STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR SON

Send us Fan Mail If you are stuck worrying about a problem this is for you! listen up. You can also watch me here in my office recording this episode. Asking yourself these 2 questions and a bonus question that naturally appears after you answer the first 2 will help you tremendously! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Watch this episode on youtube! I was people pleasing my son, wait, no, i was lying to my son and here is what happened. If you are people pleasing others and they are STILL not happy then listen to this.  Stop pleasing them by telling then lies.  Start telling yourself the truth and start telling them the truth and take the responsibility to make them happy off of your shoulders. ...

Send us Fan Mail Watch this episode here! If you are suffering because of what other people are doing or not doing then this episode is for you.  You will learn what causes the suffering, you will listen to 3 examples of arbitrary rules that I had in my life that caused me some suffering and it will give you a chance to ask yourself about what arbitrary rules you are applying in your life.  Suppor...

Send us Fan Mail Yay, come watch this episode on youtube! Boredom and nothingness is a perfect ground to want things from. What you want matters a lot and you need to stop Doubting it and starting paying attention to it. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Come watch this episode here ! If you are feeling sorry for yourself and forgot why you ever wanted kids or be married or this job - do this exercise and change your mind and your feeling deliberately.  Remind yourself of all the reasons why you wanted it in the first place. This exercise was inspired by Abraham, from this book.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Yay, exciting news - you can now watch this podcast on youtube! 1. Walk 2. Do my make up and hair, dress in something cute and you feel pretty in. 3. Get coached/Vent to a friend/ coach/ paper. Vent and it will help you process your feelings and gain new perspective.  Write it all down, get it out of your head. 4. Clean your kitchen/living room 5. DO NOTHING FIRST.  do that first...

Send us Fan Mail What must they be thinking wearing long pants and being fully covered on a hot day! Absurd I can’t understand what they must be thinking. Dirty floors. Tight clothing when obese.  One sentence It’s fine.  There’s always one phrase, one sentence behind the thing. What is it? And if it’s always a sentence behind anything then it’s easy to change.  I don’t want to. >> I want to...

Send us Fan Mail Do not let perfectionism blind you from seeing that it actually worked. You actually did the thing, you made the turn or you are succeeding with the kids with the food, whatever it is. It made me laugh so hard to realize that I would’ve written it off as a total fail and my son pointed it out as a success, I turned and gained speed. So funny how our mind can play tricks on us.  Wh...

Send us Fan Mail If you are still friends with that person from 25 years ago and you ask yourself why everytime you see them and you dread seeing them this episode is for you.  I share one way of approaching relationships and how having this perspective can release any guilt you have if you want to never see them again.  This episode will have to ask questions about your relationships and whether...

Send us Fan Mail If you are ready to blow your brains out if you have to do another mundane, boring tasks then this episode is for you.   You can still do the task but with this change in mindset you will feel more focused, revived and may be even enjoy doing it.  You will learn three different mindsets and different feelings they produce.  You will learn that you always have a choice in what mind...

Send us Fan Mail Anticipating transitions,  Anticipating what you will need  Anticipating and taking great care of your future self as. JOB Socks in the mud room Order in night Allergy pills in the car Extra set of pants to avoid lack of clean clothes Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Here is an example of ONE way to generate compassion and understanding for yourself when you mess up.  If you can do this for yourself you will stop causing fights and you will also have more compassion for your son when he messes up. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Hi I'm Natalia Schneidmiller and I help boy moms have a better relationship with their sons and themselves by teaching them the tools to manage their mind so they can handle anything that comes up in life. Trust by example.  If I can trust myself to ___ then I can trust them to ___ . Support the show

Send us Fan Mail It takes 90 seconds to process any emotion. Here is the link to the article. Listen to the episode to find out how you can you this information to your advantage.  According to Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion and allow it to dissipate while you simply notice it. When you’re stressed, pausing ninety seconds and la...

Send us Fan Mail I find it hard to parent when I’m tired I can’t do it. But I must. The truth is you can do it and you do do it. But telling yourself you can’t creates resentment and frustration. How about you tell yourself the truth. I don’t want to do it but I definitely CAN do it. Do I have to? Well that is debeatiiable I thin I have to but the truth is I don’t .  When you tell yourself what’s...

Send us Fan Mail Pick a situation or 2 where you feel comfortable using this and ask yourself how would you say this to him if he was a grown up, who takes care of himself, whom you trust to make decisions for himself, who knows what’s best for him. Little  baby - trust that fi they are hungry they will eat. If not they will not.  Putting on a jacket for a 3,4, 5 year old. If they are cold they wi...

Send us Fan Mail Consistency prison. How to get joy back. Sure way to suck joy out of anything is to tell yourself you have to do it everyday. Dread, not enjoying what you are doing, wanting to do nothing.  You know you are in a consistency prison if you are afraid of what will happen if you Stop. If you stop playing tennis - you won’t work out. You will stop learning.  You don’t trust yourself to...

Send us Fan Mail If you have ever said these words this episode is for you.   This sneaky, shame generating statement is not a true reflection of all the things you do and the value of them. Listen to upgrade your mom thoughts and feel the appreciation for ALL that you do.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail This is what we all need to do every day and we need to learn how to do it privately.   We don't only need comfort when someone dies or something tragic happens.   We need comfort over small, insignificant things and we need it daily. But because it is not publicly acceptable to cry over every small thing, we can do it privately. And we don't necessarily need to cry ever...

Send us Fan Mail When someone says :  "You don’t do ____"  You translate it to "I want ___". Instead of getting defensive, feeling critisized, attacked and lashing out, arguing, defending yourself  - you can understand what the other person wants and connect with them, talk to them, give them what they want. You can think they are so cute because they actually love it and want...

Send us Fan Mail Stubbing your toe on the bed - information was missing - there is a bed right there and now you know it. You didn’t and now you do.  Painful but information was delivered. I had expectations of how a person would behave in a situation and the person behaved differently.  I felt painful, disappointing, upsetting, ,saddening.   I was missing information about that person .  I didn’t...

Send us Fan Mail This is for you if you are struggling managing family life and work life.   - You already have a full time job before you go back to work. -Do you have to work to support yourself?  -You are not only taking care of your 2 kids -you are taking care of 2 kids, yourself, your husband, your house, and any life circumstances like health concerns, renovations, birthday parties, future p...

Send us Fan Mail If your son has ever any feeling that he is really uncomortable feeling then this episode is for you.  I teach a technique that I use on myself and my son to help me in situations when some feelings feel unbearable.  You will learn the technique "name all the things" and i will also list other tools I use in similar situations to help myself or my son.   Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Listen in this episode to find out what is the driver of your actions and what you have to look for.  You will understand why you haven't taken the action that you want yet.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail If you are conflicted about what to do when you are tired and want to be there for your boy this episode is for you.  Being conflicted inside can cause fights outside with your son.  I want to help you avoid it.   Support the show