Stop Over-drinking and Start Living

This special podcast BONUS series was from a recent challenge I held called the Wine Free Workweek Challenge.   My followers and listeners took a pledge to go wine free (alcohol free) during the workweek, 4 days, Monday-Thursday.   Everyday of that challenge I did a live Q+A style coaching call in a private Facebook group.   1,200 women signed up for the challenge. There was massive...

Do y’all do this? You get upset or something triggers you and then you might spin out a bit in your head and then tell someone else about it and then you say something like am I crazy for thinking this? I mean I should be upset about this right? This is just you looking for someone else to validate your feelings and thoughts. It’s not wrong or right to do this, by the way, I for sure do it too. Bu...

This week's episode I evaluate what IS fun with drinking AND what isn't fun.  If you really evaluate your whole relationship with alcohol you will see that it's actually not fun all of the time, in fact, I dare to say it's more NOT fun than fun.. right? Inside the episode I also explore what is super fun about NOT over-drinking and how you can have fun while you do this work.    Are...

This week's podcast episode is a recording of my most recent How to Feel Class. Grab your notebook and a coffee and settle in for a mastery level class on feelings.    Are you interested in joining my coaching program? Stop Over-drinking and Start Living is a 6-month, small-group, women-only coaching program, and it is changing lives! Get the details and apply today! https://www.angelama...

This episode I wanna talk about when you don’t feel like you.   I hear this from so many women. They tell me, they used to feel good, they used to do fun things and hobbies and exercise and go out and try new things.   Then they get into a habit of drinking wine and then before they even realize it they don’t feel like themselves.    They feel stuck in a rut, they just want to...

This week we are celebrating 90 episodes on the podcast!   We are very honored to have Corey Williams as our guest. Corey is a Racial Equity Educator and Coach.   I had her on the podcast, because 1st she’s amazing, and 2nd we have been geeking out together about feelings.   What Corey helps people do is to feel GOOD about learning and exploring as you become anti-racist.   She...

This week I’m sharing how you can retrain your brain to have new habits.   It comes down these 2 things-   1st - consistently and repeatedly interrupting the automatic cycle you are currently on.   Stopping, pausing, and feeling instead of drinking or eating.  Retraining your brain that instead of pouring a glass of wine, we pause, feel, and process.    Once you do th...

Why do I? I am going to help you always have an answer to this question. Why do I?… drink, overeat, spin out, yell, do things that I actually don’t want to do. Or NOT do. Why can’t I - Why don’t I? Same question. When your brain asks this question it’s important to answer it. If we don’t answer the questions we ask our selves, we don’t get resolution and it feels confusing and incomplete and human...

Do you feel like this year just keeps getting worse? You are not alone.2020 has been a cyclone of emotions for most people. I feel like our society is on the edge of total emotional collapse. We 'can't take much more.'Yet, I know we can. Because we are humans and we are built to endure and grow and evolve and shift and pivot through hardships. It's how everything we have now has been created. All...

Life is NOT certain. We just think thoughts that make us feel certain about the structures of our lives that we have put in place.  Such as having a job, our home, our health, our families. We think about all these things in the current and future tense as if they will never change. Generally, we don't live our lives thinking that we could die, we won't have work, or we could lose everything....

Tune in to hear a live class I taught this week about how to lose weight without dieting. Losing weight is less about what food you are eating and more to do with what you are thinking. You can lose weight easily. It doesn't have to be 'another thing' you take on in your life. You already eat and think about food, learning how to do it by using your inherent skills, and tuning into your body, is t...

In this week's episode, I talk about the WANT for alcohol. Also, called urge, desire, 'feel like it,' drive to drink. So many of my clients are worried about the urge/want/desire, they think they can't handle it. Tune into this episode where I dissect the desire/urge/want and separate it from the conflict in our minds. The want is a vibration in your body if you can truly be with this feeling you...

This episode is NOT me preaching how you are born with some gene that makes you over-drink. I actually DO NOT BELIEVE in 'the gene' or 'not having an off switch.'  But, what I do know to be TRUE, is that you are born with bravery, confidence, motivation, self-love, respect, drive, and acceptance. You aren't someone 'who isn't brave.'  You aren't someone 'who isn't motivated.' You aren't...

In this episode, I talk about HOW to explore new interests while you are cutting back on how much you are drinking.  For many of us, we haven't explored anything new so the idea of a new hobby or something to do in the evenings or weekends other than drinking can send us spinning in confusion. Don't be confused, tune in and I'll tell you exactly how to explore new interests that you will enjo...

I spend a lot of time coaching my clients on their relationships. Relationships with spouses, work relationships, kid relationships, ALL relationships. I’ve talked about relationships in past episodes but I thought I’d give you a quick overview of what relationships are, here again. Our relationship with another person is what we think about them. Our thoughts will determine if that relationship i...

This week I'm discussing how NOT hitting rock bottom could be worse. When we are stuck in a high-functioning pattern of living our lives, working, taking care of our families, we can let YEARS pass us by without making significant changes with our relationship with alcohol. This is very dangerous. Because on the outside, most people won't recognize you as being someone with a drinking problem, so...

This week's podcast I am sharing how I am processing grief as my grandmother's life is ending.  Grief is an emotion that you WANT to learn how to process and be with because if we numb or avoid it it will cause many more painful emotions and issues down the road. I believe that grief is evidence of LOVE and life and joy. When we grieve it's because we have lost something important to us. Grie...

I want to teach you how to understand and evaluate how you are making your decision to drink or not drink. For some of you, you have an idea that a 30, 60, or a 90-day break will help you reset your drinking habits. Dry January is very popular because of all the over-indulging y’all do during the holidays. You feel sick and bloated and you want to make some changes when the holidays are over. You...

When I ask women what is stopping them from moving forward with going all-in on stopping the over-drinking and committing to making permanent changes with their relationship with alcohol, they tell me all sorts of fear-inducing thoughts. Such as, 'I'm scared... that my life won't be fun.. I'm scared I'll fail.. I'm scared I won't know how.. I'm scared of what people will think of me.. I'm scared m...

This week I dive into the fear of feeling deprived when you are trying to cut back on how much you are drinking. Often we think we don't want to feel deprived before we go to a party or social event or Friday night, and we don't even try to drink less because we don't want to feel deprivation. In this episode, I examine the feeling of deprivation and how when you decide to drink/eat so you don't f...

In this episode, I explain our human preference in how we choose to live our lives. We all have the same preferences, seeking pleasure, avoiding pain, and saving energy. When we make decisions such as drinking or not drinking these preferences come into play. The more you can understand and see these preferences in your daily life the more power you can have to over-ride them. We make decisions ba...

Do you want to know what it's like inside my coaching program, Stop Over-drinking and Start Living? I invited my client Wendy on the podcast to give you a peek at what is possible inside my coaching program. Wendy is just 2.5 months in and has went from almost a daily wine drinking habit to having less than a bottle of wine a month AND has lost over 20 lbs. She shares that she has finally found he...

I want to explain to you the concepts or truths that changed my life FAST. My friend recently told me that I live in breakthroughs and I know that might not make sense to most people. But a breakthrough is when you recognize your own mental constructs and then you break through them to have new mental constructs that bring you closer to your goals. It really means that you are constantly up-leveli...

Relationships are one of our biggest 'triggers' to over-drinking. We get so worked up in our relationships that when we feel frustrated or annoyed or pissed we tend to drink at the end of the day to take the edge off those feelings. I coach women DAILY on relationships and help them see how they are thinking about their relationship that leads to them over-drinking. Work relationships, romantic re...

‘IT DOESN'T MATTER.' Have you had this thought before? It doesn’t matter? Maybe when you say you won’t drink during the week and it’s a Tuesday or maybe when you say you won’t eat after dinner.. 'it doesn’t matter.’ Or maybe you say you want to start exercising 3-4 days a week and it’s the day you planned to go for a run or walk outside and you passively think ‘it doesn’t matter.’ It’s those quick...