate small talk

📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:15 how to stop overthinking 3:18 interview with einstein or Picasso 3:47 have you ever experienced racism 5:13 dealing with feelings of inadequacy 7:16 how do you make time for yourself 9:14 working as a doctor 10:10 posting on social media 12:19 dream vacation

0:00 intro 1:04 the recipe for a good conversation 4:03 give them a signal 5:43 make them feel interesting 7:47 find a common ground 9:44 bE yOuRsElf 11:52 how to deal with people talking over you  13:17   them liking you < < < you liking you

0:00 - intro 2:36 your childhood is everything 4:28 acceptance matters more than improvement 8:30 avoiding burnout 12:21 you deserve to be picky with friendships 14:24 you’ll never feel accomplished if you don’t celebrate yourself 16:44 you have way less control than you think 19:52 you don’t need advice 21:23 if you don’t listen you must feel 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZ...

0:00 -intro 2:25 -body language is everything 7:34- release expectations 11:24- start with a compliment 13:49- never take things personally they don’t know you 16:12- having mind blanks 20:35- leave the conversation when things are going well

📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 2:18 work is not only a distraction, but it’s also an addiction 5:38 work is your emotional outlet of choice 9:54 you often say no to yourself but you say yes to other people 13:20 working is a shield against opening up 16:04 the process matters more than the destination 22:01 stillness is your friend not your enemy 😌 meditations 13 min You are enough https://www.youtub...

0:00 intro 2:47 you don’t need to be more 7:03 embrace your quirks 9:56 act like you’re correct 11:37 don’t rely on people to believe you  13:28 create your own identity 16:07 say no more 18:25 master the deep convo 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/christinaaaliyah insta → https://instagram.com/chrstinna tiktok → https:/...

0:00 - intro 1:22 self acceptance over self improvement 4:11 attachment styles 8:21 your standards don’t matter but your self worth does 11:35 people aren’t as put together as you think 15:18 work on your confidence not on your looks 18:21 being interesting over being attractive 19:28 outro 💭 contact me video ideas → https://forms.gle/vYabZfXZvySN9xaA7 buy me a coffee → https://www.buymeacoffee.c...

you’re not boring, you’re just hiding your personality 📌 timestamps 0:00 - intro 1:47 having nothing to say = putting pressure on yourself 4:34 you’re not boring you’re just performing 10:19 do you even like the performative version of you? 14:00 stop hiding the thing you’re so afraid of 20:00 start journaling 21:53 not knowing what to say isn’t the problem 23:46 summary 💭 contact me video ideas...