Stop Over-drinking and Start Living

How often have you thought 'I deserve it...' or 'I want to reward myself...' or 'I've worked so hard today... I should be able to have a glass...'You deserve WAY MORE than a glass of wine. You deserve to reach your goals. You deserve to live a happy, fulfilling, life. You deserve to honor your commitments to yourself. You deserve restful sleep. You deserve to feel good. Tune in to this week's epis...

Ruth applied to join my stop over-drinking and start living coaching program just over 6- months ago. In her application I knew she'd be a good fit for the program so I reached out to her to schedule a quick chat. She ignored me! Then I sent her another message and she came back with a LONG story about how she's scared and she things she would be boring and her friends will judge her and that it's...

We can’t make permanent changes with our relationship with alcohol or any relationship unless we get conscious of our current thoughts.   This is important because we are motivated to seek pleasure avoid pain and save energy.   This is our foundational basic human programming, it’s the motivational triad.   So, if we don’t know what we are thinking.. and how that plays into the moti...

When you want new results in your life like maybe to stop over-drinking or to lose some weight… You might have this ‘well, I haven’t really tried’ thought. And then you go on to think.. 'well, I'm still drinking too much on the weekends, I haven't been sticking to my food plan 100% of the time, sometimes I snack after dinner.. I'm not drinking enough water, I overeat on vacation a lot last week..'...

This week I'm excited to share the interview I did with Corinne Crabtree, host of the Losing 100lbs with Corinne podcast and creator of the No BS Weightloss program. Corinne shares how she got started to lose over 100lbs and the obstacles she had to overcome. We also discussed her relationship with alcohol and how that has changed over the years. Corinne, just like you, used to have a lot of belie...

This week I'm sharing all the details of my wild Alaskan adventure AND how I navigated fear. I also explore why you want to learn how to navigate fear so that you can do more in your life, like stop over-drinking. I am good at navigating and allowing fear in my life, but I didn't used to be. I learned how to be with fear and move forward anyway and it started with learning how to stop over-drinkin...

This week I'm diving into why taking meaningful breaks from work and in our day to day lives helps you feel better and drink less. When I look back in the first 6 months of 2021, I implemented many more breaks, meeting free days and more vacation time and I've had the most success in my business to date. How does this work? Tune in and I'll explain it to you. Basically, we are not meant to be prod...

Make sure you grab a notebook before listening to this episode! I'm taking you through a fun exercise that will help you see how you are spending your time versus how you WANT to be spending your time. When you do this exercise with me, you will immediately feel inspired to start to do more of what you want and it doesn't have to be hard or complicated. When you start doing things you actually wan...

Tune in this week and hear me explain why just doing Dry July or saying you won't drink during the week doesn't create permanent change with your relationship to alcohol. Understanding WHY you are over-drinking is critical to changing how much you drink. And if you skip this part you will find that all the little breaks and challenges you do will be temporary at best. If you are looking for real c...

I've been asked frequently how to cut back on drinking when your spouse/partner also over-drinks. Well, I brought in some experts in this area, my badass clients, who have successfully cut back in spite of their partner's drinking habits. We will uncover how they made cutting back work for them WHILE their spouses continued doing what they do with alcohol. I also share my own experience in working...

This week I discuss the impact of worrying about what other people think about us. If you have worried what other people might think about you not drinking or cutting back this is a must listen! I also discuss how we take on other people’s thoughts and it causes us to get defensive and can create more problems that can be avoided by letting them have their own thoughts and focusing on what we want...

This week's podcast is inspired by my recent trip to New York City and visiting the One World Trade Center and the sight of the 9/11 attacks. I hadn't been there since 2006, so it looked a lot different, it was gorgeous. It was very moving and I couldn't help but think about the human spirit and how it endures hardships and often comes out of hardships even better than before. That's what I saw in...

This week I'm discussing the process of taking a new route with your drinking patterns. We all know what it's like to learn something new. It takes time. It takes repetition. It takes making mistakes along the way. But when it comes to learning how to stop over-drinking.. we expect perfection.. we are hard on ourselves when we don't do it perfectly. This episode illustrates just how automatic the...

In this week's episode, I highlight how we have a tendency to 'fight for our problems.' Meaning, we like to say 'I can't stop.. I keep doing xxxxx... I'm never gonna figure this out..' As humans, we like to highlight our past patterns and fight for evidence that it's hard for us to change. But when we do this, we just keep convincing ourselves that we are right. And you will keep creating the exac...

I am digging in this week on what it means to bypass your feelings. What happens when you don't allow yourself to be sad [insert any emotion]? When you think you 'shouldn't' be sad.. and don't acknowledge that you ARE sad you are bypassing how you feel. This causes a disconnect and you become out of alignment with what is happening inside of you and who you are. And you notice that disconnect subt...

I used to think self-sabotage meant I was doing something wrong.. and I didn’t like thinking that about myself so I haven’t enjoyed using the term self-sabotage until now. I now think self-sabotage is actions I'm doing that aren’t helping me get the results I want. When I think about it this way I feel curious and open to figuring out why I’m doing things I really don't want to do. Being willing t...

Humans like to know what is going to happen. We like routine, structure and doing the same things.. because it's predictable, we know what to expect, and we don't have to constantly scan for danger. Because of this we might be feeling a little unsettled right now as the US starts to open back up and we have more social engagements, travel opportunities, or as we go back to work and being around mo...

It's hard to say no to other people sometimes, right? And WHY is that the case, especially for women? Well.. maybe it's because if you stood up and said NO you got in trouble when you were a kid. Maybe.. you have been told by family, society, work, -that you shouldn't be too loud, talk back, disagree... And if you have a hard time saying NO I want you to know that you can learn how. But it takes s...

I GET TO SAY NO. But listen.. just over 3 years ago, 'getting to say no' was not an option. I would have thought 'I can't say no,' or 'saying no isn't an option' or really.. NO was not even a consideration. It wouldn't even have crossed my mind that saying no easily could be a possibility. If I had been in one of the cycles of trying to cut back I might have thought 'I shouldn't have that drink..'...

This week's episode explores how you can end shaming yourself when you over-drink AND find compassion when you do. 'I'm gonna be easy on myself and not be too strict..so I'm gonna allow myself to have a drink.' This is not being nice to yourself or being easy on yourself. Being nice to yourself looks like checking in with yourself, asking yourself why you want a drink in the first place, slowing d...

This week I'm discussing what is a relationship and all the rules we have in all the different relationships we are in. Uncovering these rules we hold in our minds for the people we are in relationships with is critical to improving our relationships. Our relationships are a big part of our lives and learning how to improve or change one relationship can have a ripple effect in all the other relat...

This week's episode is a juicy one. I've been coaching a lot around Covid and all the issues we have with other people and their decisions on masking, not masking, getting vaccinated, not getting vaccinated, traveling vs not traveling, school or no school. This debates on this are about as hot as a presidential election. We get very attached to how people should be acting during this pandemic and...

Patriarchy, as I define it is a set of beliefs and systems where men hold more power and women have less. One small example of 'the patriarchy' is the beliefs that 'we' women shouldn't swear in so-called professional environments. I have received enough feedback on my swearing and how it's not 'professional' that I wanted to dive deeper into these sets of beliefs, that a lot of WOMEN have. Yes, wo...

This is a must-listen podcast episode as we approach the next season of the pandemic. We might be experiencing a range of emotions as things start to 'go back to normal.' And your brain is going to need to adjust, again, to change. You might find yourself worried, anxious, or scared even when at the same time you want to start doing more things. This is normal. Tune in to hear my list of 10 things...

Ha! This week is a FUN one. I describe how we get really worked up in our heads about our love for our favorite drinks and how this creates a very strong desire for the drink which often leads to over-drinking. I've coined this concept 'porning out.' Similar to fantasizing on how awesome sex would be we fantasize on how good that glass of wine will be. But if you really pay attention to this and l...